Polls: Flirting

I'm competitive at everything and even things where I might start off bad, I will practice until I'm great.

I'm tiny and girly so guys never see it coming and I love their shocked faces beating them at stuff.

But guys do not respond well to me winning at things all the time. I started throwing a game of whatever here and there if I've been winning too much but it makes me feel guilty like if they knew they'd be so hurt.

Guys?

Do you have a friend that you have always had sexual tension with, and even though you are in a relationship, you still like keeping this person around?

I know it’s petty, but I just need some time to figure out what’s going on between me and this guy. Should I open his snap and not respond? Or should I just wait to open it until I’m ready to talk to him?

I get scared to approach the ones i find really attractive, but i try to be friendly without being obvious!

I have an easier time flirting guys i only find moderately attractive, if theyre really attractive, it makes me too anxious to flirt (unless they're friendly towards me / flirt with me first)

I've just noticed that i never get cat called! 😂

(Just gonna say... I don't want to get cat calls, but I'm just wondering why it happens to loads of other girls, but not me )

Maybe it's cos whenever I'm out, i always have earphones on, so i never hear them?
Or they see that im wearing earphones, so they don't bother?

I'm told that i look very confident, so maybe that scares them off, also im quite tall for a girl, 5 ft 7".
Or maybe i give off a certain vibe?

Ok so let’s say I’m like 24, and this guy is unmarried and in his early 60s.

He’s a librarian at my university, and once this week I was engaged in a conversation with a classmate when he walked past me. He was trying to get my attention, and just as he walked past he reached out as if trying to tap me to get my attention.

Later on in that day, I was having lunch and he appeared beside me in the canteen. He was curious about what I was sitting reading/ listening to on my iPod as I was eating lunch, so I told him. Then, he continued chatting and touched my hand as he responded to what I said in the conversation.

To be honest this made me uncomfortable, and felt like inappropriate touching of my hand. Personally, I hate people making physical contact with me unless they’re a close friend, family or my boyfriend.

I’ve also saw him check me out from head to toe before, which again, makes me feel uneasy.

So, am I overreacting?

we are in a lot of the same classes (or used to be at least) but every once in awhile, we'd catch each other's gazes during class (i find him decently attractive). we aren't of the same friend group, so there's very little social interaction initiated between either of us. sometimes if he says something to a teacher or friend (not directed at me at all), at a delayed time, i'll see him kinda glance in my direction for a prolonged period of time (maybe to gauge my reaction?)

the main thing that makes me suspect interest is this just kinda 'more than casual' glancing that seems to happen often.

this is kind of a weird example, but i remember walking into a class behind a group of classmates and he just happened to be holding the door open (with his whole body against the door) as my classmates went in. i swear, when i passed by, it seemed he scooched closer to the door (so that i'd have to squeeze past him) and brought his shoulders back a bit farther (to make his already tight shirt more taut?)

he also seems to discreetly call attention to himself by talking to friends around him and maybe stopping to converse with them in the hallway while i go past, but i would be easily seen in his peripheral (if that makes sense).

another example: i remember having my earbuds in and going past him to find a teacher. the whole time as i walked past, he looked at me and even asked me a question as i walked by. he had to ask several times as i was proceeding to take my earbuds out, but the exchange lasted maybe a full 30 seconds, and the whole time, he was staring very intently at me.

i don't think he 'likes' me though because neither his nor his friends' demeanor changes when i'm around. in all honesty, i have no idea what i mean to him, but i just see him as an attractive classmate but that's about it (because i don't really know him).

anyone care to provide advice/feedback on my situation?

He doesn't make an effort to talk to me anymore, but sometimes i still catch him checking me out and staring at me / watching me when i talk to other men and listening to my conversations.
(But he doesn't stare at me as much as he used to)

I say "u alright" when i see him at the gym
(^^ a casual greeting in England)

And he just bluntly gives me one word answers with a straight, bored face and says "yeah".
He's louder and more friendly towards his friends than he is towards me. :/

~ so i started ignoring him a bit and being colder / less friendly towards him too,
but is this the right thing to do?

Based on these texts, is he interested in me? This was a day ago. Before we ended the conversation we’d been talking night and day for a week straight. Also should I text him again? Or should I wait and let him? (Were very sarcastic with each other so keep that in mind)

I kind of like a guy but I’m not sure if he likes me back and is shy, or if he’s just using me as an ego boost because he likes the attention he’s getting. I think he’s shy because whenever I notice him looking at me I hold his eye contact until he looks away and his eyes flutter down like he’s nervous. But then I wonder if he’s using me because once I start to lose interest and ignore him, I notice that he shows up around me more and looks at me like he’s checking to see if I’m looking. (Which I’m not, I just notice when he’s in my line of vision). It’s like the less I look at him the more he looks at me and whenever I start reciprocating eye contact he goes back to completely avoiding eye contact and looking straight ahead.

So this guy from my church i kinda like but we haven’t talked yet. On Wednesday’s is this youth group thing and my friends and I have snuck out to get a soda before. I know he has snuck out too. I’m thinking maybe next week I should ask if he’ll come with me so “I won’t be alone” ? I don't know help😂

+ Are guys put off by it?
+ Does it make the girl seem like a weirdo?

I'm 19 and so far have zero luck with guys. By kiss I mean the proper romantic kiss of course.