How much does physical attraction contribute to choosing someone to date?

Question

On a scale on 1-10 how important is it that your potential partner to beautiful/handsome or sexuly attractive

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

A lot.

I have been going out with this man, I find very attractive:

He’s Tall, Broad Shouldered, spends 6 day a week in the gym, has bright blue eyes, blond hair and sweet full lips. He’s very cute. People on street stop to look at us.

On the other hand, I’ve had a thing with that handsome Italian Man, he’s 6 ft 4, sexy body, tanned skin, beautiful smile, curly hair, manly hands and just very attractive creature along with a very nice emotional connection we have developed,

I have more feelings for the Italian, but the Blond one is cute and he’s in the same city as I am, so…

And my ex was Asian, Broad shoulders, slim waist, A foot taller than me, sexy Yakuza eyes. You’d look at his eyes and get scared. He was a real looker! I loved standing next to him and all the girls being jealous of me. I was 100% all girls were envious.

Biancam13 · Accepted Answer

Looks are very important at first. At least all of my initial attraction to someone is based on looks and body language. So around an 8. Then, as I spend more time with the person, looks deprioritise down to a 4. With personality and compatibility becoming more important (6-7).

You can't date someone you're not physically attracted to. Dating is about sex AND friendship. That's why you need both components, both looks and personality. Looks get you in the door, and personality keeps you there.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

All I know about a girl when we first meet is her appearance.
I wouldn't date someone if I didn't find them physically attractive. So the importance of physical attraction is 10. But that doesn't mean that was looking for 10s on the popular scale of beauty.
Attractiveness is subjective and I have my personal tastes. I prefer a cute face and a certain kind of body. Mannerisms are also an important part of physical appearance. Lots of normal girls are super cute. In fact, I often don't find the ultra-gorgeous ones to be all that attractive.

But that being said, I wouldn't continue dating someone if I didn't like their personality and character. Those things override physical attraction.

RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

Not as much as an emotional attraction, connection. Yes the person needs to tick my ‘I’m interested box’, then she needs to start ticking the compatibility side of things, even if she scored 100% on all that, if there is no emotional connection things will not go any further.
Also what one person finds attractive another may not, it’s all subjective.
Small boobs, intelligence, sense of humour are all in the mix on attraction, add in short hair,

none of that though works if you can’t communicate and for me if there is not emotional connection there,

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to sprinkle a little bit of love and wisdom on your dating dilemmas. When it comes to the spicy topic of physical attraction in the dating world, let's admit it, our eyes are often the first to fall in love before our hearts catch up. So, on that scale of 1-10, I'd say most people hover around a 7 or 8. It's not the entire cake, but it sure is the icing that catches your eye in the bakery window. Remember, though, as a relationship matures, those looks start to compete with personality, compatibility, and those quirky little habits that either make you fall deeper in love or have you running for the hills. Keep the looks sparkly, but invest in the emotional connection - it's the secret ingredient to an everlasting dessert! 😉

Pinay_ako · Answer

If we’re talking about first impressions, looks will have to be 7. Then either build up or go down from there as we get to know each other… at the end of the day, looks will take a back seat once you get to know someone more and more. It’s either you like them or not.

AviatorTom · Answer

Attraction is very important. It's what initially causes two people to get together. As time goes on, other factors come into play, and attractiveness becomes less important.

Since the question asked for a number, I'd say attractiveness is an 8 initially, and then, over time, reduces to a 4.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It is a necessary but not sufficient condition.

Datboi65 · Answer

Probably the most important, but not for the reasons you think.

Physical attraction is the FIRST thing you notice about someone, especially if you don't know anything about them. If you're going to make take the first step, you need to find that person attractive. If you don't approach somebody, then there's no date to begin with.

Do they have to be drop-dead gorgeous? No. Just attractive enough to get your attention. People need to stop shaming others for rejecting those that they don't find attractive.

JustAGirll55 · Answer

I would say 2/10. Sure, when I was a teen, I would have a crush on handsome men. But, now, in my twenties, when I actually look for someone to date, looks come in last.

