How do I stop being insecure?

[Datboi65]

The minute you STOP looking for validation, and start on a journey. If you are self-motivated to improve, you have less time for crap. You will feel much better about yourself, and you will notice the difference just like others would too. It's a mental battle. Most of the time, others can really care less when you're all up in your mind thinking that people think of you as beneath them or whatever, but it's all in your head. You might be 5 pounds overweight, but people don't give a damn. The minute it gets noticeable, is the minute they will start judging. HOWEVER, if it makes you feel any better, you should not strive for mediocrity, but for success. So maybe 5 pounds isn't bad and people don't give a shit, but maybe you think that you can do better and you go on and you do something about it. That's the spirit. I'm using that as an example, but this applies to anything. Your grades are average? Doesn't mean you're stupid, just means you're not working hard enough. Wanna make more money? Put In the hours. Once you realize what your potential is, you can care less what others think, because you are on a MISSION. When you are on a mission, you are focused. When you are focused, you stay consistent. When you stay consistent, you see results. When you see results, you start to feel better. When you start to feel better, you are no longer insecure. That needs to come from within. Whatever it is, you are your biggest critic, so do something about. Nobody will motivate you or give you anything, you have to achieve it. Once you're there, it's a different feeling.

[abc3643]

Chloe, this is a very good question.

Honestly, it primarily comes with time (maturing) and experience.

What are you insecure about?

Your looks? (I will assume so.)

We've been telling you for 3 or 4 years now that you have a wonderful body.
But we are just virtual people.
Surely, young men at college must be enticed by you.
Are you not noticing them and how they react to you?

Don't worry. They WILL notice you and then you will notice that in them. You will be asked out on dates and never be shy of male companionship if you wish.

Your real problem is that many young men are going to just want to have sex with you because of your body. Now, every young man will be enticed by it, so you need to find out which of them is actually interested in you or just your body.

Here's how you can tell:
The ones only interested in your body will be impatient. Once they begin to think "She's not going to put out", they quickly drift away from you. But, the ones who actually like you for being you - they will stay and, to them, having sex with you is just icing on the cake.

So, if you are insecure about your looks, you really have nothing to worry about and your experiences over the next couple of years will teach you that.

Are you insecure about something else? Schoolwork? Do you have tiger parents at home?

Let us know in an update what you are insecure about.

Good luck, young lady!

[Buntyp]

Physical exercise. Find a physical activity that works for you and just start doing it. Focus on that and not on whatever the reasons are that make you feel insecure. If you can't think of any activity that catches your interest, start running. Start with jogging, if you need to, but get it up to real road and track running.
The physical effect of that kind of cardio workout is that you will gain confidence as you gain in fitness. Your whole physical presence will become easy and light, as muscles you didn't even know that you had will also become invigorated. It will make your life better. Check it out.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don’t believe confidence is based on beauty cause I know 200 and 250 pound woman who are confident and I know gorgeous girls with dozens of guys chasing them who are insecure about how they look, you look nice but you need to base your confidence more on spiritual or mental or practical things, and if you do that already, you need to do that even more, that is the only way to have complete confidence cause looks can only give you partial confidence.

[ohshee]

Omg you just did it. I have answered so many of your question . When you ask you one thing but you really want the answer to something else and now today you just did it by asking a true question on what it's really all about
So that means I have just watched you grow first of all look in the mirror and smile because you are very beautiful. second of all. Quit trying to make guys like you by the way you dress. That tells me you're not confident.
I guess I should have started this out by saying first of all be honest with yourself at all times
Love yourself for who you are love yourself enough that you don't try to make boys like you believe me every boy on this planet likes you okay put that into your art don't get over cocky with it be yourself if you want to wear something that not the newest thing or whatever it's just you and that's what you feel comfortable in to it you are you and only you and when you find that you inside of you that's when you will be so confident and so happy and guys will just follow you around like little puppy dogs one of these days I wish you would send me a message I would tell you a lot more things you have it all you just don't know it or are you not too much I don't know which one yet find that balance and you'll find yourself

[OpenClose]

I mean you can post a pic on here and then everyone can point out the obvious which is that you're gorgeous.

Problem is, you'll become dependent on external affirmation and will start freaking out if this affirmation ever starts decreasing. So you're going to want it to come from within.

That's about all I can say because beyond that, I'm still learning to do the same myself. Mostly learning new skills to help me feel self-sufficient and able.

Another thing you can do is sing. I had always wanted to sing but thought my voice was horrible on any recording. I just kinda started doing it anyway and once you get used to your own voice, it helps a lot. I posted the video on youtube and got a much better reaction than I could have anticipated. But then again, that's getting affirmation from an external source. So its affects are temporary.

[Cycloteur]

First you need to figure out what you want from life. Then where to find it and how to get it. Then you just need to do it, which is the hard part. Look around and see all the others around you who simply get what they want when on front of them. They look a lot loke you, so why shouldn't be able to do the same?
Then I promise if I ever see you or someone else hesitating getting whats in front of them to gently, but firmly, push you towards it and tell you that you deserve it. When you realise how easy it is I expect you to do the same whem you see someone hesitate achiving or getting something right in front of them.
This is easy, just do it and evolve.

