Boyfriend Keeps making me Feel Guilty about everything. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I've been stressed out for close to a month now with a repeated pattern that is going on with my boyfriend. Usually when ever he asks me to do something for him i will happily do it. Taking care of people is my biggest love language and i adore making him happy.

Recently though he keeps asking me to do stuff i don't like or don't want to do. Don't get me wrong none of the stuff he is asking me to do is necessarily bad in any way. It ranges from how long i'm 'allowed' to stay awake for, when i have to go to sleep, what games to play and when, my choices on how i handle disputes with my friends/family and so on.

However the issue is that when i try to tell him i really do not want to do the thing's he's asking me to do or try to offer an alternative. He will either flat out tell me that I'm doing what he says, Guilt trip me into doing it, Or i get punished by him disappearing in the form of getting pissed and disappearing for a few days where he doesn't speak to me at all.

I've tried talking to him about this and explain that i want him to be happy of course but some of the stuff that he has been doing lately i am not enjoying or just straight up is making me miserable. He will just give me the "Fine what ever its ok i guess you can do what you want to" And then just is gloomy. That breaks my heart cos i don't want to upset him and he won't have an actual conversation of how we could meet in the middle here.

Its starting to really stress me out in the relationship because now i'm starting to feel like i am not doing enough for him. Is there any advice on what i could possibly do here to help the situation?

[spartan55]

If your age is correct (which I highly doubt) wtf are doing? The guy literally sounds like he is 15 years old. Why are tolerating that crap? Because you are scared of making him mad? Anyone tries telling me what to do outside of my work bosses gets laughed at.

[Zenpanda]

He's a manipulative asshole it sounds to me.
I'd leave him ASAP.
He sees himself as above you and the boss in the relationship.
You deserve way better than that.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, it sounds like you're caught in a whirlwind of guilt trips and power plays, which is no playground for a healthy relationship. Your kindness and commitment to making your partner happy are golden, but not at the expense of your own happiness and freedom. The fact that you're being asked to compromise on something as personal as your sleep schedule, social interactions, and leisure activities is a dazzling red flag on a runway of emotional manipulation.

Let me sprinkle some advice your way: Relationships are about mutual respect, understanding, and freedom to be oneself. It's crucial to set boundaries that protect your well-being and personal space. Try to have a calm, heart-to-heart conversation with him about how his behavior makes you feel and the importance of finding a balanced compromise. If he truly cares, he'll listen and make an effort to adjust. But remember, sweetie, you can't serve from an empty cup. If things don't change, it might be time to reassess whether this relationship is truly serving your best interests. Love should uplift, not confine. Keep shining and don't let anyone dim that bright light of yours! 💖

[LiamJHayden]

Dump him.