Are you prone to get into intense or toxic relationships?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It was not toxic for me, but I only ever catch feelings with intense men, who cause intense emotional reactions from me.

For example, I am dating someone cute now and I don’t know where things might or might not go, but I am enjoying it for now, though I don’t have have feelings for him.

I, though, had feelings for that 45 year old man I had daily communication with for 3 months, we texted all the time and had the video calls, he was updating me about his daily life all the time and I was updating him about mine, it was sort of a tradition for me, he wanted to know all about me, any moment any time, he wanted to know everything, he was intense and even though he was chill, we were kind of addicted to each other, which is bad because a communication shouldn’t be addictive.

I got so addicted to him, and I think he was a bit addicted to our communication too.

I couldn’t go on with my day, without thinking of him.

I called random men his name, I was feeling infatuated.

That is because our communication was very emotional, intense, too common and it was too easy to catch feelings. We talked more than I did with anyone else other than my ex.

Looking back, I can totally imagine falling in love with him, had I not cut ties with him.

We were kind of lowkey obsessed with each other I think, I wonder why do I get attracted to such connections instead of chill laidback connection I have with my current date of one month.

[WhiteSteve]

I wouldn’t say toxic, but I think I often end up with women who run hot, haha. Both gals I’ve dated seriously (and in fairness, they were like 22 or less at the time) had/have a fiery streak.

I’m still with the second, fortunately she’s grown out of it, lmao, but we had some blow-ups in the early going when we were young and drunk😂 Both of them have a lot of emotional trauma from their childhoods, so I think it’s just from that.

It was a lot to handle though, haha, and I never started trouble, but I wouldn’t say I’m good at just walking away if provoked. And I don’t hit women, so I’ve put a lot of holes in walls and doors😅 I’m better off with a chill partner, lmao.

Other women…I’d say it varied. They were all a little more than a friend-with-benefits, but less than a girlfriend, and they were almost all in college, with an end in sight where they’d be leaving. We knew it was just temporary, so I think you just don’t get so fired up about things. A few girls were a bit of a handful when they got really drunk, but other than that, I don’t recall too many big fights. Too casual to get mad about stuff😝

[Finchie40]

Because you like guys’ that actually listen to you and care about you , that want to hear about your life and things that you enjoy doing , instead of being with a guy that only really cares about himself and doesn’t really listen to you or care about your personal life, That you really don’t have that much in common with. Chemistry and connection is important for a long lasting happy relationship, if you don’t have great chemistry and connection with someone , your relationship probably won’t last the long haul. Someone that actually cares about you and wants to hear from you and makes you there priority is a person you should consider being with.

[laly520]

relationships aren't supposed to be toxic
if its toxic then its only a harmful bond n isn't a real relationship

[LaurenM1997]

I don’t want to talk about it but yeah toxic

[LaurenM1997]

He was toxic and I had to deal with that

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the allure of intensity in relationships – it's like a high that's hard to come down from. It sounds like you're drawn to the fire, the emotional rollercoasters that leave your heart racing. That connection you described, the one that felt addictive, it's a classic case of lovebombing mixed with a dash of obsession, which can feel exhilarating but oh-so draining in the long run.

The fact that you're enjoying the company of someone more laid-back now is actually a good sign. It may not give you the same 'high,' but it's healthier. These calm connections often build a stronger, more sustainable bond over time. It's like choosing a steady flame over a wildfire.

Why the attraction to intensity, you ask? Well, it could be because these connections make us feel alive, wanted, and important. But remember, the best relationships are those that bring peace, growth, and happiness without the constant need for emotional adrenaline rushes.

So, treasure the calm, enjoy the moments, and who knows? You might find that under the laid-back surface lies a depth of connection you never knew you needed. Keep your heart open, but also keep it wise. Love should be an adventure, not an addiction.

[AviatorTom]

Not prone to, but I have been in a few toxic relationships. In hindsight, it was good they didn't last long, but fun while they did.

[NathanDavis]

nope... never had a toxic relationship, not even a problematic one

even in the one where she was a tad bit jealous in nature... she did manage to control all of that very well in short time, was I reassured that for me to have a best friend that was a woman, and also my ex from high-school, was not going to be any kind of problem at all... just as she was still best friends with her former boyfriend from high-school, lol

and she said I KNOW THAT NATHAN, but I get jealous anyway!! I can't help it!!

so I told her, she better helps it or else, we won't last... so she worked on it, and rather quicker than sooner, she was able to help it... it got a bit intense for a week or so, but then, that tension went away... very wonderful happy years followed next

[TommyMountainFigure]

Are you that different from everyone else in that respect? I don't think so. who doesn't crave intimacy? Maybe your selection process over who to be intimate with could be better?

[loveslongnails]

Not at all. I can sense one a mile away and avoid it like the plague.

[Krealot]

Sadly, when I was a wee lad, i was the toxic part in my relationships. Nowdays I dont get into them.

[worldscolide]

I was until I found my wife who is someone who is entirely different from any other woman I have ever met.

[CriticalCatDad]

Used to be. Which is why I’ve sworn off all women completely. 9 years mgtow

[MsBrie]

Since all but one of my dates didn't pan out I would say no.

[LiamJHayden]

I have gone on dates where she turned out to be what I would label "toxic" but I avoid relationships with such people.

[82lynx]

I heard that relationships that start under intense circumstances never work.

[msc545]

In the past, I certainly have been much to my profound regret. No more of that now.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I used to be. I swear at one point I felt like that's all I could find

[Anonymous]

No. I do not date crazy women. Therefore, no intense or toxic relationships.

[dustybiker2]

No. Obnoxious people repulse me.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He wasn’t obnoxious at all

[dustybiker2]

I answered the main Q line on the gag scroll list. I wasn't commenting on your description, which I couldn't see from there.

[IslaTheWitch]

not toxic, rather intense

[itsclearlynicholas]

Never had. Probably intense lol 😆

[Jennz6]

I avoid toxic relationships

[elaphe]

No, I do not. I like stable people.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

We were stable, too stable though. Too attached to our stability.

[eagle1951]

many years ago yes

[sheikalana]

Not really.