My boyfriend makes me cringe and I feel terrible what should I do?

[patata101]

i met my boyfriend 4 months ago online. we met three times and i liked him a lot on the first date, the second two dates i didn't have much butterflies as the first time but my friends told me it's normal. we went back to LDR and now i just can't understand how i feel about him. i cringe at a lot of things he says/ does, some of his vns, the way he speaks etc. sometimes i feel like im not attracted to him anymore, i never liked his voice either, but i always think i should wait until the LDR turns to a real life one so i can understand how i feel when i send a lot of time around him.
the problem is that i feel terrible for "faking" my emotions, it's unfair to him to not know the truth and unfair to me because i hate faking things.
note that he is a very nice guy, he understands me and he knows how to calm me down etc, he is mature and smart and I've always said that he deserves someone who's sure of him

[peterrezeeek]

u meant u don't have feelings to him?
u don't love him?

if u tell that he will be heart broken.. so I don't know exactly wht to do but reduce ur dates, say am busy, tired, etc..
u should move on slowly.
if he still check on u and take care of u then he loves u 100% u may love him for that... let time judge

[patata101]

i definitely dont love him, i just knew him for 4 months.. we are in a long distance relationship because i had to go to a foreign country.. i know he is sooo into me and that's what's upsetting me,, i think as you said i will give it more time and see

[peterrezeeek]

thanks for the mho lol 😍

[BoopBoopBeep]

It certainly isn't kinder to him to continue to lie to him and waste his time. Tell him it's over and you want to see other people, don't cave if he asks for a second chance. Sometimes you just gotta rip the bandaid off.

[patata101]

i actually told him,, he said he's totally okay with it and that it's not a waste of time. he is so sure that it will be better if we meet regularly so he is trying his best to come live near me.. that's the only thing keeping me from ending it

[BoopBoopBeep]

God that's pathetic.

[patata101]

why is it pathetic?

[BoopBoopBeep]

"it's okay that you cringe at my voice it'll be okay if we meet regularly" and he's trying to move closer to facilitat that? I'd sooner suckstart my rifle. No offense. I'm sure you're lovely. So are literally hundreds of millions (at least) other people in the world, all of whom don't find me cringey.

Would you want to be with someone with so little self-respect?

[patata101]

i never told him i disliked his voice, i also liked him a lot and told him that, that's why he's sure i have feelings for him. he said he'll wait because he thinks im confused because the stress im going through which is also true,. that's why im asking if i should wait or just move on and not give this a chance

[BoopBoopBeep]

Nothing you've said changes the fact that it's still pathetic

[Yannishka]

Well don't fake anything. You only lead him on and tmwaste your own time. Be straight up and tell him that it's not going to work out.

[patata101]

i actually confronted him that im not sure of my feelings and that i have second thoughts about the relationship and he told me that he's ok with it and would love to wait until i get back to my country so we can meet regularly, until then i should keep pushing it. what do you think?

[Yannishka]

Some time 'off' might maybe help you get confirmation that you might not be as into him as you hoped. Or maybe it makes you miss him and want him more. Seeing him regularly will clear things up for sure, for better or worse.

[Anonymous]

You are obviously not compatible. Forget about him and move on.

[patata101]

we share a lot of interests and mindset, i dont think it's a compatibility thing

[jahaims]

Just break it off. Sounds like you are wasting the guys time

[patata101]

why didn't you think of my time too lmao

[jahaims]

Because you are the flake stringing him along, deciding if you can put up with a long list of turn offs.

[patata101]

i confronted him with it he said he's okay with waiting for me to make sure of my feelings. you have no idea how it's killing me thinking id waste anybody's time or hurt their feelings

[jahaims]

Good. Keep up the good communication. That is the foundation of every healthy relationship.

[Staximus]

Long distance relationships are bullshit. Move on with your life.

[patata101]

we are from the same country, it's just a matter of time till we turn this into a real life relationship.

[Imsmurter1]

wow you are hot! I'd like you to be my girlfriend instead please and thank you

[slatyb]

Isn't it obvious? You should stop seeing him.

[patata101]

you don't think i should wait until we get to see each other regularly rather than ending things based on online feelings?

[slatyb]

I think you already know enough to know he's not the one for you. Can't you meet someone local?

[patata101]

i can, but im unstable so ldr is inevitable 🥹 .. this guy is amazing though, i was so sure at some point now I don't know.. maybe the problem is in me not him

[Anonymous]

I assume he was the one that asked you out

[Tstrbrainer]

You look familiar

[urpapi69]

Where are you from?

[MrHappy99]

I'd move on.