Why are guys so hot and cold?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy on a dating app and we seemed to hit it off. We live far apart (few hours) so it was just texting for a while. We talked almost everyday about everything and nothing at the same time. We finally met in person, had sex and spent the night together. Then everything changed its like the friendship part evaporated. He still wants to have sex but puts minimal if any effort into the friendship part of things. Wtf happened? I feel like the rug was pulled out from under me.

I'm cool with friends with benefits. We live far so a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship is not ideal and honestly unrealistic and I'mnot really looking for that right now. However, I can't have sex with a guy I have no connection or communication with outside the physical. There has to be more for me, some kind of a connection.

I stopped talking to him a few weeks ago. I didn't know how to communicate what I was feeling so I just dipped. I miss him though, at least who he was before we had sex. Is it worth explaining to him? Why do guys do the hot and cold thing?

[Finchie40]

Because girl’s are as well lol , Everyone has good and bad days and everyone pretty
Much has their own preferences on what they are seeking , Usually if someone feels like they aren’t receiving what they are giving then it becomes frustrating and a waste of time to them so they become cold and distant , and assume the worst case scenario, What people need to understand is you aren’t always going to be on the same page with someone else , life has so many obstacles that we face that can turn someone from being happy to being stressed out and miserable , it’s best to not assume it’s you that is causing those feelings, in most cases it’s something totally different that caused them to seem cold and distant , The fact that you both live far apart can be a reason why he got cold and distant from you , it’s hard being far apart from someone you like and are into , long distance is a shitty thing , not saying it can’t work but for it to work , both people have to be on the very same page , if not it’s a waste of time , Most people assume the worst when it comes to long distance relationships, they assume the person isn’t going to be faithful to them and just string them along for their selfishness , and think the worst case scenario’s, I been in long distance relationships before and sadly they usually don’t last unless you are both on the same page as things and you are both telling the truth and being honest with each other

[Smoothing]

This seems to me like a very similar story I am aware of. Message me and I might help if I can.

[curlyfirecracker]

Maybe he got what he wanted? Not every guy would, but not every guy wouldn't. No use putting in all that work anymore and moved on.

[skilled_jellyfish]

Tell him how you feel. Don't go on and on about it. Just once. And if no satisfying reply comes just dump it. Probably found someone else.

[Illustrator01]

Because of this. It makes women crave men more. If he was straight and talked to you all the time, you'd think he was a simp. Women do this too to get men.

[DrBanana]

Women do these actions also.


I think it’s just the person maybe?

[QuietVerbena]

He sees you as just sex now

[AndrésC64]

Why are girls so hot and cold?

[In_Trance]

For the same reason women are

[Anonymous]

Because women are hot and cold.

[RandomGuy1032]

you're in love.