Why do abusive caregivers think doctors believe obvious injury lies?

[Vesuvius87]

It's very offensive when a small child or infant gets injured so badly and they lie about how they accidentally fell or rolled off the bed.

When my son was 7 months old, he rolled off the bed and hit the hardwood flooring (I saw it happened right at the time I came back into the room and was far from reach; even if I had dived or thrown myself, I still wouldn't be able to catch him) while under my husband's care and we took him to the ER immediately. Nothing happened and he's now a very active, smiling 13 month-old boy. But it's very offensive when some pathetic child abuser thinks hospital staff will fall for the ''he/she rolled out of the bed, fell on the floor, etc'' or other nonsense to explain all the injuries and fractures found... which doesn't coincide with a common fall or accident. Secondly, in those cases there is a huge lapse of time and the reaction isn't is different. Even if was a genuine accident, the caregiver would be very emotionally and taking the child to the ER right away.

Then they get caught in the lie and that's when many finally admit what they did. Honestly why do they think they can get away with lying about it?

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Then the poor child either has permanent brain damage or dies... and they still think hospital will believe the obvious lie. Why?

[molonski2]

My poor little girl ( now 34 ) split her head open on a bed , man , I freaked out , it looked horrendous at the time , obviously an accident ( but that was nearly unbelievable and it was at a party ) ..
Strangely enough myself and my two girls have the same small scar in the same place , mine had 14 stitches.. weird.

But 100 % I agree with you..

[Vesuvius87]

Ouch, I feel for you. That's a horrible scene for any parent. Our worst nightmare is our child getting hurt. Since it was a long time ago, I'm guessing they have no memory of it. My father (he's his only grandchild) actually cried when my son rolled off the bed. For a second, he thought of the worst but we were all happy when the test results came back negative, no fractures, soft spots intact, no nothing. I felt so guilty that day it happened in my eyes the moment I stepped into the room and couldn't catch him on time before his little body hit the hardwood flooring. Even though I was making breaking and he was under my husband's care, it still feels bad.

[molonski2]

Yes , that moment of helplessness , although there is an argument for learning to fall , I know I was good at it as a kid..

Anyhow we made it though , Molly does remember and we had a laugh.

But imagine I go emergency? Which possibly I should have , smelling of whiskey and sweat ( dancing summer party ) and my little girls head is split open , hmmm not good.

Fortunately all was okey , but I never let top to tail sleep again , there were 4 kids in that room ( 2 mine )
Still feel badly about it..

[AlperHan]

Because admitting the truth means facing consequences, and some people will choose denial, lies, or excuses to protect themselves. The sad reality is that fear and selfishness can make people ignore the damage they cause. That’s why medical professionals look at patterns, evidence, and the child’s wellbeing, not just a single explanation.

[Vesuvius87]

Thank you for your answer. They are indeed so selfish by trying to save their own skin by lying instead of facing the music and accept their prison time. Then after the medical results come back, it's so obvious when their stories don't match the claimed injury.

[AlperHan]

I agree. Fear of consequences explains the lie, but it never justifies it. The child has no voice, which is exactly why medical professionals must rely on evidence rather than excuses.

[Anonymous]

some people go into caregiving/ nursing for entirely the wrong reasons. there are some people out there who are truly evil

[Vesuvius87]

Yes they deserve to rot in prison. Those are likely the type of people that initially think a baby or toddler is like a doll you can dress up and stack in a bookshelf but as soon as the responsibilities of attending their cries and needs, changing diapers, feeding them, playing with them, etc becomes too much, all of the sudden they don't want that anymore and harm them.

[Veronika_p]

Experienced doctors know when the injuries don't match the story, and that's often what exposes the abuse.

[Vesuvius87]

Exactly but those abusers really think doctors are going to believe their ''baby rolled off the bed'' stories. My baby rolled off the bed once but infants generally can more resilient than we think when it comes to typical harmless falls like that.
So an infant showing up with catrastrophic injuries is the work of someone deliberately cruel. Yet, it's silly how they think they can get away with it by giving BS stories.

[jshm2]

Seems you're projecting.

Contrary to what you think, every person in ER is trained to spot deliberate injuries, and they often will report findings. It will be social services or police that will decide whether to pursue or not.

[Vesuvius87]

That's the one time I felt bad for not being able to reach my son on time even though I was making his breakfast, was far from reach and he was under my husband's care. I'm always on top of every single news about child safety to the point of being overprotective.
It's very offending when there are cases of real child abuse, where a baby or toddler has catastrophic injuries and they still have the nerve to lie by saying the ''the baby fell, the baby rolled off the bed''. I guess ever since my baby did fell off the bed and babies are more actually more resilient, it's obvious horrible injuries wouldn't be from short falls.

[msc545]

Mostly because deliberate and accidental injuries often look the same. It's not like they're labeled or something obvious.

[Vesuvius87]

Then it becomes very obvious after the X-ray results don't match their stories. When my baby accidentally rolled off the bed, his X-ray results were negative. He's very healthy and I got told babies can be resilient (more than we think) with certain falls, as long as it's not from a significant height.

[Angel1999_]

Cause people want to make something out of it, whether it is or isn’t. Maybe for attention.

[Vesuvius87]

Little do they know that they can't BS doctors, esp after the results come back and the findings of serious injuries and brain bleeding don't match their stories.

[DonaldDarko]

People capable of that are not sane.

[Vesuvius87]

Indeed and they deserve to rot in prison for life. Anyone harming a baby or toddler should never ever be near kids ever again.

[LC75LC71]

Ok fucking troll.

[Vesuvius87]

Well I'm not going anonymous and this is a simple question.

[Vesuvius87]

You people need to stop calling everything a troll. I can ask questions whenever I want to about several different topics.

[LC75LC71]

Take it easy. I called you troll because of your description. When it comes to abusive caregivers look no further than some that take care of elderly.. I still think you're bullshitting.

[Vesuvius87]

Why would I make up a story of my son falling and being unable to reach him? Makes no sense.

[LC75LC71]

It's the fucking internet! People make up shit all the time!