How to deal with this kind of boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend used to be expressive in the beginning while he was trying to persue me.. Like he used to give me a lot of compliments and say romantic lines of particular songs for me.. Now he has stopped that.. I compliment him a lot about his personality, about his looks, about everything but he doesn't give it back.. He rarely sends 'love u's' and 'miss u's' texts.. He has showed his poems he wrote for his ex.. Being confronted about those things he says he is not so expressive.. I feel he isn't that much into me.. how to understand him? is he being real?

[KingOfMe1]

His standard has dropped. Your relationship is the least of his problems. No offense.

[Asker]

Should I leave then?

[KingOfMe1]

He doesn't do it because he isn't trained to be that way. You can train yourself to be someone you currently aren't. You have to want to change though and you can't be delusional. He clearly is delusional right now. He is doing he wrong things as if it is going to lead to something good. But like I said it is his conditioning. Now that the relationship isn't new he isn't in conscious mode anymore. He is in autopilot. That means now you're seeing his heart. The deep rooted conditioning. Just get him to buy in to altering it. If he refuses then leave or put up with it. Don't make him feel like an enemy though. Psychology that will make him want to not do it even if he wants to.

No one is fit fr every stage of life. The key is to adapt and change. I would never recommend leaving someone who wants to change. Because everyone needs to change anyway. The question is, who is willy to do the work.

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion

[Wise4myage]

He sounds like a lazy pos.