When does an age gap become an issue?

[Anonymous]

[sawno]

When people aren't on the same maturity level. I could aim to be an young girls first boyfriend, shower her with affection, compliments, and basically just manipulate her to fall in love with me. I know the tricks after all I am old and wise enough to see trough them, and what you can see trough you can use.

And that is the main issue I have with it and why I don't want to date that young, I'd feel like I am manipulating her purely by her lack of experience even if my intentions are pure. When she's in her mid 20's she will have enough experience to know how relationships work, what to look (out) for etc. But most importantly for me personally she will be on the same mental level and life stage as me. So she can truly level with me, we can build a future together, have things in common, etc.

So for me its all about the mental side of it when it comes to dating younger, you need to be on the same level of maturity. The other wise round where the girl is older it becomes more a physical thing at my age, its not like someone who is 40 is going to have the mental advantage over me since I am old enough to know better. But at that point fertility is an issue so it becomes a rush and a bad base to have children.

[MrExperienced]

When you let it become one. If two people are attracted to each other than that is their business and not anyone else’s.

[DaisyM23]

age difference becomes an issue when one person has JUST turned legal (aka someone under 21) or when you're in a position of authority to abuse/groom them (boss, family friend, financially in control) - i think you'll always get weird looks and opinions no matter the age difference but technically once you're past 21 it does become less morally dubious, even when you are at completely different stages of life - a 24 and a 38 year old have different experiences, a 35 year old and 80 year old etc

[At3mis24]

An age gap of 15 or more will be a turn-off for me.

[SixFootSexy]

Whenever someone is ungrateful and resentful towards their partner, it's the beginning of the end. The age gap doesn't really matter unless one partner or the other starts to believe it's an issue. Honesty is very important, within the relationship and with yourself.

If things are going well, you should be your partner's biggest cheerleader, think and talk about them positively 95% of the time and can't wait to jump their bones at every opportunity.

It's so simple, but so few put in the effort to cultivate the right mindset for a healthy relationship.

[HighValue]

If the older person has their own kids aged within 16 years of their mate it is bad in my opinion, but if they have no kids yet then it is okay if they are old enough to be their partner's parents age, but not old enough to be their grandparent's age. There still needs to be compatible morals, compatible long term life goals, and some interests in common too.

[JHNS98]

För me, it depends on your own age. for me (age 25) I'd never go more than five years either way. Although the acceptable gap probably rises with the age itself.

That being said, I don't like some of the gaps you hear from Hollywood.

[adventurous-1]

when you make it one. my wife is older than me by more than ten years and its never been a problem for us, and we have been together for fifty plus years. I wouldn't trade our years together for anything.

[PapaJedi]

Right. I don't mind being a provider, just have to find someone worthy of it. I still have ladies wanting to date me, perks of having a great career and background. All I want is to find the right one and start a family

[Ironic_Method]

Not sure yet. Younger women I've dated tend to be more immature, but my wife was 21 when we met and we meshed perfectly. Other girls we've dated around that age feel like they're 14 and it ends quickly.

[Siri137]

I don't think it ever does. Well, maybe if he or she is 16 and the other one is on his/her death bed dying from old age.

[exitseven]

I would say when you are old enough to be somebody's parent.

[LazerBean]

My guess is probably when the man being the sole provider stopped being the norm.

[DrPepper12]

Anything 16-21 needs assessment. Once 18 IDC if SO is 100

[LiamJHayden]

When friends and family members become involved.

[Anonymous]

It only becomes an issue if she's underage with a grown man, but if it's an underage boy and a grown woman I wouldn't see an issue, I'd say that boy is lucky to have an opportunity to do it with a much older woman, lucky boy.

[Abdulwahh]

Once either party is a minor according to country law.

[Kayi_Tribe]

In my opinion, the age of +/-10 and above is a problem for both parties.

[ThatRandomBoy]

If it comes an issue when it's with me 💀

[normalice]

Older > 5×e^(0.08×younger)

[Anonymous]

When it crosses the line of being illegal.

[JHNS98]

That's not about the gap itself though, just the age of the younger partner.

But yeah, you're right.

[driven159]

only an issue if you want it to be an issue

[noohair]

Over the age of consent, when one person dies.

[FuqUFggt]

6 years above 17. And nowhere else.