Is it wrong to harmlessly flirt with others if I have a boyfriend?

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Or it inappropriate or misleading?

juliammm · Accepted Answer

It depends on the relationship you have with your boyfriend. If you have complicity and you tell him about the fun you had flirting, then you can share the fun with him. Nothing wrong.

Or you may be in an open relationship, in which case there are no issues.

The only things wrong are lying and hiding. The threshold is determined by what you feel ok to share with your boyfriend.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Some people are naturally flirtatious and it's one thing if people misinterpret that but purposely is kind of wrong, yeah

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to decode messy heart stuff and spice it up with some truth. 😉

Harmless flirting can be okay if it’s light, respectful, and you’d do it the same way in front of your boyfriend. If you’re hiding it, seeking validation, or making someone think they have a chance, it turns into a red flag and emotional cheating territory. Honesty and boundaries keep it cute, not toxic.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes it’s wrong , because it’s borderline cheating on your partner , especially if you are doing it behind their back. Always think how you would feel if your partner was doing that to you behind your back? So by you flirting with other people behind your partners’ back , might be harmless to you , but not harmless to your partner , if they found out what you are doing behind their back. So really ask yourself why you are doing that? , if you truly love and care about your partner, you would t be doing it. So It sounds like you don’t truly love and care about him and it sounds like something is missing in your relationship with him , which you should really think about and reconsider your relationship with him , before continuing wasting your time with someone that probably isn’t meant for you. When you truly love and care about someone , flirting with other people becomes obsolete , because you love and care about your partner so much , that you do not want to hurt them in anyway , so you wouldn’t be doing that whatsoever. Flirting with other people while you are in a relationship shows you really don’t care about your partner that much , it just means you like the convenience of them but they are not your top priority, I just saw one of your other questions about your sex life with him, and my advice to you is to end that relationship immediately and find yourself someone that matches you way better because when you are with the right person, you won’t be flirting with other people period

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What is the purpose of flirting if you are supposedly in a committed relationship?

DishLady · Answer

'Harmlessly flirt'? Sounds shady to me.

ManOnFire · Answer

Females are always asking stuff like this yet they believe they are the gender who cheats the least. It's like they want to find ways to play around while they're still in a relationship but wanting it not to seem like they're doing anything wrong. If you knew it was truly right then you wouldn't be asking this.

Ask yourself this: if your boyfriend did the exact same thing, how would that make you feel? Wouldn't you feel disrespected, hurt, angry? Wouldn't you feel like he wasn't being loyal? If you don't want something like that being done to you, don't do it to your man.

BCRanger10 · Answer

You should not "innocently flirt" with anyone else if you are in a relationship already. Otherwise you risk plant seeds of interest in someone else's heart or mind, and you open yourself up to being manipulated or to being unfaithful. Just don't do it.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It would be morally wrong if you did it secretly, or if you hid that you're taken?

It would be harmless otherwise?

But then neither statement applies probably, as long as what flirting is isn't defined the same way for all parties involved?

Screenwriter · Answer

If you're simply chatting with someone and enjoying their company, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a little flirting. Keeps a little spice in your life... Just remember you boyfriend has the same license to flirt too!

bobalife · Answer

Everyone will have their own compass on flirting when taken, but personally I see it as disrespectful, inappropriate, potentially lead one thing to another, disloyalty, and misleading once you’re in a monogamous relationship.

loveslongnails · Answer

Let's see... you're 18. What do you consider harmless? And what makes you think that boys your age or a little older will think it's harmless? What does your boyfriend think of it? And the best question: WHY are you doing it? Do you still need more attention and validation, or is it something else. Ask yourself why and be honest.

Anonymous · Answer

If you’re with a guy, I know it sucks ladies but out of respect for him, you have to take yourselves off the market.

You have to get away from the “putting feelers out there, the grass is greener” mentality. Otherwise it will never work.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Just because you didn’t mean any harm doesn’t make the act itself harmless.

Flirting has a purpose.

Doing it for its own sake is unfair to everyone involved.
Both your partner and the person you gave mixed messages

Karrimurray · Answer

Honestly, I feel like it depends on what you call harmless flirting. 😭 If I’m in a relationship, I wouldn’t do anything with someone else that I’d be uncomfortable with my boyfriend doing to another girl.

FreyaRed · Answer

a little bit from both. It's questionable toward the person you flirt with and as long as your boyfriend doesn't flirt with other women and flirting is not a problem in your relationship., it's not okay towards your partner.

Anonymous · Answer

How would you feel if he "harmlessly " flirts with other woman abd compliments then on their chest and butt? Stop asking stupid questions. If you wouldn't want it done to you then you shouldn't do it to him. there's no such thing as harmlessly flirting. There's intent behind what you're doing. You're the same type who would cry rape if a man did it to you

NoDecision · Answer

Im sorry, but I can't see what's harmless about it. Is having sex the next thing that will occur because someone sees it as being "harmless"?

