Would you 'learn' to tolerate or enjoy hugs from someone?

[Redwolf4821]

So TLDR we're friends who want to date but things are just complicate. Recently we've gone out more to hang out and he's admitted, he hates hugs like very much hates hugs, except he's learned to enjoy them from me. Now, this is news to me because he has almost always initiated the hugs and its a lot of them at this point. But would you learn to enjoy hugs if it was someone you cared about?

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11 d

I think people are misunderstanding my question, but definitely some interesting insight. He himself, purposely got use to hugs. He gives amazing hugs now. My question is for people who hate hugs, Would you learn to like them for someone you care about?

[molonski2]

I'm a serious hugger , probably because my family was not like that , and I saw it , and just went from there , very occasionally , I find someone go super tense when I hug them ( you know the feeling ) , its very off putting , because I love the feeling , I'm not talking sexual , I just mean the connection .

Of course they have to want to learn / tolerate , I think its just like public speaking , push though the zone and you will soon get offers from everywhere , and you'll soon tolerate , or hopefully even enjoy?

I just love it when someone comes up with open arms.

[Redwolf4821]

he's actually gotten very good with hugs, some of the best I've gotten at least with me. Says he still hates hugs from most people though. Its gotten cute because he'll sneak extra hugs in before we go our separate ways

[Awesomesauce2005]

I've never been touched by someone im not directly related to so im nervous when it comes to more than a firm handshake with strangers/freinds.

[Redwolf4821]

Truthfully, the first time he hugged me it was quick and looked like I stabbed him.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Lmao 🤣

[DishLady]

Typically a person WANTS to hug an SO organically (barring a neurological issue or something equally serious). So while he doesn’t enjoy hugs from all people, I wouldn’t consider hugging an SO “tolerating” but simply wanting to be closer to the one person rather than allowing everyone to be that physically close.

[LaurenM1997]

That would be a deal breaker for me like I love people giving me hugs

[dustybiker2]

It's like desensitization therapy. Taking something you dislike and exposing yourself to it slowly over time. Eventually you forget about it ever bothering you.

[Princess2552]

i like giving hugs to people it makes me happy and gives me a warm fuzzy feeling :)

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'm a hugger 🤗 and I couldn't date a woman who's not a hugger and likes that. Unless, she hugs tight and I'm like "my poor organs" ouch 🤕😳

[itsclearlynicholas]

There's being a hugger 🤗 and then there's just being manhandled even by a woman lol - I'm lean lol 😆

[Rafrenc]

I like hugs to smell the woman and kiss them
Light and feel up on there body if I can to let them know I like them and most of them hem know and like it as long as you know when to stop

[worldscolide]

I am not a hugger, not even a little. But I can't get enough of my wife's hugs.

[OddBeMe]

No, perhaps in my younger life I would allow that. Now I would not. Call cynicism narcissism, prob both. But fuck them.

[dustybiker2]

Spoken like a true closet hugger.

[OddBeMe]

@dustybiker2 Maybe it’s all I needed in life

[dustybiker2]

Simple thing to bring great joy.

[Goahead76]

Why would a hug bother anyone? I don't get you guys who have a thing about it.

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

No way I only recommend you having to tolerate anything that you are doing it because you are TOLERATING IT!

[CriticalCatDad]

I don't like being touched

[DrPepper12]

No. My body. I set my intimacy zone.

[Alessandra111295]

I love hugs especially people important to me.

[DreamLife7]

He just doesn't like you

[Cheerfull009]

Hugs to favorite is enjoying

[Anonymous]

Yes, because I love hugs and hugging.

[fordtruck]

I don’t hug

[Anonymous]

I don't get hugs