I feel so insecure about falling in love with someone. I get a lot of feelings like,
Girls might only love me for money (since i dont see myself as handsome, i am darkskinned so i have been made to accept by everyone that i dont look good enough)
I am good at my work though.
I feel sometimes if i fall for someone and what if she is not the right one, and also if i leave someone then what if that person was the one.
How to be a strong man?
Stop caring what others think mate. You are dark skinned. You know what that means? You have a higher concentration of melanin than I do. Why is that way? Because of evolution your ancestors evolved darker skin to better absorb heat and the more intense sunlight and to release it slower during the opposite cold that comes during the day. Where as my ancestors needed a lighter skintone as we get weaker sunlight and the temperature of our environment is more even day and night. So if anyone is saying you are less than because of your skin color you and them have the exact same skin. You just have different concentrations of melanin. You need to love who you are as you are and not worry about changing for others or being what others want. Not everyone is going to want you. That is fine. Some are going to want you and that is also fine.
Fake it til you make it.
Look... ultimately everyone has their issues. There is no such thing as a perfect human, no matter what some might have you believe. Everyone is putting up a front on some level or other just to get by.
And, perhaps more importantly, nobody is actually all that concerned about anyone else. That is to say people are self-absorbed, and typically far more hung up on their own issues than anyone else's, for better or worse. If you have to fake confidence to get by, nobody is going to scrutinise it closely.
... In fact if you fake confidence hard enough, you'll probably get called arrogant a lot. Speaking from experience. But whatever. Pseudo-arrogance still works.
I understand you, but believe me, one day you will meet your destiny.🤗🤗
Note: I may have some spelling errors.😰😰
start with throwing all that BS out of the window. If you can't do it alone, ask a specialist for help.
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Focus on yourself. Be the best man for no one else but yourself. If you think having a relationship is something you want it'll eventually find you. Women seek successful men. That's just their nature. They're going to look for money and status they can take from a man via divorce after having kids and gaining even more money through child support. She'll wait till that cash flow from child support ends when the children are at the age where child support is no longer necessary then she'll break out the divorce papers.
Be a man 1 Corinthians 16 vs 13, find a Godly male mentor and form a strong rapport with a Godly men's group. You were created in God's image-never doubt that.
Rejection is always a risk. That is the price of playing. But the idea that being dark-skinned makes you unattractive is just bullshit.
m seek therapy
u have long way to go
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