ElenaLena · Answer

Wdym “harmlessly flirting”  I feel it’s wrong and unfair to your boyfriend..

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I wouldn’t like it if my hubby does that.  I also won’t do that. I don’t think it’s a nice thing to do while in a relationship.  why?

molonski2 · Answer

At 18 years old? You kidding?  Should be flirting with them all , don't worry about the boyfriend.

Jersey2 · Answer

I flirt. Just for fun and to see who I can interest and how much. But it can be hurtful so be careful to your SO with that because if they see or hear about it they won’t necessarily understand it was just for fun.

georgeboy2006 · Answer

Honestly, it depends on what both people in the relationship are comfortable with! Respect and clear limits are what keep it harmless.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course it's wrong. If you are insecure enough that you require flirting with people other than your boyfriend for validation (because that's what you're doing), you have serious problems. You owe it to your man to address them.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I don't see anything wrong with a playful flirt as long as both parties know that there's nothing behind it and neither is allowing the other to take them away from their real lover.

gasman70 · Answer

yes, it's wrong, it just shows that you want to have a sexual dynamic with someone else. would you want your man to flirt with a woman the same way?

Anonymous · Answer

Well, flirting is fun, but keep in mind that it’s important to remind the people you do it with that you’re taken and to avoid of block people who get too pushy

Shy_Steve · Answer

The problem is it can be all of the above, so it is up to you if you want people to think of you like that.

If you dont care what people think of you then why would other people like you if you dont care?

BadApple69 · Answer

Yes it’s wrong but I have done it too.  Let’s be honest…. Flirting is fun.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

Um yeah? It's not as bad as full blown cheating but still pretty shitty.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Is It OK If Your Boyfriend Harmlessly Flirts With Others?

OneViewpoint · Answer

Why not show your boyfriend what you do and ask him if it's OK. There's your answer.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is harmless if the flirting happens naturally. Some people are just like that.

Miristheiss · Answer

Absolutely. He is a wuss if he doesn't break up.

Theoretical_Apulu · Answer

Depends on the boundaries between you and your partner.

glennos89 · Answer

Its inappropriate you shouldn't do that if you have moral and values

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it is, it means you're not mature enough to be in an adult relationship.. And you value someone else's attention and validation over your boyfriend.. And yeah I've been married for 13 years. If my wife pulled shit like that I'd divorce her.

andreamelissa · Answer

ABSOLUTELY WRONG 😑 WHAT DO YOU MEAN HARMLESS FLIRTING 🤷🏼‍♂️❗️?

In_Trance · Answer

Two things.  1 ask your boyfriend. I'm sure he'll have the answer  2 there's no such thing as harmless flirting

AngryCarl3 · Answer

If everyone is on the same page no one gets hurt.

Staximus · Answer

Why don’t you try doing it in front of your boyfriend and see how that works out for you

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

If i have a girlfriend, i won't flirt with other women, joke yes, flirt no!

Kelly6 · Answer

@semisweet09 It's totally normal if it doesn't harm the relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Men never take it as “harmless,” and it's disrespectful to the boyfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

That's like asking is a blowjob cheating? I mean, there's no actual penetration.🤷‍♂️😆 Or is it just inappropriate?

Maria1986z · Answer

Depend I use to get free drinks or upgrade on flights.

Iron_Man · Answer

How are you flirting with others sexually or just smart remarks

msc545 · Answer

Yes, it's wrong. There is no such thing as harmless flirting.

dragoblack · Answer

Yes, because the other guy doesn't know it's "harmless"

PeterLegg91 · Answer

Flirting I natural and normal, long as you don't kiss etc then that's a different story

Smegskull · Answer

No. But if you have to ask, it probably isn't harmless.

Bostonedge · Answer

No as long as ur not giving ur heart to another.. flirting feeling wanted shouldn't be a burden

Enginn · Answer

No if your boyfriend will be happy about that.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

There’s no such thing as “harmlessly flirting”

Jewelmyth · Answer

Yes, that's wrong, that's not right.

Anonymous · Answer

What if he does the same thing? What would you think and feel?

Mark_Est · Answer

Of course. For the streets activity.

Billlewis · Answer

No, in my opinion.

Agape93 · Answer

Depends. Usually its not ok.

tatbrat · Answer

If you’re flirting you aren’t happy with your man

MrChinaski · Answer

It's normal. Pleasant, even.

loveyouoak · Answer

What a ridiculous question.

Brady · Answer

If your boyfriend doesn't like it then it's wrong.

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