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I think my boyfriend has adhd. He keeps doing new stuff without finishing the other and gets distracted easily. Sometimes it is hard to maintain a conversation. While I am talking to him he cannot get his eyes off the stock exchanges. I hate it when he does that. He mostly thinking something else or looking at something else when I talk to him. How can I deal with him?
All I can say is that you are 48 years old. You should know by this point in your life what it is you are looking for. What works for you and what does not. If it is not working for you then, you should talk to him about it. But I must assume this guy is relatively the same age as you, so at 48 he is who he is. Like he made it this far into his life by dealing with his own issue in his own way. So, you got to respect that about him as well. So even though communication is key, you still cannot expect this guy to be making major changes to his life, character or personality for you. He was who he was when you met him. So, yes, he should be willing to improve on things for you, but it takes time and a lot of mental effort.
Where things get really messed up, is when the woman communicates with you as the man. You put out the effort... eventually you mention that there is this thing that she is doing that is kind of annoying you. How willing are you going to be to make those changes?
Because for me as a man if she is not asking me to make changes or "improvements" then I am not looking at her to go out of her way for me. Why, because she was who she was when we started dating. If now I am not who she feels I should be, then she needs to make that choice for herself. I am 48 years old, and I have led a pretty good life. What gets lost in these types of conversations, is all the great things they do for you. They do all these things that you like, but there is this one thing that really bothers you. Just do not lose sight of the good things about this person, and what they bring to the table. You have to accept the good with the bad.
u That is something that you cannot change. Has he ever taken meds for ADHD?
Tèt grounding him into reality. Ask him to takPerpetrator: currently 23 years old
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Is he on meds? Perhaps suggest he get on meds. My boyfriend has adhd as well but he's on meds and does not have the problems you described very much. In fact it's rare for me to catch him like that.
Navigating a relationship with an ADHD partner definitely requires its own unique dance steps! The key here is to sprinkle a little patience, mixed with a dash of understanding, into everyday interactions. Communication is your golden ticket. Sit down with him during a moment of calm (yes, those exist!) and lovingly express your feelings. Focus on using "I" statements to avoid making him feel attacked. Also, explore the idea of setting 'quality time' blocks, where both of you can disconnect from all distractions and just enjoy each other's presence. Remember, it's not about changing him but embracing his world a bit differently. Who knows, this new choreography might just add an exciting beat to your relationship dance! 💃💕
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Dealing with a partner who has ADHD can present unique challenges, but with understanding and adjustments, your relationship can thrive. Here are a few tips:
Educate Yourself: Learning about ADHD is crucial.
Communicate Clearly: People with ADHD often benefit from clear and direct communication. Try to be straightforward about your needs and feelings.
Establish Routines: Structure and regular routines can help manage ADHD symptoms.
Encourage Organization: Help your partner with organization strategies, like using planners, reminders, or apps designed for time management.
Be Patient: Impulsivity, distractibility, and forgetfulness are common in ADHD, which can be frustrating. Remember, these behaviors are not intentional.
Seek Support: Consider joining a support group or seeking counseling, either individually or as a couple. It can be helpful to talk to others who understand what you’re going through.
Focus on Strengths: ADHD comes with challenges, but also unique strengths such as creativity, enthusiasm, and the ability to think outside the box. Celebrate these positives.
Work on Strategies Together: Whether it's strategies for communication, organization, or time management, work together to find what best supports your partner.
He doesn't have adhd, he just doesn't find you interesting.
Encourage him to get therapy and meds. They really help.
Does he take ADHD medication? Take him to the doctor. The doctor will prescribe adderall or vyvanse.
If you feel like you have to DEAL WITH a partner with ADHD you should just not be with them.
Medication has done great things for my life and relationships. He should consider getting a diagnosis.
Stop worrying. He is simply trying to earn enough money on the stock market to satisfy you. You can't have it both ways.
He needs meds. Or get laser pointer and see if he chases it.
I think he’s just a jerk.
Get him diagnosed. I would start there.
Thats quite a pickle 🥒
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