Do you think girls can take the first step towards a boy?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Sure.
My first girlfriend approached me first. She saw me sitting alone and took the opportunity to sit down and start chatting. I was 16 and didn't know how to approach girls yet.

I had other girls approach me, too, through the years. I dated a few of them and a couple of them became long-term girlfriends.

Some girls just sent clear messages that they liked me and I asked them out.

Of course, I asked a few girls out without any signals from them and wound up in long-term relationships with a couple of them.

When I was 40, I met my wife for the first time at a restaurant after we had made a date through a pre-internet dating organization. We wound up chatting effortlessly for a couple of hours and got along great. I really liked her. She even gave me a soft, lingering kiss before we got in our cars to leave.

The thing is, I had a couple of other dates from the organization lined up and planned to meet those girls to see what they were like.

But two days after our date, my (future) wife called me. I was surprised. She said some friends had offered her two tickets to see the Rolling Stones and Red Hot Chili Peppers and wondered if I was interested. Of course I was interested!

I picked her up to go to the concert. On the way from the parking lot into the stadium, she slipped her hand into mind. We held hands a lot during the concert and then back out to my car afterwards.

When I dropped her off at her place we made out.

I admired her initiative and courage in calling me after our first date. She was proactive. Everything she did told me that she was really into me. So we became exclusive.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

With firm boundaries, anyone should be able to step towards any other person for the sake of romance. It is however, tricky we often blind ourselves by the conception of love, not understanding far too often the reality that life has other plans.

Often the connotative understanding that one will eventually become two does not always pan out for everyone.

Unfortunately, that happens often and is simply a part of being human.

Now to more directly answer your question If one should feel love in their heart for another weather or not, or the other should approach is never the question man or woman alike.

So I say, walk confidently and ask bravely; because fortune often favors the bold, and nothing in life worth having comes without cost. Women have every right to approach and every ability to do so. Women being women means nothing in this very specific subject.

One loves, one wants, one dose try, and that’s all one can do.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

I did and now I have a boyfriend. Some guys are just shy and sit there and fixate on pursuing a woman because of fear. A woman can squash that by noticing and acknowledging his interest if she’s also interested

Sea_Breeze16 · Accepted Answer

If the guy is good and he is worth it, then definitely yes. I believe that the rule of moving toward meeting each other should apply in relationships. If I took a step, then he should do the same.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, nothing wrong with it , A girl just approached me this past weekend when I was at a concert , she walked up to me and introduced herself and started a conversation with me and yes flirting with me , I flirted back cuz I thought she was beautiful, so we exchanged numbers

Summeroflove · Answer

Yeah…. It’s best not to waste time waiting.

HawkPerception · Answer

Absolutely they can. It's only societal norms that pressure men to initiate and women to wait to be asked out.

But men like being approached as much as women do. Everyone likes the feeling of being desired. Men appreciate it even more than women because it's much more rare for them to be approached than women. If anything, men will likely be more attentive to you and give you more of a chance than a girl that they initiate with.

Obviously, it doesn't mean a girl is guaranteed to get a guy she approaches. It still depends on her attraction level... both physically and compatibility-wise. But you can bet her chances highly increase if she initiates.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Of course it's OK. The idea that girls should not approach boys was antiquated more than 50 years ago when I was young. The first two girls I went out with approached me.

After all these years, people still hang on to that old concept. Girls especially hang on to this idea, because waiting for the guy is a lot easier than getting the courage to do it the other way around.

If you want something, then go for it. If you wait for him to approach you, you might wait forever. Are you willing to just walk away and not get what you want, because of some very old antiquated idea? Are you willing to look back years from now and kick yourself for the one who got away?

One of you has to approach the other. If neither of you approaches, there is zero chance of anything happening.

EmmaMary · Answer

@white_swan_  Absolutely... Why on earth shouldn't we?

uncleBobbyb77 · Answer

Yes and she should. A woman wants to be with a man who will build a world for her with her so she needs to show him she's worth it and she's got his back. The man is expected to be the provider and doesn't usually care if the woman is unemployed so you better be ready to give him everything else he needs and is looking for if she wants to hook a good one. Women want men to make the first move but if he shows her she has him hooked too soon then she's not interested and he's friend zoned. They say they want a man to show them they love her but go after the men that seem disinterested and care the least. That's the way it is at least in the beginning. Save us all a lifetime of doing things backwards and expecting positive results and approach the man you want instead of waiting for the good one you missed and never recognized cause you friend zoned him and he found someone else. We aren't boys and girls. We are men looking for a woman

RebelinSteel · Answer

Yes there is no reason a girl cannot make the first step, it happens and I’ve had it happen a couple of times, mainly as I’m dense and miss the ‘she’s interested’ clues lol.

summiter · Answer

Of course they can and they should if they like the guy or are interested in him. Have you tried it with boys?

