This is a Christian guy in his early 30s and he believes that it is better not to kiss before marriage. Isn't is so ridiculous? I don't know how to react? Have you ever experienced such a flirting or relationship process?
I think , it's absuletly normal for anyone to have their own boundaries and beliefs when it comes to relationships, including the idea of "no kissing before marriage." It's all about personal values, cultural backgrounds, religious beliefs, or simply personal preferences. Everyone's journey in relationships and their comfort levels with physical intimacy are unique.
If a guy believes in no kissing before marriage, it's crucial for him to communicate this clearly to his partner early on. It's all about finding someone who respects and shares (or at least understands and accepts) those boundaries. It might not be the norm for everyone, but if it works for him and he finds a partner who is okay with it, what can we say?
u I don't know how common it is, but no, it is not ridiculous. And there are a couple of reasons why.
First of all, quite simply, he may worry about what effect it will have on his sexual passions and how willing he will be to control them. Everyone is different. One man might be able to kiss his woman all day long and think nothing of it, whereas another may kiss her once and then feel stirred up. He either knows himself really well or simply doesn't want to take the risk. For a Christian man, that's not being prudish. It's being prudent.
And second, though obviously a different physical expression than sex, a kiss is still nevertheless an intimate and exclusive exchange. It's something special that you don't do with just anyone. He wants to reserve that for the woman he chooses to spend the rest of his life with. He wants to honor her with the knowledge that she is the only one he has ever kissed. She'll know he's not comparing her to anyone else. With that comes a sense of solemn and humbled pride and joy, as well as a reciprocal desire to honor him as well.
I think a man like that ought to be commended for respecting his future wife as such, and for his commitment and restraint. I know it doesn't make sense to most others and understand completely that it may seem ridiculous, but there are well-grounded reasons for it.
Normal or not, it really IS ridiculous when values outweigh reality. How on earth are you ever supposed to know if you are compatible unless you try each other out first?
That said? It's his/their lives, and they have to live by their own mistakes!
m it isn't ridiculous, its what he believes in n u gotta respect it
the fact u r talking about it in such way means u aren't great match n its clear that he isn't one for u n u aren't one for him, move on n get with a guy u would get along with n is compatible with, in other words save ur time
I dated a religious jew person, we communicated well n I was fully aware of whom im dealing with n what to expect from him, it went well n we r engaged now
bottom line, dont invest time n effort in dating a person u can't/ dont agree with their beliefs
Christians may call it something else.
But what it is I tell you is:
Boundaries.
Lol
It’s not looking good with you calling this a flirting process and choosing your own feelings for physical stuff over your actual partner or potential partner.
I think if you both have some disagreements like this WITH said BOUNDARIES involved, I think you should consider giving this a pass up. 🤷♀️
He’s just trying to remain true to himself and have some backbone. Not be like a reed in the wind. Don’t hurt the guy lol 😂
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Only from wense of avoiding temptation
Having sex before marriage is in the bible, no mention of kissing. Not much mention of kissing at all. Here's all of it
Luke 7:45chapter context similar meaning copy saveThou gavest me no kiss: but this woman since the time I came in hath not ceased to kiss my feet.
2 Corinthians 13:12chapter context similar meaning copy saveGreet one another with an holy kiss.
1 Thessalonians 5:26chapter context similar meaning copy saveGreet all the brethren with an holy kiss.
Proverbs 24:26chapter context similar meaning copy saveEvery man shall kiss his lips that giveth a right answer.
Luke 22:48chapter context similar meaning copy saveBut Jesus said unto him, Judas, betrayest thou the Son of man with a kiss?
Song of Solomon 1:2chapter context similar meaning copy saveLet him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.
Romans 16:16chapter context similar meaning copy saveSalute one another with an holy kiss. The churches of Christ salute you.
1 Corinthians 16:20chapter context similar meaning copy saveAll the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss.
Genesis 27:26chapter context similar meaning copy saveAnd his father Isaac said unto him, Come near now, and kiss me, my son.
1 Peter 5:14chapter context similar meaning copy saveGreet ye one another with a kiss of charity. Peace be with you all that are in Christ Jesus. Amen.
