If this is your first in-person meeting, moving in right afterward is a TERRIBLE idea. You need to be seeing this person regularly to find out how he lives and what your living arrangement would look like by knowing him over time.
And if you would not be working, you'd be financially dependent on him. Another terrible idea. What if you decide you want to leave? How could you if you have no money and he controls it?
Don't move in with ANYONE, ANYWHERE, AT ANY TIME if you do not have INDEPENDENT FINANCIAL MEANS and the ability to leave the living situation whenever you want.
Frankly, his rushing to move right in sounds like he's setting you up to keep you whether you want to be kept or not. I'd be worried. Don't do this.
Don't move in with anyone you haven't known in-person for more than a year, and preferably, longer than that. And don't get yourself into any kind of setup where you are dependent on a stranger. Because, this man IS a stranger. You know him from his words, NOT from his actions. Actions speak loudest.
And his rushing to move in with you sounds scary. Be incredibly cautious. Do you know if this man has any criminal history? Do you know any of his friends or family? Where is he from and where are you from? This sounds like all kinds of wrong.
Wait. Get a job and your own money. Don't set yourself up for failure.
Moving in can be a break it or make it to many people. You talk about it as a whole about where your relationship is at, where is your relationship heading with the purpose of moving in, making sure you both are fully on the same page and committed, do you have a strong foundation of your relationship, what does living together look like on lifestyle and financially, do some budgeting and research on cost of living together, ask why he wanna move in, are you truly comfortable being yourself with him and vice versa, and most importantly are you / ready / for this step. Not because he wants to and it feels pressuring. But are you truly ready in your personal and relationship step. If you’re not ready, it’s more than okay to share you want to in the future but not at this moment and to continue building your relationship in areas you wanna build together first. There’s just so much to talk about it in my opinion.
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Get some time to know each other a bit and learn his situation. Get a few months to a year to know each other. See each other on aggravating days, gloomy days, happy days, and etc.
You can figure out technicalities after discussing it of course, but first you both need to establish deciding other things together and ensuring he respects you in a mutual way.
Decide on movies. Decide on what you’ll both eat or do for a day together. Hear each other out. I say in general hear but really make sure he hears you. I can trust you’ll already want to hear his side so make sure to value your side in this matter too
ESPECIALLY since he’d be moving in with YOU into your place.
Find out his living situation subtly with time you know. I don’t mean investigate too much. Enjoy your time with him, but make sure to take note of things and ask every few weeks or so about his job or family. Stuff like that to see if he’d potentially be using you for some citizenship or money. Stuff like that.
Ask about his previous girlfriends and get some insight on that. Figure out the type of individual he is before you actually answer:
is this right or not. Are we ready or not.
Those will be more clear and manageable when you know him, he respects you, and you both can agree on things. If you’re not at those points in time?….
Major pass on this and save it for another season or so.
u You can't possibly know as soon as you meet for the first time. This sounds like a formula to ruin any chance you might have.
Hey, I would say the following:
- He expresses a desire to take the relationship to the next level and discuss his thoughts and feelings about living together.
- He is committed to the relationship and see a future together, indicating he is ready for a more serious step.
- You guys have spent enough time together to understand each other's habits, routines, and lifestyles.
- You have talked about logistics, such as where you would live, how expenses would be shared, and how household responsibilities would be divided.
- You both are emotionally mature and stable, able to handle the challenges and compromises that come with cohabitation.
- You guys align in your long-term goals and visions for the relationship, which may include living together.
I would conclude by saying, that It's important to have open and honest communication about moving in together, consider your own readiness, and make sure both partners are on the same page before taking this step. Each relationship is unique, so timing and readiness can vary from person to person.
Best wishes to you!
No. Nope, do not allow that to happen. He could be abusive you have no idea. I suggest they stay at a motel/hotel for at least 6 months. You need to learn who this person actually is. Being from a different country is huge red flags. Be very very careful
He should get his own place near you.
It gives you both non scheduled time to actually know one another, experience how the other lives and their house manners on their own and with a guest. You get to all experience each others spending and eating habits.
Never feel bad for having boundaries.
Absolutely no at this point, no, no and no again. you do not meet and then move in with a perfect stranger in the flesh, this has massive red warning flags, my opinion of course...
Do not move him in. Date for a while longer closer to each other. Moving in us a big step. It's not about if he is ready. Some guys like to use and live off of women. Learn more about each other and future dreams and plans for your future first. Don't want to be stuck living with the wrong person
Have the conversation and if things are looking good, both of you should decide on a day for him to move in.
However, he’s long distance and you don’t know why he’s eager about moving in with you. If you are unsure, don’t ever let him move in
you've never met him in person before? do NOT live together...
From my understanding you guys don't even know each other personally. That sounds way too risky.
Well unless you have a crystal ball of time traveling machine, there's no way to know for sure until you actually do it.
Sounds like a bum who is too broke or no credit to get his own place. Beware.
Men carry so little they leave a jacket and pants and they are halfway there already. But to answer they will usually say so.
The hell? RED FLAG, girl! Don't do it!!
He's trying to scam you.
Does he just want to play house with you? Ask what bills he can afford to pay when he moves in…
No, do not move with him until you feel ready. Its too soon in my opinion.
Honestly it's a terrible plan.
Once you get married
Definitely don't move in on first meeting
Just ask him on his opioion
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