Should I give him his gift back?

[Anonymous]

I'm getting this vibe that my boyfriend of 3 months is backing off big time and this MIGHT be the end of our relationship. He had given me an awesome necklace for Christmas and if our relationship is over I really don't want the necklace (or his flannel shirt or cd, or the book he gave me over the course of the last 3 months). I would never use or wear his things again, so should I give them all back to him? I know I could just give them to Goodwill or something but I also feel hurt and want to make a statement. Maybe that's wrong but he shouldn't have led me to believe all is well and then just call it quits. I wouldn't throw the things back at him, I want to just leave them in a bag in his car. What would a guy think of that even though he has told me he isn't asking for the necklace back. Would that piss him off or hurt him or wouldn't he even care. He has a gentle heart so I know this break up is affecting him.I think he's trying to come to terms with his recent divorce and is having a hard time knowing what he wants. What do you think?

[alyssa0177573]

I think you should keep them. I know your hurt now, but later they are going to be something you remember about him, happy times. And all you can do is just remember the good times (including the times you got the shirt, cd, and book).

If he does back off and you two don't talk again, I think it would make him all of the above... Pissed off because he got that FOR YOU... It would Hurt him because he knows your hurting once you give them back... And also he won't care, he's a guy and those are just materialistic things. Just give him space, if he doesn't come back he wasn't yours in the first place and its not worth it... At least you got some goodies out of it!...

Time, that's all you need. You will find someone who will like you even more and isn't going through a divorce, and doesn't want to back away from you.

[sweetaspie]

A gift is a gift, period. I would never give a gift back and would never ask for one back. I once bought a guy a was dating an expensive gold watch and we broke up two months later, oh well, my loss! Also, yes returning the things may hurt him. Just wait and see if he ask for his things back, if not leave well enough alone!

[Anonymous]

no don't give the gift back,that's a gift.you just want to stay in contact with him when you do that. us women desire the gift for what we do for our man

[kaylee]

Talk to him about what's going on in your relationship. That's the real issue here, not the stuff.

[That-Guy]

You should just talk to him about it. Ask him if he would like his stuff or his gift back. Make it clear that it's completly okay if he wanted those items back.

That would be a very decent thing to do and if he says you can keep it. Then just keep it, you probably made his life better in those 3 months and it was a "thank you" from him to you.

[Anonymous]

YES if you don't ever want to see him again... then give it back to him... but if you want to treasure what he meant to you then you'll keep it. God Bless. =)

[Anonymous]

Yes, give it back.