I catch myself having little patience with my mom at times. She is getting older and it also goes back to her comments like, don't get home late. Where are you? She would say mean comments when I was younger and wanting to go out and have fun and now that I am older and she lives with me she doesn't as much but it's like my patience still runs thin and at times I lash out and make her feel bad which again I try not to but at times I can't help it. How do you all practice patience with parents now that they are getting older?
I didn't , my mother was a pain in the arse and in hindsight she had a poor influence on me with her negatively, there were all kinds of examples including employment in a role where I eventually made my money ( after her death ) , so I still at my age bear the wounds she left , she used to sing in poem form " I'm not the greatest mother in the world " that really pisses me off , when I think of it now.
Another time , I was bashed ( king hit ) on a violent new years eve , not my doing different times , and she said " did you hit him back " , I came to with a knife to my throat..
She was horrendous , with her destructional parenting..
My advice , is dont accept what is happening and make it black and white clear that you will NOT be accepting crap , I did not follow her lead with my two kids , they have done really well , I'm 63 years old , and this stuff is still in the back of my mind , so please , dont just cop it , stand up to her and explain where the power sits now.
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I took care of both of my parents for many years before they passed. My mother just passed last year at 93.
The one piece of advice I have is this. Remember that she is your mother and never lose your patience. Taking care of my mom and her final years was torture, the hardest job I ever had in my life. She had dementia and all kinds of habits that she could not control but were infuriating to deal with. Every minute of every day around the clock was a challenge for years.
I maintained my patience the best I possibly could and it took a toll on me. But the worst part of all was a few times that I exploded with anger and said things to her that I will always regret.
Remember that she is your mother, you are here today because of her. Remind yourself of that when you are tempted to say something that you will always regret.
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Remember, they had patience when you were a baby, colic, teething, no sleep, teaching you how to use a spoon, potty training, when you were 2 and 3 years old.
So now it your turn.
You just have to nod your head and smile a lot.
Someday all to soon you will be planting flowers on their grave.
Sit her down and set your boundaries. Think plan write and do it again until you know what you'll accept and what you won't. Possibly even have a friend of hers be informed in advance prior to you doing this That way she'll have somebody to bitch to when she gets upset.
Set boundaries. If she lives with you, you make the rules. Tell her what you do is none of her business and if she continues to disrespect your boundaries she can live elsewhere.
My parents were just the same, the trick is to not get into arguments with them. Does she have medical problems that make it difficult
realize it might not be her fault. It might be early onset alzheimers
It is done the same way parents practice patience with their kids…. It works both ways….
I don't. My parents are dead.
Imagine her gone.
One day at a time.
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