My boyfriend wouldn’t block his girlfriend even though I always feel insecure about her and we always fighting about it?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend have a girlfriend that he knows long before we know each other and they know each other from gaming site. I didn’t know what kind of relationship they had because he once deleted all their message together when we started dating. A while ago he asked for a break during an argument and then he break up with me. During our break up my boyfriend started texting this girl back and talking about meeting her and all. We broke up for a while and back together. To my surprise, this girl is moving from her country to someplace close to where my boyfriend was living. After we back together, he didn’t even mention that they girl was moving close by until i check their text and found out about it. Now im always feeling insecure about it and often it cause argument. I block some of my guy friend that my boyfriend feels jealous about. But when i asked him to block this girl that i feel insecure about he said no, i will not , never block her. Do i boyfriend like her more than just friends? Should i be worried? Or im just paranoid? I love him but I couldn’t keep going being paranoid whenever he’s out of my sight. Should we just broke up so he can pursue that girl? Im confused.

[Finchie40]

Dump him , he is clearly playing you for his own selfish benefit, if he truly valued you that girl would not be a priority in his life over you period. He only cares about himself , do yourself a favor and move on from him and exempt him from your life

[didichi]

End things with him. For the sake of a relationship it’s best to cut off and distance yourself with friends of the opposite sex. I would not date a guy who has a close girl that’s his friend. The fact that you told him how you felt and he refuses to cut her off is concerning. He seems like an ass and doesn’t care about the relationship with you. I would move on.

[RandomUser1000]

It's possible to be friends with someone regardless of gender without something sexual to happen.
Otherwise bisexuals wouldn't be able or "allowed" to have any friends at all.

But it seems in this case that he can't be open and honest about it with you which is a cause for concern.
If he has to hide what they are doing, then you probably should be worried.

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to spread some love wisdom your way! 🌟 In the world of love and relationships, feeling secure is non-negotiable. The situation you're describing is sprinkled with red flags, especially when communication and reassurance are missing. Deleting messages and keeping significant information from you? Yikes, that's not the transparency relationship dreams are made of. 😬

His refusal to block someone despite knowing it causes you distress raises questions about his priorities. Relationships are about compromise, respect, and understanding each other’s insecurities, not inviting them to tea! 🫖 It seems like there's a deeper issue here than just not blocking someone.

Trust your gut feeling here. If your inner voice whispers worries and doubts, it’s crucial to address them. Have an open, heart-to-heart conversation about how this situation makes you feel. Remember, it's not about dictating who anyone can talk to, but about feeling secure and valued in your relationship. If mutual respect and understanding can’t be reached, it might be time to consider if this relationship serves your best self. 💔

Being paranoid is no way to live, darling. You deserve to feel loved and secure. If those feelings have packed their bags and left, it might be time to reassess. Remember, you're fabulous, and there's plenty of love in the sea. 🌊✨

Feeling confused or just need to vent? Slide into this chat! Let's figure it out together. 💬💕

[slatyb]

How much time is he spending communicating with her?

[Asker]

Not so much, most of the time he’s with me, only talk to her when he’s not with me. He reply to all her stories on social media and all. Maybe it was nothing and im just paranoid. But the fact that he said no for blocking her , hurts me. I don’t really mind if he did or didn’t but at least give me reassurance that he cares more about my feelings more than hers. Like if it makes you happy I will block her, or I will block her for you or if u want. But he straight says no. I will not block her because of you. What was that supposed to mean?

[slatyb]

It means that he recognizes that your request is totally unreasonable. Don't make your insecurities his problem. Consider counseling.

[Asker]

Well he reply to some of my male friends that with “you are annoying and I have boyfriends” . But he never wanna let this female friend of his know that he has girlfriend ( me) that girl think my boyfriend is single. Is it still my insecurities?

[handsomelad70]

Your boyfriend has ANOTHER broad? Why, lady, why? ( An old Country song.)

[Asker]

What does has another broad means?

[handsomelad70]

You know, a sidebabe.

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming you mean a female friend.

Get over it or find a different guy.

[Asker]

Yeah female friend.

[TheSpaceGnome]

He's going to cheat on you. End it.

[CharlotteNoivern]

Do you mean is ex

[Asker]

He said she’s just a friend. But he use to flirt around with her before we started dating, like leaving flirty comment about asking santa to give her to him for Christmas and all and it’s still bothering me