If your kids weren't doing anything with their lives after they graduated highschool, when would you wonder if that's just who they are gonna be?

[Anonymous]

Instead of being optimistic that they will figure out and get motivated

After a year or two of graduating highschool

Anything after 5 years if they still are doing nothing don't expect change

Would give them like a decade or so since brains mature differently

By the time they are 30, they should have seen where their peers are at and tried to better themselves

At some point you might get them tested for ADHD or Autism if that were to keep up

A total of 7 votes were cast: 3 girls and 4 guys. See detailed results

[NathanDavis]

I would be proactive about it... rather than passive, after all, it is my responsibility... lol

I would just not let them to reach that point... and taking me as an example of that, I actually didn't do much after I graduated high-school... it's not like I was not doing ANTYHING at all, I just didn't have a clear path, definitely not a concrete plan either

and my parents didn't really pressure me into anything, they did ask, they did talk with me about it... but, as I said... I wasn't completely inactive

I went to college at age 20, just to quit it two years later... half-way, lmfao

22 years old... that was the age in which I finally got more serious about these things, and it's been fine, since then

[ohsheeT]

That's what you do from one years old until they're 18 is you teach them all of this so when it comes time they are already motivated already doing it themselves they understand what it takes to live they understand if they want something they have to work for it if they understand they don't want a dead end job they want something they enjoy doing you teach them this while they're growing you don't wait until after the fact

[DishLady]

I offered mine the alternative of working or going to school right out of high school. One chose school, the other chose work. I clearly stated that there would be no deadbeats in the family so they will have to get off their butts. Insurance runs out at 26... get going. And they did. They're not in fields that I personally would have chosen for them, but they're happy. So...

[Nikki1989]

I would be booting them out of the house by 18. You should have a good idea of what you want to do with your life by then.

[slatyb]

Wondering? What's the use of wondering? I would be wondering if they were happy and if there was anything I could to do to help them. Sometimes there isn't much parents can do for adult children who are failing to thrive.

[astlavista]

people can still change direction at almost any age.

[jahaims]

I would be having conversations with them and helping them move along. My kids are too motivated to not do anything with their lives so I'm not worried about it.

[Staximus]

If I had a kid then they better at least have a job after high school

[loveyouoak]

I wouldn't care, because it's their life.

[Anonymous]

Maybe 5 years