Girls, Im dating this girl that I'm really into for over 1 year and we're exclusive! But she doesn't want to commit - should I let go?

[Starbuck2244]

We've been dating for over a year and the time we spend together is amazing! She was in a relationship for over 12 years and still lives with her ex but it's also almost impossible to get an apartment in Berlin currently (been looking for over a year myself and haven't found anything adequate). When we see each other it's like the rest of the world doesn't exist - the sex is amazing, very deep talks and everything is just so sensual. But we only see each other for max. 6-7 hour's, once a week max. She hasn't slept at my place once and I haven't met and if her friends but she had met mine. We consistently communicate via text and have days where we just meet, go the movies or have dinner without the sexual component. She says she can't commit cause she currently just enjoys not having to put up with relationship issues and responsibilities. Right now, we're having a break because I brought up the things that have been bothering me (limited time, not sleeping at my place, non regular meet ups). Nonetheless, she always asks me who I'm going out with and where to. I honestly struggle to understand what's going on in her mind. I seriously like this girl and could imagine so much more and I've repeatedly told her, of she isn't interested than we'll just let it be and break up but she insisted on taking a break. I don't like to take relationship advice from friends and family and especially from guys cause most dudes are just idiots per se. Any advice from you ladies? I'm a very good looking guy (at least that's what I've been told), have a decent job and earn a shit ton of money. Should I just let go or is there any chance at all? I'm 33, she is 35 and tbh - i haven't felt this way about a girl since I was 16 years old. We had a discussion once where she cried because she thought she was stealing my time. I responded and told her that I'm the only person who decides of someone is stealing my time and that I'm fully committed to finding it out what this is.

[SueShe]

You earn "a shit ton of money" yet you are not willing to invest a small part of it for an apartment in Berlin. A quick search on the internet allows me to find tons of nice apartments ranging from EUR1,500 to EUR2,500. That kind of money should only make a small dent in your ton of money.

I don't think that finding a suitable apartment is the problem here.

After having been in a toxic relation for 10+ years, I do understand that this lady is a little cautious getting serious again. Furthermore, it seems that sex and fornication is a top priority for you and her. Getting laid does not really require to live together as you are basically only friends with benefits.

I would say that, given those circumstances, your best bet is to let her go and try to find a lady that wants more than just casual sex once a while. She is not ready to commit and make the same mistake over again.

[devilish-cutie]

Im sorry but i would let it go, can't force someone to be with you, if she is special you may leave her as an option but dont count too much on it and try to meet other women

also... still lives with her ex - major red flag

[Selene1600000]

She’s showing you exactly where she’s at she enjoys you, but she does not want a real relationship or the responsibility that comes with it. Living with her ex, limited time together, no sleepovers, and “keeping it light” are all signs she’s keeping you at a distance while still benefiting from the connection. If you want something deeper, this will keep hurting you so either accept this as casual, or walk away and make space for someone who can fully choose you.

[Anonymous]

You need to move on. All the signs say this isn't going to work.