Is it ok for a 'married' guy to flirt? And if so, when does it cross 'the line', if there is a line?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Flirting is already crossing the line , if he truly loved his partner or wife , he wouldn’t be flirting period , He is flirting because something is missing in his current relationship with his wife. That he should try fixing what is broken with his wife , instead he is seeking it elsewhere , All flirting is doing , is opening doors to bring unwanted fire into his current relationship with his partner , even though he assumes it’s innocent , it isn’t innocent to his wife , if she found out what he has been doing behind her back, I am sure she wouldn’t be happy about it , the same goes if he found out his wife was doing that to him behind his back So flirting is not innocent period , It shows a lack of love and respect for the relationship he chose to be in with her , if he is not happy in his relationship he needs to end that relationship with his wife and let her go , because he is clearly being selfish , by stringing her along for his benefit. He truly doesn’t love his wife , he only loves what he can receive from her , he can pretty much have that relationship all by himself. Sadly he is only hurting himself , by keeping secrets and lies from his wife. People that flirt that are in committed relationships, shouldn’t be in a relationship period , because they only truly care about themselves and only love themselves , they don’t know how to give the same way they want to receive , they always think they are right and never wrong. Love only comes when 2 people remove selfishness for each other and make each other their top priority , it will never be perfect because we are all imperfect people but Love doesn’t come from treating your partner like an option , or a convenience. If he truly loved his wife , he wouldn’t be flirting with other girls’ period , He would make his wife his top priority over everyone else in this world. Sadly he will never experience true love until he learns how to remove selfishness for his partner the same way he wants his partner to do for him. He has a choice , he can either try to save his marriage with his wife and focus on her or he can keep continuing what he is doing and eventually cheat on her with someone else , thinking that someone else is going to save him , if he chooses to cheat , and run to someone else , he will still suffer consequences to his actions he will never experience true love , until he learns to remove selfishness for his partner whoever that may be. People that jump into relationships one after another , are selfish people that only think about themselves , they don’t know how to give the same way they want to receive, it’s their way or no way , this will continue until they learn how to remove selfishness. We all have selfishness inside of ourselves , we can all easily choose selfishness over our partner, , so don’t be surprised when your partner chooses selfishness over you when you choose not to make her your priority , We don’t get into relationships to be single , if you want to be single , stay single , don’t fuck with someone else's heart , it will just be a matter of time before your heart gets shit on by you choosing selfishness over your partner. We can only give what we want to receive from someone , but you won’t receive unless you give back to them the same. Remember those words

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

There are two kinds of flirting...

1. Flirting for the sake of fun

2. Flirting with the intent of doing more

There is nothing wrong with #1, it spices up life, whether a person is in a relationship or not. If a person is in a relationship, #2 is a no-no, disrespectful of themselves, their partner and the their relationship.

_Maya_ · Accepted Answer

Of course it isn't okay. That is emotional cheating. Just because nothing physical happens doesn't mean a person isn't cheating. What would be the point of flirting with someone if there was no intention to get something out of it either? There wouldn't be. That would be an instant breakup with me personally if someone is willfully flirting. Also what signal does that send to the person that he is flirting with? They might believe that they want something more and act on it. You can see how this would spiral out of control quite easily if you really think about it. The "married" guy should be faithful and not screw around and play games.

RebeccaSJ · Accepted Answer

Lightly, perhaps.

Jessica405 · Answer

No, it is not ok! Flirting is an opening gambit to see if a third party is willing to go further. It is done with either sexual intent, emotional intent, or both. That is wher cheating starts.

Sure, flirting feels good. So does having sex with a third person. Unforgivable!

jennifer_bloom · Answer

It''s not okay. I purposely avoid adding guys to Facebook outside my age and class mate range unless they are pastors or some sort of authority figure where adding them as a friend would make sense, such as a dietician who can give you free advice etc...

DizzyDesii · Answer

Even though its not a good thing, its not surprising when taken people flirt but being married is next level. I think flirting at that stage is crossing the line. They shouldn't have gotten married if they werent ready to only flirt with their spouse. Looking is one thing. Flirting is another

DrPepper12 · Answer

Actually it's a funny story to share. As my wife and I came back in from the ceremony we were greeted by my now mother-in-law and she put both hands on my shoulders and said you can still look at the catalog you just can't order. Maybe I'm more liberal about it but I think flirting is kind of sexy to watch your SO do it as long as it's harmless and doesn't go anywhere.