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

Oh, definitely. It's a very helpful thing for most guys, since he knows he can at least talk to you. :)

Ευδεμονια · Answer

I honestly think they can, they have the possibility to and these times allow them to do so.
Honestly I think they should be more open and courageous in general but I think it all depends on the cultural context they’re in.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

Yes. That’s how I started dating my boyfriend. I don’t wait around.

mstbooblover · Answer

Of course girls can, and should from time to time take the first step towards a guy ! This is meanwhile also an excellent test in field of tact and openness of mind, on behalf of as well the girl as the guy.

Kreneman · Answer

Oh yes, my lady took the first step to approach me, and now we are engage to married.

Jennz6 · Answer

I agree with @emmamary , girls can make the first move

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Damn, this question has a lot of responses. Easy answer? Yes! Complex answer? Society has conditioned men and women to view relationships in a different light so it seems desperate to make the first move

fhaofhrnwpalxbr · Answer

I personally think it works better if a girl’s move is to attract. Like asking him to help out or even telling him you want to go to this cute cafe with him. And he can plan it out, help you, and eventually ask you out.

Kevininja363 · Answer

They can but they should be aware not all of us are responsive. I would freeze up and not sure what to say.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Of course why not? I'm ur age and have had girls take the first step and I have also taken the first step. It should not matter. Message me if u want to talk about it!

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Yes most do take the first step. Might not be what you are thinking tho right?

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

In life if you never try you will never know & in life if you like someone don’t be afraid to let them know & don’t be afraid to try.

If you like someone go for it because if you don’t someone else will.

You snooze you lose.

adventurous-1 · Answer

absolutely, especially in todays world where guys are not always sure how a girl is going to react.

slatyb · Answer

Of course they can. If you like someone, invite them to lunch or whatever.

dustybiker2 · Answer

I would have always been single if I hadn't.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Of course. A situation like this is like comparing using a toilet to peeing in the ocean, it makes no difference

Nikki1989 · Answer

They can, and sometimes they have no other choice to snag their guy.

Paul09 · Answer

Yes of course. Both are grown adults. Both can ask each other out. I'd blush if it happened to me. That is if I like her back too.

Pohjolan · Answer

Of course. Something like say approaching a guy to have a conversation with him isn't even a move yet.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Of course they  can , but few  do .

At3mis24 · Answer

The most beautiful can do it, yes, but the uglies like me, no never, it's too risky!

DreamLife7 · Answer

If you have to resort to this it means your ugly and that he doesn't like u. Not sure what ur not comprehending

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

There is absolutely no reason why not!

Anonymous · Answer

Of course they can, and should. You increase your odds.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Of course. And they probably should take the first step. It clears up communication issues.

Theodoricus · Answer

Men should take the first step towards women.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course they can, but dues to a combination of cowardice and entitlement, most women never do.

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

They can, but, it might make them look desp.

Dongie · Answer

Heck yeah. Don't be ascared. Rejection only stings a little bit.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Definitely, if you don’t show interest then why would we pursue you?

handsomelad70 · Answer

Yes, and they should if the boy they fancy is shy.

dragoblack · Answer

Yes. There's nothing stopping girls from doing that.

JJones03 · Answer

Yeah, it just depends on the person's confidence really

NathanDavis · Answer

they can and they have

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Sure I guess why not

DryGermanGuy · Answer

They can and they do, all the time. 🤷‍♂️👍

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

It isn't illegal

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Fo sho! And more should!

Adogdog · Answer

Of course! I would love that!

HelpfulWoman · Answer

duh. easy

DrPepper12 · Answer

Not only can but should!

longjump89 · Answer

They can, but they choose not to.

Rangers · Answer

They can, but why on earth would they?

Emmytexrex · Answer

Yh you can actually do that

mayurr · Answer

I never think about that which never happens.

dean53AU · Answer

Of course she can.

serious · Answer

Yes of course

andy530 · Answer

Yes absolutely

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

Yes absolutely

Pterodon · Answer

Definitely

StaceyLynne · Answer

Absolutely!!!

mickeysmonkey · Answer

Sure of course

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