[humpbackjack]

Everyone has things they’re insecure about and you just have to realize that nobody’s perfect and really anybody that looks down on someone or try’s to put someone down for these imperfections isn’t anybody you want around you anyways so who cares what they think. Majority of the people that act like that are the ones that have the biggest insecurities and if they were to get called out on theirs it would bring them to their knees. It’s difficult to give words of encouragement without knowing what you’re insecure about but usually nobody else even notices what you’re tripping on

[jasco]

Their is a true method to stop, because everyone is different. Confidence can come from several different places but the best place is from within. You need to accept yourself and realize that no amount of training or whatever is you do that keeps your body the way it is, will change how you are look at. At the end of the day, you are who you are. Your a human being and because of that you will always make mistakes, but accepting and reflecting on them is what makes us so great. Realize that your flawed and thats perfectly fine to be flawed. Whats wrong with being different? Accept yourself even if others do not but do not let that acceptance turn into toxicness because it can lead to bad things. Just love and accept yourself, because you can't go into a different body. your stuck in that meat sack till you die so yea

[TonyMetal___86]

You can stop being insecure by knowing that your a beautiful Asian girl and there is nothing wrong with your face and body...

When you take photos in your room, sometimes you show too much skin, like in this photo and sometimes you show more and that's something that i don't like about you...

Showing cleavage amd appearing like that will only bring you people who will make you feel insecure or boost this insecure thought that you have, without mentioning all the thirsty sexual predators...

[Wraith_Cemetery]

If you think posting half naked pictures online is going to stop making you feel insecure, then you're sorely mistaken. That will only feed into your insecurities even more. It's a known fact that women these days are more insecure and depressed than ever because they have millions of other women to compare themselves to online.

In previous generations, before social media, women compared themselves to family members or friends. Although that can be bad as well, it's no where near as excruciating as the current social media era.

Your self worth isn't determined by how other women look, your self worth isn't determined by your physical features. You can gain more by reaching wholistic goals such as bettering society, bettering yourself, getting out into society and doing something important.

[ZackBan]

Insecurity is part of what makes us who we are it's not something to stop. Without Insecurity you're airing on the side of being a psychopath.

What yoy need is self confidence in a sense that even your insecurities don't scare you and you can face the challenges that come with it

[JDAC2209199]

I don't know if It'd help you but for me it was achieving a certain fitness level and then it was any progress I made in a completely alien hobby. I suppose to rap it up, I'd just say try new things that you've always wanted to do, you may not succeed at all of them but it'll be fun when you do and that might boost your self esteem.

[IceEmbers]

Maybe by recognizing that your opinion on yourself matters more than others. Insecurities is usually generally by society or love ones and tends to be very inaccurate. Once you realize your worth in yourself, likely individuals will respect the worth of you. Suggestion only: But figure out what makes you love yourself, and then see what happens tommorow.

[Leonharted]

By accepting that you can only do your best. Be healthy, dress as well as you can, and be the best person as often as possible (and apologize when you fail to be your best). At that point, accept that you are doing the absolute best that you can, and that there's nothing more that you can do but what you are already doing.

[fuZzypeach]

Stop putting pictures like this of yourself on the internet. You are looking for reassurance from strangers. You will never feel good about sekf as long as you seek attention from others
Know your worth... find the thingsu think are amazing about you and bring them out. Fuck what others think... are u happy with who u are?
If u are the rest falls into place
I learned I was dope wheb I was young and I don't give a fuck who agrees. I rock... I love me... and thats really all that matters

[Prof_Don]

Everyone has insecurities about something.


Intentionally try to spot the insecurities that other people may have about themselves. The more you do this, the more you realize that everyone is insecure about something.


Therefore, you will realize that everyone is one a level playing field, and you won’t feel “below” anybody when it comes to self-esteem.

[loveslongnails]

Insecure about exactly WHAT?
Maybe if you accomplished some things worth going after, instead of getting "likes" and compliments about your looks on social media, you'd feel better about yourself? Just a thought.

99% of the men on here tell you over and over - you're a good looking girl. But yet, you consistently ask to hear it again and again, always posting "how do I look"?

All insecurities, whatever they are, FEED on themselves, and you seem to keep feeding yours. If you want to stop "feeling" that way, you have to stop feeding them and alter how you think. You do that by "thinking" in the first place - and recognizing what you're afraid of, and realizing (through thinking and talking it through), that you've nothing to be fearful of. That's how you start. Seeing an expert to help you isn't a bad idea either.

[hellacray]

Get off social media.

And know nobody really cares that much how you look. When you're walking around you may think everyone got their eyes on you but in reality everyone is minding their own business.

Also learn to not care. So someone thinks you're ugly so what? Do you believe it? Is it true? Does their opinion matter?

[Makeushiver]

I’m not sure how a woman as attractive as you could feel insecure. In any case forget about what you think people think about you. If you are independent from the judgement of other people you can’t be insecure. In the meantime, trust me, you are lovely, believe me.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Look in the mirror instead of your phone. If that doesn't work, nothing will.
I'd say make something of yourself acomplishment or talent wise, but you might already be doing that, and if that were the solution, you wouldn't be posting provocative selfies.

[Anonymous]

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[Godsvengeance]

The key is learning to realize that the opinions of other people are generally unimportant. Once you accept that, you will lose some of what generally causes insecurity (the feeling others are judging you, especially negatively). Remember, never take into account the opinion of someone you wouldn't ask for advice and odds are that's a pretty short list.

[naraku]

Slowly.

You have to build confidence with who you are and accept you're great.
Not everyone will think so, you'll always have negative moments. That's life.

But just find something about yourself to appreciate and build off that. Even if it's something small like loving your hair that's a start.