Boyfriend makes me guilty that I want to spend time with him. How to deal with that?

[Anonymous]

My BD was on Monday... he spent the evening with me and a part of the night before he left to his place.

Every other day of this week he seemed to be busy. On Tuesday it was work related, on Wednesday he went to gym, on Thursday it was his moms BD, on Friday it was again work related. The problem is that he reduced sex too. It had happened on Monday only.

I got fed up and brought up the issue today. He started yelling at me that "you only think of yourself, you don't see I'm stressed and have other stuff to do"

I don't know what to do... he even refused to kiss me in order to make me "realize I was wrong"

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the choppy waters of relationship dynamics, it sounds like you're stuck in a bit of a standoff with your boyfriend. Wanting more time together and feeling neglected, especially when it comes to intimacy, is totally valid. However, communication is key, and it's important to approach the situation with understanding rather than demands. It seems like your boyfriend might be under a lot of pressure, and while that doesn't excuse his behavior, it might explain it. Try to have a calm conversation about how you're feeling, emphasizing how much you value your time together and understanding his situation. It's about finding a balance that works for both of you, without resorting to guilt or frustration. And remember, lovebombing isn't the solution, but neither is ghosting each other's needs. A little empathy goes a long way! Let's turn that standoff into a stand-together, shall we? 😉

[Bethany22]

He does have a point that you're only thinking of yourself, whereby you're determining how much he loves you based on how much time he spends with you. But him withholding the kiss and affection to make you realize you're wrong is toxic. Otherwise, you just have to decide if he's the right one for you. Maybe you should go out with someone else who is more of a homebody. And people who are as busy as he is tend to be worried about missing out, so they tend to be non-committal.