How big of an age gap is okay? And when do age gaps become inappropriate/creepy?

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

[Koneko911]

Not honestly sure. I never really payed attention to age gaps cause I didn't date. If I payed attention to others for the most part I thought 3 years was too much if it was high school kids. Like the freshmen dating seniors. Always thought that was weird I guess. But I think sometimes the age gap being bigger isn't always a problem. I think it depends on how the people act on when it gets creepy sometimes

[AmyHew1tt]

For me, until I'm in my late twenties, I find everything beyond four years way too much. Even later, I'll never be someone who dates 'older men.' Just the thought makes me feel revulsion.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

What about younger guys when you're in your thirties or forties?

[AmyHew1tt]

That's a bit easier to swallow. I probably still wouldn't prefer a guy who is like 20 years younger. But in general, I am used to attracting guys who are younger than me, so I think it would feel more comfortable. As long as they're reasonably mature.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

You're 19 now. How young are the guys you attract?

[AmyHew1tt]

As young as fourteen. I wouldn't date them, of course.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Do you get hit on by 14 year olds? Are you really short or something? Do they think you're younger than you are?

[AmyHew1tt]

Nope, I'm 5"4. I actually attract men who are way, way older than me, and way, way younger than me. I'd say I look my age. I don't mind the younger ones because they're harmless. But the old ones disgust me.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

I wonder what it is about you that makes the fourteen year olds decide to try their luck.

[AmyHew1tt]

They don't 'try their luck,' exactly, just give eyes, sometimes cat-call and stare. It's the really old ones that try their luck.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Is catcalling even a thing? I thought that was only in movies.

[AmyHew1tt]

So did I, until it happened to me, lol. No, it's actually still quite common unfortunately.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Is it just like the middle schoolers who catcall you?

Are you in college now?

[AmyHew1tt]

I'm not doing any schooling right now, actually, but yeah. Like my younger brother's friends are always getting little crushes.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

How old is your brother?

[AmyHew1tt]

He's 15.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

How smitten are his friends? Are they like constantly staring at you?

Are you like the main reason some of them come over?

[AmyHew1tt]

No, not really. I just get a heavy sense that they're attracted to me.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Because of how they act around you?

I don't ever remember perving on a friend's older sister. Maybe I missed out.

[AmyHew1tt]

Yeah. They can get a bit touchy too. Like not groping, but just leaning in close, playing around, etc.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Haha. Like, "Oops, sorry, I didn't mean to touch those. Here, let me hook that back up for you."

[AmyHew1tt]

Haha, kind of. It does make me a little uncomfortable though.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

You never like punched any of them?

[AmyHew1tt]

Of course not, they've never actively sexually touched me, and they're basically kids. If I tell them to move, they do.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Maybe one of them will ask you out in a couple years.

[AmyHew1tt]

Oh dear. . . lol. If they mature up, maybe XD

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

They're probably taller than you already.

[AmyHew1tt]

Yup. I can't say I like it. I would have preferred to be at least an inch taller.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Why? Are they intimidating with their size and strength and teenage horniness?

[AmyHew1tt]

No, I just don't like feeling short, lol. Most of them aren't thaaaat tall. Like 9"8 average, which, while taller than me, isn't huge.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

I was going to send you a message, but apparently I can't do that because I'm only level 1.

I wonder if they fight over you when you're not around.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

What's your age range?

[AmyHew1tt]

What do you mean?

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Like in terms of how young or old you would date. What's your maximum, what's your minimum?

[AmyHew1tt]

18 and 24, right now. It might broaden as I get older, but that's it for now.

[OlderAndWiser]

At 16, a 2 year age gap would be significant and 3 years would be creepy. At my age, a 10 year gap is not a big deal.

[DrPepper12]

No such thing among adults. 10 is especially not a big deal either.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Koneko911]

But but that means I was sorta a creep then when I met Mitchell... he was 16 and I was 19...🥺

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

@Koneko911 You showed him some things.

[Koneko911]

No no. I was very and I mean very inexperienced as in no experience. He had experience way before me

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

@Koneko911 So was he sort of unofficially the older one?

[Koneko911]

I guess so

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

@Koneko911 That's kinda hot no offense

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

@Koneko911 Was it awkward having a guy that much younger showing you the ropes?

[Koneko911]

Um I sorta feel bad talking about this on someone else's opinion. But I guess u can message me and I can answer there

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

@Koneko911 I'm a level one so I can't message you. But you can message me.

[DrPepper12]

They don't as long as it's safe, consensual and legal.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Wouldn't an 18 year old and a 60 year old be a little gross?

[DrPepper12]

Who am I to judge? If they are happy and have the confidence to give a big middle finger to conventional mores then good for them!

[BlondeQueen]

Age gaps are fine but, 25 & 45 together? No, Once both have passed the age of 30 it doesn't matter.