She doesn’t want to be with me cause I’m Arab/Muslim and that’s really hurt my feelings?

[Anonymous]

I was dating a girl and everything seemed so good, after 2 months I told her about my feelings towards her, suddenly she stopped talking to me and she said stop texting me because Im not interested! because of my religion and my nationality! However I’m not religious.. and that’s really hurt my feelings..

[RavVid]

Find it hard to understand her. She is dating you but when you tell her your feelings for her she bails.

I would take dating to be a process where you are finding out if there is long term relationship in it. Apparently she doesn't because she bails when you open that up. Presumably it has been for fun from her view.

Look be glad she hasn't wasted more of your time. She has known your religious background, natonality and race from the get go and presumably knew she wasn't interested in going that far in the relationship stakes without telling you.

So she was always was wasting your time. You could ask on what basis would she be willing to continue but I think you should stay away from her. Maybe with the Palestinian stuff she just thinks it would be cool and give her status to be dating you.

[Anonymous]

A lot of people don't want to be associated with the Muslim faith. Even if you are not practising it, you come from the culture and your family upholds it.

Islam is thought of as a dangerous religion that aims to conquer everything to move forward, to assimilate every individual. That's of course not true but that's how a lot of people (especially white folks) think of it. She might be imagining that to date you she must become muslim, and for a woman outside of the culture, that's fucking terrifying. Western women (I assume that's what she is) are given a lot of freedom and ambition, while Arab women are told to cover their hair, and share their husbands with other ladies. That's an unsettling way of life that she'll want to stray faaaaaar away from. It's not your fault, but it's the way the West and the East clash

[PreferNot2Say]

Thanks for making your racist comment. You made this comment ok.

It is actually true that muslims do want to conquer all and forcefully convert everyone to the ideology of Islam. Whether practicing or not, that evil is instilled in the younger generations. Islam is not the religion of peace and it never has been. Hell it's not even a religion.

I don't blame her in the slightest for ending it. She probably saw a red flag in something he said or did that may have seemed innocuous at the time. No matter her reason it was only two months. Build a bridge and get over it.

[Asker]

Islam is incredibly diverse and rich in its traditions and interpretations. It’s unfair to judge such a vast and intricate faith based on stereotypes. Like any religion, it’s shaped by cultural, historical, and individual differences. Many Muslims, including myself, live lives that don’t conform to rigid stereotypes. It’s crucial to have open conversations and understanding to break down misconceptions about Islam and foster mutual respect between cultures.

[Asker]

@prefernot2say I understand that you have strong opinions about Islam, but I respectfully disagree with your characterization of the faith. As a Muslim, I believe in promoting understanding and respect among people of different backgrounds and beliefs. Personally, I consider myself completely normal and open-minded. While I identify as Muslim, I don’t actively practice or pray. I enjoy partying and drinking on weekends, and I don’t expect my future wife to wear a hijab or adhere to strict religious practices. However, it’s true that there are individuals who identify as Muslim but misrepresent the true values of Islam, contributing to negative stereotypes. It’s important to recognize that these individuals do not represent the beliefs of all Muslims.

[_Maya_]

So wait a minute. You are dating and talking to a girl and everything is going well. Then one day she wakes up and realizes you are from a Muslim country? How does that happen? How does she not know from the dates that you are from a certain ethnic background. Perhaps you can shed some light on that one for me because it has got me perplexed. As for what to do... you can't do anything if her mind is made up. You cannot force someone to have feelings or accept you. That is the sad reality of the real world. People change their minds and decide they don't want to be with someone anymore. It happens. It is unfortunate. You move on the best you can.

[Asker]

She knows everything about me! We use to see each other almost everyday and we matched! But as soon as I told her my feelings towards her she said don’t text me again I’m not interested! It’s the worst feeling ever.. I can’t sleep, work or do anything I can’t stop thinking how tough that was on me, I cried like a babe.. she really hurt me so bad! And it’s really painful! I was shocked.. completely shocked!

[_Maya_]

I can imagine how upset you are. Unfortunately you can't make someone love or want to be with you if they don't. It would be a sham of a relationship because her heart would not truly be in it. Time heals these wounds and it is a painful thing to deal with.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your words and support I really need that rn

[Miristheiss]

That is life.

We aren't owed any other person's time, attention or a relationship with anyone.

You cannot make someone like you or have a relationship with you. Best to focus on moving on to some of the other 4 billion women on the planet. Don't focus on the one who isn't interested.

[TycheKairos]

She only saw you as a friend, and when you confessed your private feelings to her, she didn't want to. Why do you necessarily attribute this to your religion and race? If he were to be an enemy, he wouldn't even want to meet you in the first place. I think you still haven't figured out which girl you should or shouldn't step into.