Hardshell1234 · Answer

This wasn’t the crowd to ask. Haha.
I think the line is defined between the married couple. Some men are very flirty and their wife doesn’t care, she knows it’s just how he is and he’s hers. Others would lose it. Some men take it far, others just slide it under the radar. Your wife determines if it’s okay, not this group of people. I promise you that.

Mr_twoface · Answer

It depends on how someone defines flirting. When I have eye contact with others, say gorgeous/hottie/precious to female friends, talk sexual content… some would say that can directly or indirectly be flirting. I nor my wife thinks it is. I don’t know where one would draw the line… but we have liberal minds that when we do come across that line, Im sure we will discuss it.

Lara_Croft · Answer

Flirtting with your wife is always great. But if you're referring to another woman. Jesus says whoever looks àt à woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart

robhazelnut · Answer

Well, it is if he discussed it with his wife while they were fiancees and she agreed to it being ok, then it certainly wasn't cheating if no touching was involved. Lines are established between the couple, within laws and within recorded codes of conduct. We can say which lines a person crosses if any, and if such a crossing broke any agreements or vows the person made.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

It is fine to flirt when both the person you are flirting knows you are happily married, and your wife doesn't mind. If either of those two things do not fit that criteria? Then it's wrong!

Paulalove98 · Answer

It’s wrong because he’s disrespecting his wife and seeking attention from other women and if he needs that validation and type of energy he shouldn’t be married nor in a relationship.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Depends on what you consider flirting. Just being extra friendly is NOT flirting in my book.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No. A married person should not be flirting unless they’re in an open relationship and their spouse is cool with it and the person they’re flirting knows their spouse doesn’t mind. Even then, I wouldn’t flirt with them.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Anything you wouldn't do with your wife around is crossing the line.

HawkPerception · Answer

I think it's okay to pay someone a compliment, but I wouldn't consider that flirting. I don't even know how to flirt. I just find it awkward 😂  But yeah flirting if you're married is a nono.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

flirting is OK as long as there is no touch and no catching feelings. Flirt is fun, so I can't see a reason to deny some laugh and thrill

molonski2 · Answer

Just because you are married does not mean that life simply stops , thats proven in the stats , things move on.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Nope.

I always refer to the scene in The Godfather part 2 when Genco says the play girl is so beautiful, Vito says good for you, for me there's just my wife and child. Flirting is disrespectful to your wife.

Seinna · Answer

If they're in a monogamous relationship then no. Why would he even want to? Flirting is an invitation to a romantic/sexual relationship.

worldscolide · Answer

Dude you're married. Ask your self, How would your wife feel about it. If she would be angry than there is your answer. ITS NEVER OKAY.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

If the man is married, then he shouldn't be flirting with anyone else but his wife.

Alex-Snow · Answer

There really should be no reason for a married guy to flirt. I'm sure they want to still feel sexy and attractive to women but there is no need for it

In_Trance · Answer

He needs to ask his wife this question. I'm sure her answer will be clear

OddBeMe · Answer

It’s intent that matters. People know I’m married. I “flirt” like I joke around…you could say

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

If he doesn’t mind his wife inviting the attention of other men.

Beau2024 · Answer

Sorry I meant yes it’s wrong for anyone married to flirt ever

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

What on earth is he flirting for if he can just flirt with his wife?

Booklover_90 · Answer

I hate when married men do this.  Totally  disrespectful. Like dude, you have a whole wife. 😑

Trekfan68 · Answer

It’s what I call the “toy shop” principle. As a child, my mom always said to look but not touch in a toy store. It’s ok for a married guy to look and flirt as long as nothing gets physical.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Of course. It's only natural, a tbh will make him even more desired by his wife.

SumaiyaElma · Answer

Flirting is when you express yourself towards whom you are attracted, and it's not unseen by people and therefore it's not a good flag

forevermsjess · Answer

NO form of flirting is okay if you're in a relationship at all, married or not.

jahaims · Answer

Flirting is cheating

strateguy632 · Answer

it isn't.

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