What's with guys and playing hot and cold all the time?

[Anonymous]

What actually is the end game of the whole idea? Do they get kicks from it or?

[magiusX26]

it depends on what you are calling "hot and cold". there are many reasons possible depending on your definition. some general ideas could be an immature asshat, someone returning what they are recieving, too much baggage of being done like that in their past to the point that is all they know for dating, a form of manipulation, low self esteem, they may be playing you/seeing more than just you, may not be that into you.

[Finchie40]

People that do this have insecurity issues and low self esteem issues , they are hot and cold because they are testing you to see if you really like them or not. They have a hard time trusting the person they are with , the truth is they are the one not to trust

[padrepiedra777]

This is often the case. I have done the hot/cold thing for exactly the same reason. It is important to add however, that depending on the guy, it could be a 'player' strategy as well. It does work to increase desire in the opposite sex. Also, he could be playing multiple women, in which case he doesn't feel invested in a single one... at least yet.

Answer is, it depends on who the guy is. He could just be being careful, he could be busy and just appear to be playing, he could be playing as a strategy, and he could be 'playing the field'.

You just don't know until you get to know him.

[jahaims]

They are either immature and don't know what they want or they are immature and play games to seek validation

[itsclearlynicholas]

I am naturally moody. Some women are far worse ♀️♀️♀️ moods 😀🤨

[Asker]

😂 moody is a vibe

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'm not officially bipolar or the like, yet maybe, I'm just a little fruity 🍓🍑

[war_daddy]

it's because they're not that into you because you'r eprobably too old

[lightbulb27]

Pmsing…. pre man syndrome

[Anonymous]

I do that unintentionally. I'm very introverted, and I get anxious around girls I like.

[spartan55]

Depends on what you are calling hot and cold.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t do it

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

What did the dude do?👀

[Med_guy1978]

I think most women do that, not so many men.

[In_Trance]

They're exploring other options