Is fear of rejection learned, even in adults who can survive independently?

[jennifer_bloom]

I have met more than one person that could not handle rejection and I think it is very common to be afraid of rejection, but some people turn that pain into a tool for anger and revenge which is not a healthy way to cope with rejection.

[purplepoppy]

Everything is learned or more often taught. Most men won't ask out beautiful women because they've felt the sting of rejection so they adjust their standards. But what of the guy who got knocked back by some gopping minger? Quite often he'll spend the rest of his life fearing rejection.

Same with jobs. Knock a man back for a well paid skilled job and he can handle it. Reject him for a minimum wage job a retarded chimp could do and you break his spirit.

It's why I think if you are going to reject someone for any reason it's best to tell a little white lie so you don't ruin their life.

[KypHistory91]

I think you are right