Is it wrong to flirt with a married man at work?

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I (28F) have a crush on a man (34) I work with. I only started a month ago. He was one who interviewed me for the job. He said since the moment he saw me he knew I was the one and all other interviewees didn’t matter. We all work remotely so he lives in another state like a few hours away by plane. He has been married for 13 years. But he has been flirting with me and I’ve been enjoying it. He’ll send me dm’s that are cute, I know he wouldn’t send them to others. He’ll find excuses to talk to me. Sometimes he dm’s me for a good hour just talking about himself or asking about me. We’ll have video calls of which he will extend for like 2 hours long just because he talks so much during it and about himself. It seems like our convos are getting longer. He finds excuses now to video chat with me.. like there isn’t any reason to but he’ll say regardless let’s meet up. Is it wrong to engage in this flirting if it doesn’t go anywhere past flirting?

Gentleman900 · Accepted Answer

First of all, (and I mean this in the most disrespectful way you can ever think of) you have no self-respect! I would honestly like to see what you look like and the vibes you give off. Especially in that interview. You are old enough to know that he is married. You should have the brain to know that homewrecking is wrong. Yes, he contacted you, but for your morality. Honestly, poor wife I really feel terrible for her. But don't worry hunny, the same way you get them is the same way you lose them, so have fun with that. No matter what he went keep running back to his wife no matter what. One last thing, God made ugly, but He doesn't like it.

WanderingLoveWizard · Accepted Answer

It's not wrong at all. You're single and you can flirt with whoever you want. It's only wrong if he does it back. Flirt, Fondle, Fuck. It's the American way

Clyde_123 · Accepted Answer

Yes its wrong dont do that. I think its classless. How would you feel if your husband has a single female co worker and is flirting with your husband?

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

Well yes. What's the point? And it's disrespectful towards his relationship.

JSmuve · Answer

Let's just call a spade a spade, you want him to continue because the attention makes you feel good about yourself, especially because he's married and in a position of authority. You've already made up your mind. You just want our permission to tell you that you should keep going.

spartan55 · Answer

"I know he wouldn't send them to others" Yeah, keep telling yourself that. I'm sure you're the ONLY one.
If you can't figure out the answer to your question call his wife. I'm sure she would be happy to walk you through it.
You are gross.

SnowedIn · Answer

Yes it's wrong.

But the married part is less important here.

Relationships at work are a TERRIBLE idea and almost never work. And always cause drama and problems. And can get people fired.

Just stop. Even if he doesn't.

DaveJord · Answer

Yeah, you are wrong, but what the hay, right? You have no idea how strong that marriage is, but it's not cool to say the least.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most people flirt, they just don't realize they are doing it.  It is wrong, probably.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

One day, you'll be married and discover that your husband of 10-15 years is flirting with a younger woman at his office, and then you'll realize, "Damn, karma really IS a bitch!" And maybe she intends to only flirt with him but he is already cheating, and one thing will lead to another, and they'll be in a cheap hotel room playing hide the sausage. And maybe she'll get pregnant, and you'll find out about that about the time the divorce becomes final.

RHK36 · Answer

Was fine at first, but it sounds like it escalated to a place that probably crossed the line. You are old enough to know better, so not sure why you are asking.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Imagine you being the wife and your husband, who you have trusted for 13 years, is going behind your back and doing that. How would you feel?

Wise4myage · Answer

Are you aware that these video chats will lead to sexting? Or have they already?

runnerboy · Answer

It is ok to be friendly but don't flirt.. he is married so don't try to tempt him.

In_Trance · Answer

Is it wrong for a woman to flirt with your husband at work?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, you shouldn't date people at work and you definitely shouldn't try to date someone who is married. So you really shouldn't date a married man at work.

Anonymous · Answer

It is not in good morals to flirt with a married man. don't be a homewrecker.

girl_with_the_legs · Answer

Stop it with this guy. Only bad things will come from this... attachment and then heartbreak for many people involved. Even if it feels good and exciting right now, keep it professional

mommymommymommy · Answer

Go out and meet other men hun. DO not be a homewrecker, and DO NOT DATE COWORKERS

BarryLiverstone · Answer

If you know his wife and she’s seen the dms

MeatPuppet · Answer

Yes. You should not do that. It's immoral.

Angelo75 · Answer

yes.

Talksik6 · Answer

No keep doing it

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