Genesis 31:28chapter context similar meaning copy saveAnd hast not suffered me to kiss my sons and my daughters? thou hast now done foolishly in so doing.
Matthew 26:48chapter context similar meaning copy saveNow he that betrayed him gave them a sign, saying, Whomsoever I shall kiss, that same is he: hold him fast.
Psalms 2:12chapter context similar meaning copy saveKiss the Son, lest he be angry, and ye perish from the way, when his wrath is kindled but a little. Blessed are all they that put their trust in him.
Luke 22:47chapter context similar meaning copy saveAnd while he yet spake, behold a multitude, and he that was called Judas, one of the twelve, went before them, and drew near unto Jesus to kiss him.
Song of Solomon 8:1chapter context similar meaning copy saveO that thou wert as my brother, that sucked the breasts of my mother! when I should find thee without, I would kiss thee; yea, I should not be despised.
Mark 14:44chapter context similar meaning copy saveAnd he that betrayed him had given them a token, saying, Whomsoever I shall kiss, that same is he; take him, and lead him away safely.
2 Samuel 20:9chapter context similar meaning copy saveAnd Joab said to Amasa, Art thou in health, my brother? And Joab took Amasa by the beard with the right hand to kiss him.
1 Kings 19:20chapter context similar meaning copy saveAnd he left the oxen, and ran after Elijah, and said, Let me, I pray thee, kiss my father and my mother, and then I will follow thee. And he said unto him, Go back again: for what have I done to thee?
Hosea 13:2chapter context similar meaning copy saveAnd now they sin more and more, and have made them molten images of their silver, and idols according to their own understanding, all of it the work of the craftsmen: they say of them, Let the men that sacrifice kiss the calves.
I wouldn't say it's normal but no sex before marriage is. Kissing often leads to making out which can easily lead to sex or sexual desires. A Peck on the cheek or lips though is obviously different but to each other own... there's nothing about that in the Bible tho
I would say even among Christians that is not normal but not unheard of. That takes an extra level of dedication than most have. I'm Christian and I want to wait for sex in marriage but I would definitely be willing to kiss before. I wouldn't judge him, I do think it's an extreme but not necessary a bad thing.
he has mono and he's lying to you. But i all actuality, yes. If kissing "tempts" him that much he must be quite pent up. and that's scary. and if he's never kissed anyone he probably hasn't had a lot of romantic stuff in the past, meaning he's inexperienced, meaning he probably doesn't know what he wants in a chick. And yes, it is weird. Kissing isn't even sexual or necessarily romantic, I've kissed friends before. Genuinely, who saves KISSING till marriage?
If a girl felt like this it would be too fanatical to interest me. I don't like the word "ridiculous" to describe it because that is disrespectful. They are entitled to their beliefs, and to be respected, whether you hold that same belief or not, but that doesn't mean you have to be interested in dating them.
In my personal humble opinion I would question it a little.
I wouldn't risk marriage not knowing how we are also physically compatible. It starts with a touch and kisses. You can see if you like it if you like him doing it, and if you both can align and compromise if something doesn't work.
Everyone has their boundaries; you wouldn't believe some of the insane lines I've heard people draw. But, you're right. That one is a bit odd.
I think he want things to be done in an orderly way and want to take things in official step by step manner.
I think no kissing might be a bit overboard. But he's entitled to his belief. The way women are today I think it'd be very hard to find a woman who would be ok with remaining a virgin till marriage. I think trying g find one who's never kissed would be virtually impossible.
No, that's not normal at all. That "Christian guy" is weird, there's definitely something wrong with him. Avoid.
It is not normal, but there's nothing wrong with it. If you don't have the same values as him, then just move on.
He obviously needs locking up and receive therapy.
In this century - I' m sure- the term "normal" is not longer what it was once.
The present example here perhaps is a case of...
"trans- normal"?
Sounds ridiculous to me kinda sounds like more of a Duggar cult like situation than a religion, but that’s just me.
"normal".
I'd not use that word. I'd choose common vs. uncommon
It is not common.
Its utterly utterly BEYOND ridiculous , can't believe some of these Churchies..
It's common among the more um strict portions of Christianity.
It's what he believes. Don't try to cross his boundaries. Respect him, if you can't then you weren't meant for each other.
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