There are just so many much more important things. I tend to feel a more powerful attraction when I can talk to the guy about almost any philosophical topic and find that they are ready to dive into it with me. It is also important to me that the guy is smart, at least as smart as I am so we can be on the same wavelength in our thinking.

Plus, it is important to me that he is chivalrous and respects women in general and not just the ones he knows closely.

The most important trait of all though is that we have intersecting principles/values.

Those things are the most important to me to look for when dating. I mean looks are a plus, sure, but they amount to nothing when the above qualities do not exist. And those qualities themselves can make any man look handsome to me.

Elliegirl · Answer

It matters, but the more I learn about him and like him, the more physically attractive he becomes to me. So it’s good at the beginning to find him cute or handsome, but if he’s got a good personality that’s more important. Case in point, my college boyfriend was really cute at the beginning, but as we dated his personality wasn’t so great and now I don’t find him attractive at all. My husband is very cute, but his personality is great and I think he’s the most attractive handsome man ever!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, looks matter. It's a big deal. But handsome doesn't always translate to better. If the personality is lousy, if there are red flags, control, narcissism, flirting with other women, etc., no amount of good looks will salvage that. And I think I would feel uneasy around a really handsome guy. Like, Theo James handsome. A John Krasinski type would not be as intimidating and I wouldn't feel like other women were constantly trying to steal my date. Theo James = terrifying... John Krasinsky = Not too scary...

HawkPerception · Answer

My minimum line is about a 7. I want to be attracted to my partner and get turned on by them. There is a little wiggle room for that minimum line to lower based on how amazing their personality is. But if they're a super feminine and submissive girl that is always fun to be with and talk with, has the same views, interests, goals in life, communication style, sense of humor, way of thinking, etc. then they could be even a 5 and I might date them.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I actually do not know. I'm sure it varies from person to person and what they'd want their partner to look like. But a few tips for this: Have good hygiene, good skin care, and plenty of nice looking clothes (no, doesn't have to be fancy clothing. Nice casual clothing is just as good).

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It is very important but not everything. If I feel the guy isn't 100% into me I don't bother with him because what is the point? They will hang with you just until they find someone better.

mandyfire98 · Answer

How important is physical attraction to me? Pretty important lol. Now, what I find physically attractive might not be what others do. It's subjective. But I still have to have physical attraction to someone. It's part of it.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

I’d say a 6.5, as looks aren’t too important for me. As long as the person isn’t ugly to me, and isn’t overweight, I will grow to find them move attractive over time. My boyfriend has always been attractive to me though, even when we were friends. He only gets more attractive to me as time goes on.

laly520 · Answer

not much

I focus the most on their personality esp their actions

its whats gonna last, looks fade with time n I am a one who looks for a long lasting relationships so it suits me the best that way

however to my luck, my fiance is just my type

Anonymous · Answer

You don’t have to be a super model,

but you gotta be attractive enough for me to sleep with you.

il take a 5 or 6. I enjoy and actually like spending time with. That’s good for me.

over a 8-9. That’s gunna be nothing but problems.

if I don’t like who somebody is once I get to know them I don’t care how attractive they are it ain’t happening

RingOfFire · Answer

I have to give it a 10 because without that initial P O W it is unlikely that I would pursue getting to know someone beyond the friendship level in the first place.

That isn't to imply that looks and sexual attraction are the only thing I am interested in, but it is the starting point for the rest. It's the door that has to be opened first before I look around inside to see if I like the house.

tomboy2003 · Answer

I have to find him somewhat physically attractive in order for the relationship to work. I have to be able to name some things that I like about his appearance. Sharing the same values though, is the most important factor for me.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It’s about half and half, maybe a little less. It’s important that I be attracted to them physically, but it’s more important they have a compatible personality.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I always say in the beginning it is the most important thing. A 10, but when it comes time to stay with the person if times get bad or even good it is the least important thing!

A_Nihilist · Answer

Probably a 6.5 for me.