[Jefftheduck]

It shouldn’t have made a difference im sorry you went through that she’s not worth it she’s a racist if she found you unappealing or unattractive she wouldn’t have dated you for months first she’s not a good person and you dodged a bullet

[strateguy632]

you fell for the trap. if it was real she would not start the relationship. asker just baiting you.

[Rhizomorph]

Oof, I’m sorry man. Thats unfortunate but you’re probably better off finding someone who can respect your culture. She’s prob heard bad things about how Arab/Muslim men usually treat their women in their culture and she said “No thanx”

[KostasKouvalis]

She's not obligated to like Arabs and Muslims in terms of dating. And she can't just force herself to be attracted to them. She has a right to be attracted and not attracted to whatever she wants. That's kind of important information that she should have been pryvied to from the begining

[RASPA13]

Exactly she should tell the guy from the beginning instead of wasting his time and playing with his feelings..

[KostasKouvalis]

@RASPA13 Yeah if it matters that much to her she should've asked about his background right away, instead of wasting his time

[HelpfulWoman]

i mean, she's an idiot if she waited 2 months of dating to then say it.
so you dodged a bullet full of some mental health degeneracy

[SoJust]

Are you from the Arab Race and Muslim? I understand that. What is your girlfriend's belief? If he doesn't accept you, you will know your own value. If you don't know your own value, you will always be oppressed, you don't need him, my friend, he made his own decision, you will follow your own path, you will move forward in this way.

[strateguy632]

impossible that can't be the reason if you were a couple for more than one day! just playing the racism card to bait people. ugh.

[patois]

You claim to be a Muslim and for some reason you're surprised women would be put off by that?

https://www.youtube.com/embed/EnVpnn16mvU

[Angelo75]

It hurts, but at least she was upfront about it.
Worse is if they're not upfront and later on when you're knee-deep in the relationship for years and then she can't "tolerate" anymore, and then she breaks up.

[Anonymous]

Brother, she toxic and heartless. Worry not for you lost merely a harpy, that you gave too much power over yourself. There's room for a much better girl.

[Opinion Owner]

Although on second thought, I am not sure how she could have phrased it in any less bad manner without making it sound like it's about nationality

[Jkgordon]

You men feel the need to control. I’ve come across this several times from people I know that dated them.


You are not the boss in a relationship or superior.

[handsomelad70]

It should hurt your feelings because she displayed bigotry towards your religion and ethnicity, although, however hurtful, it's her right not to date you because of your discrete differences from her.

[Benitomussoloni]

@handsomelad70 you are not right

[handsomelad70]

@Benitomussoloni But you can't force someone to date you.(I'm a black man; we're the least desired partners.)

[Benitomussoloni]

I thought you were an angry white man, man

[Benitomussoloni]

Don't be sad, my friend, but don't say you should come to Italy.

[In_Trance]

I don't see a question here

[goaded]

Sounds like she didn't think you were dating, just spending time together.

[Agape93]

If you're Muslim, you're religious.

And tough shit, people have preferences.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

That's not how that works... plenty of people are born into a Muslim family but aren't religious nor practicing. I agree, if that is the case, then they should no longer call themselves such but they usually do.

[Agape93]

If you're not a Muslim anymore, you can't call yourself a Muslim anymore than I can call myself catholic. It would be a lie. So if you call Muslim, you are religious, or you're lying.

[he-takes-a-part]

It's OK many feel the same. You can reverse marriage. And if you have earned more or have become millionaire it's time you are eligible for other soft religions.

[andreasderjuengere]

You had two months to show who you are.

Abort mission - move on.

[SotiCoto]

Good. Please see your hurt feelings through to their ultimate conclusion.

[msc545]

You got lucky enough to dodge a bullet. I understand you are hurt BUT it could have been a hell of a lot worse. Take care, and find a new girl.

[msc545]

Time and a new girl will quickly hear your hurt brother.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Muslim men treat women like 💩 so I think she did the right thing.

[Asker]

No you’re wrong you can’t say all the Muslim men treat women like shit..

[thisAppIsGarbage]

That sucks. You are better roff without her. Why don't you do what CNN says you do when they don't need your votes. Honor disappear her off a roof.

[RASPA13]

I’m so sorry for your hurt brother, just be strong and move on you will have a better girl I’m sure 💯!

[TommyMountainFigure]

Man. I'm sorry. That's rougher than a bear's arse!

[Asker]

Worst feeling ever, I don’t even wish my enemies to feel that pain that I felt brother…

[TommyMountainFigure]

How recent is it?

[Anonymous]

Where are you from?

[Anonymous]

Her religion?