How to deal with playboy boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend is great! except he knows a lot of girls, like really pretty ones and has hooked up with them too. him and his friends are the group of guys who always have girls at their apt and its driving me crazy. their is always a story with every girl that comes over. he either nailed her or his bff did or they did it together with her bff. its all a mess. idc that he has a lot of friends over and stuff I just wish they were less females that I know he has slept with around. how can I explain this to him without seeming jealous? or am I just being jealous and should relax about it?

[Lifesbeautiful]

Yes guys wanna have fun but out of respect for you he shouldn't be saying all of these things and having ex girls over. That would be awful for you. Maybe he just doesn't know that it affects you like it does and as you sad, best bet? Talk to him. I;m sure any girl would be jealous but it doesn't just do that I'm guessing. If you love him I am sure it hurts you emotionally as well. You should sit down and honestly tell him how it affects you. If it makes you jealous then just say so as well. There isn't anything wrong with being jealous. Everyone has faced it at some point. Its MUCH better to let them know and if they care they will stop and help you out more. I was SUPER jealous over a few girls my boyfriend had liked in the past. He didn't even have sexual relationships wiht them and I was jealous. Lol. I just sat him down and we talked. You need to let him know how it affects you, ask him to put himself in your shoes, and ask him why he feels the need to say things like that and have them over. Don't act all crazy, mad and demanding though. Just sincerely, sweetly and openly show him your heart and talk. If he cares, then he will help and fix things. If he doesn't then he is a douchebag that you shouldn't be with.

[vmw2008]

It's one thing to date a reformed player, quite another to date a current one. If he's still having girls over in this manner, and has the audacity to tell you about banging them, then he most certainly is still a player. Can you imagine how long your relationship would last if it was YOU who frequently had guys over, and you told him about how you nailed all of them? Please. He would've dumped you in a heartbeat.

[Asker]

well they aren't always coming over for just him. (he has 2 roommates) but they're always the same group of girls that think their hot sh!t and he use to hook up with. he says its cause their all friends now.

[vmw2008]

Honestly, it doesn't really matter. Even if they were just coming over for his friends, he never would've advertised the things he did with them prior to you. He'd be doing way more things to make you feel comfortable and secure, and spending less time over there in general to see you. And like I said before, if it were you in his position, even if these guys were "just friends" now, he probably would've dumped you by now.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Don't worry about not seeming jealous.you have every right to. You don't have to be fake and act like you're okay with him basically disrespecting you blatantly. You have to know he's still messing with these girls behind your Back, right? He is still a player, currently playing you. Don't be gullible and believe everything you are told.

[Asker]

well are together like all the time like every other day and then for days at a time. I don't know when he would have time to be seeing anyone else cause he is always texting me or calling or asking me what I am doing when we are not together. I don't think he is still hooking up with them. he just considers these girls when they come around his friends.

[takeitnow3]

dump him. I can understand if they are coming over to hang with his roommate but for him to talk about it in front of you isn't cool.

he isn't taking the relationship seriously.