Does he think I’m a gold digger?

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I Was talking to this guy and kept asking about his profession. He responded with « I understand you’re trying to get to know me but I the vibe doesn’t feel right due to the fact that you’re asking me all these questions about my profession but like you said it’s given gold digger vibes or you’re looking for a man with money ».

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Sadly social media ruined a lot of people’s mindsets when it comes to shit like this , Girls’ sadly got a bad reputation of being gold diggers thanks to social media , , so most men assume every girl is just after money and nothing else with him , and sadly , there are females ‘ that are just after a guys’ money so that’s why it’s a big deal to most guys. Most men don’t want to be with a girl that is after his wallet. A guy wants a girl that is after his heart and his cock for the most part , So by you asking him about his profession he assumed you were just trying to see how much money he makes. Thinking you only wanted to be with him for his money. The best thing for you girls to do , if you really like a guy , just ask him if he has a job and ask him if he is independent, and immediately tell him what you do for a living so he doesn’t assume you are just after him for his wallet , if a sense a girl is only dating me because of money? I will lose interest in her as well and be turned off thinking that’s the only thing she is after with me. I only date girls’ that have their shit together that don’t put there hand out to me for money , I want a girl to be my partner not a user. A girl that has my back like I have hers , a girl that wants to be a team with me. Not a girl that expects me to fully take care of her.

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

Well, the question is silly since he literally tells you he thinks you may be a gold digger.

It’s probably a safe bet to just ask a guy one time what he does and if he sidesteps it then just let it go. At least for first & second dates. By date three I think it’s an entirely reasonable question.

Truthfully, some people don’t like to talk about their profession simply because it’s what they do, not who they are. Often times a person’s profession can take over the topic of conversation and it’s not where they want to focus their conversational energy or time. I knew a guy who flew private jets and did so for a lot of A-list celebrities and public figures. The moment it came up that became the dominant topic and, as he used to say, the more celebrities you meet the more disappointed you usually are. That, and while travel is really exciting for most people for him was just another day at work.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

Maybe he has bad exp with women tryna be gold diggers? It also depends how you’re asking about his profession, maybe it made him uncomfortable? I know I like to ask typically to understand their roles, purpose, and if they’re passionate about their career more so than their income to see if we are compatible and how can I support them

Delle123 · Accepted Answer

It was odd of him to bring it up but you should avoid asking a man about what he does for a living. Guys will 100% see it as a res flag. As conversation flows it’ll usually come up in a subtle way but yes it doesn’t come off well to bluntly ask to many questions about a man’s career, especially if he makes good money.

JacobJordan · Answer

Don't ask what his profession is it shouldn't fuckin matter unless you care about money. If he has enough to pay for the date that is all you need to know. What he does for work and how much he makes doesn't matter unless you are willing to divulge how much you weigh, how many sexual partners you have had and what you look like without make up.

BadApple69 · Answer

It's like a guy staring at your breasts telling you that you have beautiful eyes. Maybe your intent was innocent but so many girls intent isn’t.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Well yeah... that's what he directly said. Your behavior came across like you are only interested in his money. And that would be a really weird thing to say to someone if you didn't mean it.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Yeah he was definitely thinking it. Best to just not talk too much about past relationships or wealth when getting to know a person

BaronVonBarron · Answer

Personally I would not have anything against such question. I understand that this may be important for a girls. However, I also think that guys have the right to ask about girl's past. Opennes and integrity are keys to building relations.

Fireguy17 · Answer

yeppers, it seemed pretty important to you. Most times I never asked, they would tell me at some point what they did.

laly520 · Answer

you have to explain yourself of if u r interested still otherwise move on

Twalli · Answer

I ao UK old maybe state that you don't care how much he makes, you just want to know what he does.  I am a coder, that tells nobody how much I make.

Vick2828 · Answer

To be honest, who cares what a guys does? So long he loves you and takes care of you and your future family.

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

In essence, aren't all women gold diggers. Aren't' they "wanting us for our money"

JayBones2469 · Answer

Who cares if you are. Just be good at it. Good luck and I hope you fing the gold you're looking for

NibirX · Answer

Well, he doesnot i think, also it is maybe not the fact that he is in a job position he wants to talk about

Anonymous · Answer

He told you very directly he thinks you're a gold digger.

strateguy632 · Answer

he clearly said that!

magiusX26 · Answer

if he already stated it, why are you asking us?

HateyouxD · Answer

He's broke lol

Jennz6 · Answer

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