How will I know if im ready to move in with him?

[Anonymous]

[DoggyDude]

Good question. I'd say IME you should consider the following things before agreeing to take the step:

o What does him moving in mean to you?

One common mistake people make is thinking moving in is just, well, moving in.. its rarely so, it's usually got a lot of surrounding assumptions by both sides (examples include, practical reasons, it signifies a deepened relationship, sexual reasons and even totally un thought out, with it meaning little to nothing to one or both parties).

So understand what it means to you, and then...

o Find out what it means to HIM?

Do this in a way that doesn't reveal too much about your reasons, because that would be "leading it witness" talk openly about what he's thinking, and ask what might worry him etc. Try to get the most unbiased view of how he's seeing it out the gate.

o Decide if that's enough?

Did what he say out the gate make you just swoon and feel amazed your so alike? Then maybe its time to agree and move forward. Though typically you'll get a shock and it will be different than you may have imagined.

o Decide if its way too far away from what you imagined?

If its way off from what you would ever have imagined, its a good time to gracefull back off and maybe reconsider quite a few things.

o If its 'close' but there's a few sticking points...

Talk with him about the bits which concern you and understand his reasoning as impartially as possible, and afterwards if you get that share some of your views on what moving in means and what your expectations are; Gently and with awareness of where you may compromise to meet his

If after all these steps you feel good about the starting position your ready to move in (though do be sure to establish ground rules early, what are deal breakers and have a plan for moving back out, because you never truly know what someone is like to live with long term until you've shared a space).

[slatyb]

What do you want from the relationship in the long run? Are you hoping for marriage? Children? If your hope is to be married, then you are ready to move in with him when you are ready to set a decision date. For example, "If we're not planning a wedding after a year, then I'm going to move on."

[laly520]

do u have any doubts? if yes then u aren't fully prepared to do so

[OlderAndWiser]

Living Together. . . Will It Work For You?

[Avicenna]

If you have doubts, you aren't ready

[Lara_Croft]

After you say i do