Should I Feel Insecure?

[Anonymous]

I'm a black woman my boyfriend is white. As a woman I've watched his gaze and he never looks at woman that look like me. He usually looks at blonde hair blue eyes white girls or if he does stare at a black girl she's lighter and thinner I'm neither of these girls. It's almost like a lighter or whiter skin tone captures his eyes I'm dark and bigger. "The girls in your IG and FB never look like me" it makes me feel bad like I'm not good enough or I'm not pretty enough. Should I feel insecure? He compliments me tells me I'm pretty and got but I don't know... Please explain why he told me that if we weren't together he'd hurt on me but I don't believe it I laughed and he did too

Yes your should feel insecure

No you shouldn't feel insecure

[Chris_7565]

It just depends what his preferences are.
I was with a Native woman for many years and she was always scared I would leave her for some blonde that didn't exist, she would even have nightmares about it and wake up mad at me. She had no idea how happy I was with her and that she's all I really wanted.

[Asker]

Why does it depend on his preference

[Chris_7565]

Well some people have a specific type that they're attracted to. I'm strongly attracted to women of other races. I usually love darker colored eyes, dark hair, darker skin tones than my own. I am attracted to some women of my own race, but usually if I'm with a woman who's my type, she shouldn't be worried, or feeling insecure about White women. I can't speak for your boyfriend though. If you strongly feel that he's not giving his love to you, then he may not be the White guy for you.

[Asker]

He loves me it just has me questioning

[Chris_7565]

That's understandable, and these details are important.
If I was dating a woman and it seemed like she was all about Black guys, you can bet I would start to question why she's with me?
I would wanna know if she has a preference for guys who look different than me or what?
I can see your side of it.

[Asker]

Thank you!!

[Chris_7565]

Sure, good luck with everything. 🙂

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel… my boyfriend is also attracted to Chinese girls and he’s almost exclusively dated
them only, plus he follows a lot of Chinese girls on IG. I’m not Chinese and it makes me feel insecure sometimes but then again he’s dating me and is loyal to me. It might be hard not to feel insecure but I’m sure your boyfriend loves you and is attracted to you, he might check out other girls but as long as he’s loyal, you should have nothing to worry about 😊

[Goth_cat]

I dont think you should ever feel insecure for your complexion or size. Black women with dark skin are absolute goddesses. That being said of it makes you uncomfortable you should probably talk to him and its anyway weird that he gazes other women while he's already with you

[MCheetah]

No one can make you feel insecure but yourself.

Said, a physically insecure person.

[DanniOnnaNimbus]

Maybe its like a fantasy he can't have. In reality i think anybody would feel some Alittle insecure.