My boyfriend initially got me an expensive gift and returned it?

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My boyfriend initially got me an expensive gift, a bag. Later, he suggested getting a better one with a higher value. We went to the store to return it, hoping to exchange it for the one I wanted. Unfortunately, the desired bag wasn't available at that time, and they said it would be restocked next month. However, even after 6 months and my reminders, I still haven't received the bag. He often jokes about it. Should I just ignore it, considering it's just a bag? I'm unsure why I feel offended

Lilibet · Accepted Answer

Tbh this is weird, because if I want to give something so someone then I would do it. I get it he wanted to exchange it for you but then why he would get you this one in a first place if he wanted to give you different one. Looks for me like what he did was just a game so you would see that he spend the money and he got you the bag, but then he took it away and never got you a new one. Seems to me like he never wanted to give you such a expensive gift so he just played this game. If I buy something for someone and you don’t like it, is a wrong size or whatever then I give you gift receipt so you can exchange it or I go with you and we get something else, if it’s not in store then you can purchase it or get something else, but I would definitely not just “forget” to give the gift back

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

It's the gesture that matters. I wouldn't be offended. He tried to get you a back, it didn't work out. But he tried.

JTPeterson · Accepted Answer

Honestly if he cared not only about you and making you happy with the gift when you both went to return the bag he should’ve went back to get the bag already when they restocked he shouldn’t needed to be nagged about making you happy from a gift that came from his heart but honestly I also feel you should have appreciated that he got you the gift when it didn’t sound like it was for anything special occasion instead of saying he got the wrong one return it with him and expect him to get the right thing one. Honestly you both I think are in the right and wrong with it and you both need to just move past it

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

He didn't take it away. You gave it back to the store. Have you asked him whatever happened to your bag? Being a guy myself, I could guess that he just forgot about it, expecting you to nag him, and since you haven't, he hasn't done anything.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You are upset because he is not keeping a promise that he made and he is ignoring you. Just tell him that you judge a partner by how they treat you and not the nice things they say.

TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff · Answer

I think it is okay to feel weird that the gift fell through but you should be considering that there may be other factors involved that he is ashamed to bring up. Perhaps his financial situation has changed or the reaction you gave to the initial gift demoralised him? Or he is upset that you haven't reciprocated in any way with an expensive gift for him. Are you reciprocating or just taking?

Billlewis · Answer

I once had a similar experience, and I ended up selling an anklet to another woman who was my ex, for about the same amount.

AmeriRiver096 · Answer

Miscommunication can happen in relationships. It might be helpful for you to discuss your expectations and find a resolution that works for the both of you.

TadCurious · Answer

He returned it because it wasn't the one you wanted. How high maintenance are you?

HouseMoat · Answer

So he got you a bag, thinking it would be enough, and you went along with him wanting to get another one?

sheikalana · Answer

Is just a bag! Get the bag yourself if you really want it.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure maybe he lied. That’s wrong. But you’re not entitled to a bag. If you want the bag. Go buy it yourself.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

My ex did this, he didn’t really want to give you the gift. If he had really wanted to he would’ve made it a priority.

zagor · Answer

Why would you spend a lot of money on something to carry other things in?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I think he ran a scam on you. I think he's a deplorable individual. That's what I think.

Staximus · Answer

What's that expensive bag going to do for you that a grocery bag can't besides look cool

Iron_Man · Answer

What is he hoping to forget about it

In_Trance · Answer

Let it go

YourSong · Answer

Ask him when your other bag will come

DreamLife7 · Answer

HE doesn't LIKE YOU MAM! WHY ARE YOU BEGGING?

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