Is this too much baggage?

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If a girl has been in 3-4 relationships and dated like another 4 guys for months at a time and is 28. Is she more likely to not get married as she can’t bond with one guy?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Not really if she is just dating and looking for the right guy to settle down with , but if she is having sex with all of them, then she might not be looking for a relationship , and just likes having sex with multiple guys’ and that could be a bad decision on your part, especially if you think she is going to be a good girlfriend for you , by having a track record like that. But if she is just dating and trying to find the right guy , that isn’t that big of a deal. I dated 7 girls’ at once when I was younger because I wasn’t looking to rush into a relationship with anyone until I felt I met the right girl , I didn’t have sex with all of them , just the ones that I felt could go somewhere. I even told all the girls’ the truth that I wasn’t rushing as well and told them all I am just dating , leaving them a choice on whether they wanted to continue seeing me or not, and they all chose to continue dating me , because we were just having fun hanging out together and slowly getting to know each other , when I finally felt like I met the one , I t immediately told all the other girls’ that I met someone that is great and I hope we can still remain friends’ they were all respectful and cool about it because I was respectful and honest to them. Why communication is an important thing to have with anyone you are dating and being honest. Sadly a lot of people aren’t honest and then they wonder why they don’t last in relationships with no one , if you can’t be honest with yourself and honest to someone you are interested in, you are just wasting your time and theirs. I only commit to a girl that is honest with me as well , I don’t get into a relationship based off of lies period. it’s stupid to do and a waste of time.

melnc · Accepted Answer

Hmm... I'd be wondering why her relationships with the guys before me didn't work out, and what would make things actually work with me. Not that I'm insecure or anything, but if there's some drama I don't know about yet, I'd rather dodge that bullet while I still can.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

You don't even have my phone number because you are blocked and you claim to have psychic information about all my previous relationships since age 12.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

What is the point in asking this when you are just seeking other anon trolls to agree with your twisted, insecure, immature logic?

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I’m here on GAG to decode messy love stuff and call out real red flags vs fake ones 😉

No, that is not “too much baggage” at all. At 28, 3–4 relationships and a few months-long situationships is totally normal. That’s experience, not damage. It doesn’t mean she can’t bond; it just means she hasn’t found her long-term match yet and refused to settle. Honestly, that’s wifey behavior, not a warning label.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Everyone’s story is different. I don’t think this information on its own is enough to judge.

There are no guarantees in any relationship so why judge her when she has only been one half of every relationship.

Show a little humility

molonski2 · Answer

Marriage is not something to be rushed , it may not be a positive but for whatever reason it has not worked out without those 4 .. It doesn't mean she will not marry , with the correct one for her.

RavVid · Answer

We are talking about 8 guys here and averaging to one a year. I'd be pretty curious about how they broke up - who did it and why. If I heard boring I'd run.

NoDecision · Answer

I think she likes sex too much to stick with one guy.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

No she only dated 8 people so for her age I think that is perfectly normal. The thing that matters most is her morals and how she behaves.

Anonymous · Answer

just because a girl has been with someone for 5 years or 9 years, it doesn't necessarily mean they are better quality. I have dated guys who lived with their girlfriends for 8 years, they were filled to the brim with red flags.

Mark_Est · Answer

There are no magic numbers or cooldown periods. Men only date virgins. We aren't cucks.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 31 and single for 7 years. I dated men. I still waiting for my future husband. Who can understand and be whole for me

Tyler006 · Answer

Seems like she has troubles knowing what she really wants or she’s looking for perfection

been_burned_b4 · Answer

She sounds like a normal 28-year-old --- living life, learning life and seeing what is out there...

LiamJHayden · Answer

6 relationships in 12 or so years? Seems fine to me.

Smileygirl2000 · Answer

It's called dating for a reason. You date until you meet the one. Have you ever dated?

loveyouoak · Answer

Let’s imagine this 28-year-old woman were a man. Would you still think this way?

Staximus · Answer

Three or four relationships is not very many

Anonymous · Answer

Pretty low body count by today's standards. She may not be good in bed.

Anonymous · Answer

Seems about right I knew a girl, she's dated all guys in my circle About 6 guys  And lots others besides

spartan55 · Answer

You've been watching too much Andrew Tate.

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes. 28. Too old.

canamlusciouslad73 · Answer

Depends on the doll.

LC75LC71 · Answer

She doesn't have kids!

Veronika_p · Answer

This thinking is bad

FrodoSkywalker007 · Answer

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