Flirting with a married man?

[Anonymous]

For the past month I have been frequenting a coffee shop where a handsome man works. We are both in our early 30s. We instantly felt a spark, its like we connected unlike I've ever felt... we have been flirting daily. Today I looked up his social media and found out that he is married and has been posting how much he loves his wife. I'm not sure what to do, he hasn't asked me out, but even my coworker told me that he is crazy about me, just the way he looks at me. I really like him, but should I just stop coming to the coffee shop or keep the flirting up in hopes he will leave his wife?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You should stop flirting, now that you know he's married... You might not of known he's married, but he obviously does. Do you really want a man that would flirt or get involved with other women when he already has one at home? What makes you think he wouldn't do the same to you whether he actually left his wife or not... And then too, put yourself in his wife's shoes. What would you hope that woman would do if it was your husband?
Whatever anyone replies, you know it's wrong to get involved with a married man for many reasons, the main one being people will get hurt, including yourself.

[EmbraceThePain]

I would say stop flirting with him like that and make everything more friendly than it already is. I don’t think it’s a good idea to get involved with a married man, when you have a bunch of other single men out there.

[Asker]

Agreed... I'm quite disappointed. I felt a spark with him that I haven't felt with anyone else before, and now I just don't know what to do with my feelings

[EmbraceThePain]

It may be hard to sever connections, but I really do think it is the best course of action.

Hindsight 20/20, you may also find what I say to be true.

[Asker]

Thank you, I dont want to interfere with anyone's relationship

[OlderAndWiser]

If he leaves his wife for you, will you become the next wife he cheats on?

[Asker]

Thank you, that's exactly true

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Chris_7565]

That's a problematic situation on just about every level.
I've been through it and it just leads to you feeling guilty, frustrated, and being dragged into the middle of other people's marriage drama. Some married people are the biggest flirts and the most persistent because they're bored with their partners, they don't want to get divorced or they would've already, and they're just looking for attention.
I do think you should avoid him as long as he's married.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

He's not going to leave his wife for you, sorry.
He might want to have an extramarital relationship with you, but nothing more.
I'd advise to steer away from him.

[Zweihander9005]

Lol interesting, do you really think you’re good enough to compete against his wife?

[Asker]

I'm not trying to compete, it is innocent flirting. No contact info has been exchanged, however I did feel a spark and I am not sure what to do

[Zweihander9005]

You sound like the obsessive type, like me. I’d suggest finding a new obsession before you get hurt.

[Asker]

Thank you, I am the obsessive type haha I need to limit my visits to the coffee shop

[clemdenim]

He is not going to leave his wife, now what do you want to do, no judgement

[Anonymous]

Don't do that. If he is willing to cheat with you then he is willing to cheat on you.

[Anonymous]

Leave him and flirt with me darling, at least I'm single and not married

[TenkRealist]

No. Stop going there. Don't be a homewrecker

[Iron_Man]

Please stop doing that

[Anonymous]

Total waste of time.