She won’t date me because I have a child?

[Anonymous]

Met this gorgeous girl and have fallen for her big time. After a few weeks of dating I told her I have a child and just like that she dumped me. I think she is in the wrong and should give it a chance.

She explained that it’s not so much the child but the ex that comes attached to it and it’s just to much hassle. She is somebody that is career driven and does live quite a exciting life so I know she doesn’t want kids until a couple of more years. I just think it’s harsh and told her this. We got into a huge fight, And she replied it’s her choice that she managed to not get pregnant its not that difficult and that she wants somebody without baggage so they can do spontaneous things and put each other first.

A few of my friends agreed with her which annoyed me even more. So is she right or wrong? I am 31 and she is 28 by the way.

I agree with her I wouldn’t date anyone with kids

She is wrong, she should give you a chance

[MrHopper]

I dated women with kids, it's not a problem but it is a different life style. The kids will always come first and I wouldn't want to change that. But I think neither of you are right or wrong, it's the best outcome that she is honest that is not the life she wants... Is it shitty of her... Totally... But she is doing the right thing letting you know.

The women I dated I assume have had this happen before as every one has told me almost straight away they got kids

[OlderAndWiser]

This is not a matter of right or wrong. It is strictly a matter of individual choices and she has made her choice clearly known. Obviously, you don't like her choice, and I understand that. But how can you tell her, after just a few weeks of dating, that she has made the wrong choice for herself? Do you know, better than she does, what she needs in her life?

[Dinklex3]

I wouldn't either tbh, lol.
If I was head over heels then maybe, but preferably not.
If I was ready for kids I would've had them already.

[Hamsteroids]

Tbh I wouldn’t date a guy with a kid either. Not dealing with that drama. I don’t think she was wrong at all for doing that

[Yessir12]

Exactly! And he downvoted me lol

[Asker]

@Yessir12 I didn’t down vote you I haven’t given votes to anyone. You can tell if the asker has given a vote get it right.

[Yessir12]

But I can’t tell if an asker has downvoted me so I assumed it was you. So if not then fine. Maybe some other guy who can’t handle a woman having a choice.

[Asker]

@Yessir12 you can tell you get a notification if the asker gives you a vote.

[Yessir12]

Yes only if you upvote me. It doesn’t show who downvoted me.

[mattdzz]

Kids aren't freckles, they're a serious hassle and an emotional toll for people to accept someone elses kids with someone else...

[Yessir12]

I don’t date guys with kids either. It’s her choice

[Yessir12]

Downvoted by a guy who can’t handle a woman having a choice. I don’t have to date you!

[BestUserName100]

Like oh my gosh..

Rude I do thar..

[Iron_Man]

then you don't need her anyway