My boyfriend plays video games every night how can I talk to him?

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He has started playing at night recently with his friends because that is the only time all of them can meet and do something, and I respect that. But he makes a lot of noise and doesn't realize it at all because of his headphones. My sleep is very light I wake up very easily, and I work in the morning so I have to wake up early. He sometimes asks me if he makes noise I say no because I don't want to take his fun away from him but it really disturbs me. How can I talk to him?

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

You need to be honest with him and say he's genuinely making a lot of noise. When I game, I'm extremely considerate and the only sound you'll hear is clicking and there's silent mouses for that too. When my ex was sleeping in my room, I've asked her if I was loud or it was hard to sleep in any way. And she said she didn't hear anything at all and that I was extremely quiet. I don't talk to people online in the night and find that to be highly inconsiderate when there are people trying to sleep. He needs to tell his friends "Sorry guys. The wifey is sleeping. Gotta keep it down. I can listen, but I'm not talking."

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

Relationships are give and take and finding balance. Taking the “gaming” out because it’s a little decisive with a slight stigma attatched and replace it with any other and the answer is compromise with a bit of a sanity check. Compromise because gaming is his thing and that’s fine but he has to respect you , your relationship needs and just be a better person. Selfishly disturbing your sleep all the time is just not acceptable. No compromise - no respect , no respect - no relationship.. simple

DishLady · Accepted Answer

This is hard (post-COVID) because the game has become a big part of their life... but try to set a time that is "your time" daily/weekly and then let him play with his buddies on the game.

He's asking you for feedback and you're lying to him... this is on you now. You have to be honest with your man... he's trying to be good and considerate to you and you're messing with that.

Have a sit down with him and tell him... you were trying not to hurt his feelings, etc. but then come clean with the fact that he IS making too much noise.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

I read and you're saying the opposite of what you want to say. Tell him the truth. You saying no backfired 😔
Go ahead and tell him to be a bit more quiet. He already went out of his way to ask, so he's a considerate boyfriend. He'll listen.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic gamer boyfriend scenario! Sounds like it's time for a little heart-to-heart, sprinkled with some sweet love and understanding. How about starting off by affirming how much you appreciate his passion for gaming and how glad you are that he has this time with his friends? Gotta warm up the atmosphere first, right? Then gently, like a feather landing on a pillow, bring up how the noise is turning your zzz's into a real series of sleepless sagas. Maybe suggest a love-infused compromise, like him trying out some silent cheers or moving the gaming station to a spot where his excitement won't turn into your sleepless nights. And remember, communication is key in love and war... and definitely when it comes to gaming noise! Keep it light, flirty, and full of understanding; who knows, maybe you'll find a solution that adds a new level of cool to your relationship. 🎮💤💕

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coachTanthony · Answer

What is the goal here? For him to stop playing or for you to actually get some sleep? Because if it's the louder then he needs to move his setup out of the bedroom.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Why are you dating a boy instead of a man?

blunty · Answer

Balancing relationship time with personal hobbies can sometimes be challenging, especially if one's hobby is time-consuming like video gaming. Here’s how you could approach this conversation with your boyfriend:

Pick a Relaxed Time: Try to talk when you’re both calm and not right when he's gaming or you're feeling frustrated.

Express Your Feelings: Use “I” statements to describe your feelings without making him feel defensive. For example, you could say, "I feel a bit left out when you play video games every night. I miss spending more quality time with you."

Acknowledge His Interests: Show that you understand and respect his love for gaming. You might say, "I know how much you enjoy playing video games..."

Suggest a Balance: Propose a way to balance gaming with relationship time. You could suggest specific days or times dedicated to doing things together. For instance, "Could we set aside a couple of evenings a week just for us? Maybe a movie night or a date night?"

Be Open to His Ideas: Encourage him to suggest alternatives or modifications to your plan.

Set Expectations: It’s important to be clear about what you both want from your time together. Whether it’s engaging in conversation, watching a show together, or going out, make sure you both know what to expect.

snowboarder720 · Answer

It’s honestly worse to just pretend that everything is fine. This is miscommunication and it can really lead into even bigger problems.

Just be honest with him and ask him to be mindful of you sleeping while he’s gaming.

I’m a gamer myself that’s emotional. I appreciate clear communication more than anything. I think he would like that too.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

First of all, don't lie to him, if he is too loud and you say no all its fine, nothing will change.

So step 1 tell him he is too loud for you too sleep, and you can find a solution, maybe moving the desk and pc somewhere else, further away

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

I just don't know about Even the obvious choice hhhhmmm I can play with myself or other guys playing with me, or I can get naked with a sexy and in bed with me iam sure you are well aware that I am just hard and you know that you have to be honest about yourself and you and I hopefully will get you to come (multiple times/ o. k guys it time to say goodbye and be in your dreams.

laly520 · Answer

u need to talk to him about it lying about not being bothered by it would only make it more complicated which already is what he is doing is irresponsible n harmful, it has to be sorted out

sheikalana · Answer

Well, you need to be honest and tell him that you didn't want to make a big deal out of it but it's actually starting to annoy you. I'm sure he'll understand.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Just tell him straight to the point, but do it gently. Don't be afraid to tell him, he's your partner after all.

Dongie · Answer

I'm sorry for saying this but he's one stupid kid. I don't know anything about you but if he's living with you and not hitting the sack when you do he's in need ot testosterone therapy or he likes boys.

DextroShade · Answer

You can start by being honest when he asks you if he's making noise, as he obviously cares enough to ask in the first place. You could have him go in another room if he wants to play past a certain time.

KrisKris81 · Answer

Tell him to move everything to another room and/or invest in sound proofing. You might also record what you hear so he has a better idea of how much noise he's making.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Easy. Tell him he IS making a lot of noise and can he be a bit quieter in future!

MemeSupreme · Answer

you could wear ear plugs if you don't wanna tell him lol

Unit1 · Answer

"He sometimes asks me if he makes noise I say no" There's your problem

boggboss · Answer

Stop lying tell him the truth be open and communicate with him

DrPepper12 · Answer

Tell him to download a decibel app so he can monitor himself in real time. Tell him it's disruptive and takes away from us time. Be direct.

CriticalCatDad · Answer

Maybe be honest with him? Do that it out in your own headphones or something

JacobJordan · Answer

You should have told him. If he asked it means he cares

Anonymous · Answer

You need to tell him the truth otherwise he won't know.  It's fair to let him play but he needs to be quiet and let you sleep.  Maybe let him loose at the weekend.

handsomelad70 · Answer

If you really want to be his girlfriend, perhaps you can have him teach you to play video games so you'll have a common hobby.

genericname85 · Answer

Well for one you could just stop lying to him...

Iron_Man · Answer

Tell him there are other things to do. You don’t need to play video games seven days a week.

FuqUFggt · Answer

Play video games with him. If you don't like what he likes why are you wasting his time?

Anonymous · Answer

Pour water on his gaming equipment when he isn’t looking.  And then ask him why he is faggy.

Nikki1989 · Answer

He is a child and not a man.

abc3643 · Answer

You can't. You are a "gamer widow".

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Stop lying and tell him that he wakes you up

jahaims · Answer

Just be honest with him.

DreamLife7 · Answer

He doesn't like you lol leave him alone

dustybiker2 · Answer

Duct tape?

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Bluntly

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Play with him.

tedbuoyy · Answer

Play with his dongle

Anonymous · Answer

Dude be honest...

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