Would a coworker purposefully mention he’s married as a safe way to flirt with you so I don’t assume he’s flirting with me?

[Anonymous]

I’m like 1.5 months into a new job. The first couple of weeks this guy I work the closest with kept saying he’s married and would mention his wife way more than any of my other coworkers. In my head I’m like this man must really love his wife. He said oh that’s just like my wife when I said something or like would just somehow mention he’s married. I’m on a team of all men and we all work remotely. But the last couple of weeks he has stopped mentioning his wife and I swear he’s flirting with me more and more. He’ll carry on convos trying to get to know me and share a lot about himself for like an hour past our meetings. He’ll use language that to me could be taken as flirting but then I’m like maybe not? I can’t tell if this is just how people are as coworkers since this is like my first real job so maybe people are just like this with their coworkers? I can’t tell. Just wondering if he was purposely saying he’s married so much because then that could give him some freedom to flirt with me and I wouldn’t suspect it because I’d know he’s married? Do guys think like that?

[Gentleman900]

Lol, woman you are something else you know! The way you set this question up, you want our answers to be like "Yes he is in love with you!" and that's not the case for you, but definitely for his wife. He mentions his wife because you probably flirt with him. Whenever I see women getting a little frisky, even if it's not them flirting I don't care I always mention my wife, leave or if my wife is there I would stand behind her even if she is talking to a bunch of women about anything related to women I don't care. To me, he seems like a nice guy. He's probably trying to get to know you better platonically. Him mentioning his wife? Was subconscious for him to do because he talks about his wife a lot. When you talk about someone a lot, that means you are infatuated with them. I talk about my wife subconsciously whenever Im not home, or I miss her. The thing is, you want him to flirt with you. You want a married man to like you. Advice from a married man, If you play with fire, you will get burned.

[spartan55]

You are thinking entirely too much about all of this. Who cares what he does? As long as he isn't being inappropriate then why are you even worried about it. He's married, great. He talks about it, he doesn't talk about it... why does this even matter to you?

[Asker]

Because sometimes it’s like he flirts with me but then I’m like well he’s married so maybe it isn’t flirting? Or like we’ll have long winded conversations and I can’t tell if he feels anything between us

[spartan55]

Okay, so what if he is flirting? Do you want him to feel something between you two?

[spartan55]

I don't understand why it matters unless you want to screw around with a married man.

[Asker]

Well maybe I do

[spartan55]

Fucking gross. Have fun homewrecker.

[spartan55]

Just no shame whatsoever.

[Asker]

Haha nope

[spartan55]

Just think about you'd feel if you were his wife. Don't be a skank, it's not worth it. And before you say it: no, I've never been cheated on.

[Anonymous]

If he is flirting I wouldn’t be surprised — he can get away with it. You’re remote, talking online, it doesn’t draw suspicion from his partner and if you’re willing then it’s a great opportunity for him. You can’t control what he does, but you can control what you do and honestly i think you should refrain from even engaging.
Being a woman on an all male team almost immediately makes you a target for that sort of stuff for at least one of the men. However it’s up to you to set boundaries. You want these men to take you serious, treat you as an equal and not just some girl they can gossip about behind your back.
It’s so hard for women to stay afloat in male-dominated spaces, let alone making a name for yourself as someone they can respect. You’re only a few weeks in, don’t start on the wrong foot by becoming this lady that any guy can flirt up if they give a bit of attention. You’ll ruin this job for yourself before you even started and feel mortified when this backfires.

[Gentleman900]

This has to be the stupidest opinion on GAG.

[Opinion Owner]

Coming from the stupidest man on GAG that’s laughable. You’re a guy, you can’t relate and therefore have no leg to stand on.

[Gentleman900]

You know this is funny because you are anonymous 🤣 🤣 🤣 !! She asked, "do guys think like that?"... so therefore it was related to guys🤣 . Nice try though!

[Gentleman900]

tbh, i feel like you are butt hurt from what I said :(

[Gentleman900]

Sorry, he dosent love you...

[Opinion Owner]

Dude what the fuck are you talking about lol please go be annoying and dull elsewhere.

[Opinion Owner]

Also, I’m talking about MY question that you responded to, not the question. You slow?

[Gentleman900]

Is ms. is Homewrecker not getting her way? aww :(. Someone get this broad a father!

[Opinion Owner]

Lol you don’t find it weird to throw every stereotype in the book at a complete stranger? Since you suck ass at staying on topic let me help you out. You’re a guy, and until you are a woman then you can’t relate to something we personally experience. You think your shitty opinion of suggesting the guy wasn’t flirting with her and she’s delulu was so much more helpful? Lol sike. 9/10 he was definitely flirting but it’s up to her whether or not to take the bait. My advice is she should not. You don’t have to agree.

[Gentleman900]

Not at all. Delulu? you definitely have to be under 18 to use dumb ass phrases like that🤣. You are justfying homewrecking! All that dumb shit "oh your the only women" is dumb shit!!

[Opinion Owner]

Yikes. Care to show where exactly I justify or even mention such a thing as homewrecking? You can’t, because it doesn’t exist. by the way does your “wife” (which I’m convinced is a dirty sock puppet) know you hurl insults at women online? I hope not, that’s hugely embarrassing but it makes sense when you’re that damn fragile. Get a life.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, I said delulu. Just like I’m anon. Sue me.

[Gentleman900]

Dirty sock puppet yeah you definitely under 18🤣 🤣 🤣

[Opinion Owner]

Can’t answer my question huh? Lol get lost.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, dirty sock puppet lol did you name it as well? Maybe have a special drawer for it somewhere under your bridge, troll?

[Gentleman900]

Yea I did name it send me a follow request so I can send you a picture of it!

[Opinion Owner]

Or, better idea! You could answer my question. Is it just easier to deflect? Or just too hard dismissing yourself when you’re wrong?

[Opinion Owner]

“Where did I say or suggest that she’s home wrecking”? Since you’re struggling.

[Gentleman900]

I answered... I told you I named it! Send me a request so you could see a picture of it and the drawer☺️

[Gentleman900]

Still waiting ⌚!!

[Opinion Owner]

All you quoted me on is “oh you’re the only woman”…. And she is…. On an all… male… team of four🤨

[Opinion Owner]

Why would I want a photo of your dirty sock? I’m sure there’s someone far more interested in seeing your wife😊

[Gentleman900]

I could probably change your mind🤷🏾‍♂️... still shoot my that request though!

[Opinion Owner]

Awe, I know you’re frustrated with not being able to see who I am but that just isn’t my problem🩵

[Gentleman900]

But you still not sending me the request tho🤷🏾‍♂️I'm still waiting

[Opinion Owner]

Not interested. Bye. Again.

[Gentleman900]

Why not 😔?

[Anonymous]

he's using you