I couldn't date a 10 with a horrible personality.

But I couldn't date a 2 with the best personality in the world.

People wouldn't eat dog shit if it tasted like a 5 Star Lasagne. So why would you date someone who looked like Rocky Dennis?

I'm not shallow, I just have my preferences. If not being shallow means I'm forced to like what everyone else likes, then I'll keep my preferences as they are.

CriticalCatDad · Answer

Unfortunately it matters a lot. And unfortunately the more attractive they are the more of an entitlement complex they’re bound to have. So just remember that the next time you think a relationship is somehow a good thing

sheenagwapa · Answer

5 i wanna gwt to know the person first because just because a perdon is physically attractive that doesn't nean they are the ones i will really like

sheikalana · Answer

10. I need to be find you attractive to date you.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Maybe 20% of the initial attraction, but that soon fades to 10% or less once you get to know the person.

tzdc21 · Answer

I'll give it a 6.5 because I know looks fade and personality keeps you in the door, but you gotta be somewhat attracted to the person you're dating to make it work.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

For every human being with the gift of sight and their full faculties, it’s THE primary factor when choosing a potential mate.

DishLady · Answer

Attraction can be there but possibly it’s more “vibe” based than physical in some cases.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Looks get You in the door. Personality gets you in the bedroom.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Attraction is important but It's only a part of the equation. Someone who you initially find marginal in attractiveness can, over time, become very attractive to you.

So I wound sat a solid 5 as an answer to your question.

desidoll · Answer

I would say 7. You cannot just like their personality alone without admiring their look.

Unit1 · Answer

I love pretty girls. Half of the girls are pretty. There is no point dating unattractive ones.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

not much... I prefer sharp mind, witty humor and character

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

Its a deal breaker - we would have to be attracted to each other to progress past the friend stage. People who say otherwise are just virtue signaling

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Well I don't want to date someone I find unattractive. But I'm not sure where I'd put it in a priority list.

Meropatrick · Answer

Funny enough sometimes good looks lead people to avoid u

Babygirl_S · Answer

5/10 in my opinion. I give equal importance to a mental connection.

Anonymous · Answer

For me it's not a scale of 1-10. It is pass/fail. If they go over the "threshold", I start looking deeply into their personality.

Counterclocking · Answer

10. Looks matter regardless. There’s no attraction when there’s no physical attraction.

legalboxers · Answer

If her smile can melt me in.01 seconds she's a keeper

Dongie · Answer

A 7 is plenty with the sweet sensual personality; eyes and ass is kinda very important tho.

JHAYES317 · Answer

Maybe like a 6? It’s definitely a plus, but a good personality can overcome a lot

Anonymous · Answer

It's important in initial attraction, but her personality, character, attitudes and worldview are what keep me interested (or not).

Revolutioner_83 · Answer

i am selective so I haven't dated much. both inner and outer beauty is important

JoshMacDonald · Answer

Though I want good personality. Physical appearance is still an 8 out of 10.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

A 10. I won't waste my time going out with a woman I didn't find highly physically attractive to me.

YevBor · Answer

Wery important. Because people's still drived by instincts, and attractive look=good health=healthy offspring.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

I’d say an 8. Its an important factor but not the deciding factor

Princesspd · Answer

Physical attraction is 90% for me

Dinklex3 · Answer

10. 100% important.

Anonymous · Answer

I need to be attracted to the person i would say like a 7.

molonski2 · Answer

A great deal without doubt an 8 plus..

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

It's so important it's number 10 ♀️♀️♀️♀️

LiamJHayden · Answer

I only care that she is not obese.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

For me, 10.

jeremy_09 · Answer

7 or 8 I guess. It's 100% important.

handsomelad70 · Answer

A he**uva lot for me.

Wise4myage · Answer

I think its very important for most people.

Fuentes · Answer

I just have to like her

sage2021 · Answer

At least an 8

whistlingwh0res · Answer

It used to be 10 but now I feel like 2

Anonymous · Answer

10/10. Yes I'm shallow!

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