Is it OK to flirt if you have a boyfriend?

Question

Me and one of my friends (who lives In a different state) always flirt together but New you have a boyfriend so is it still OK to flirt with my other friend if we are just playing around?

KarKingJack · Accepted Answer

Its subjective, you know. It depends on you and your boyfriend. If he's cool with you flirting, and your cool with it too, then its totally okay. If he isn't, or you aren't, then it isn't. You can't really ask other people about this, because they might feel its wrong, whereas you wont, you know what I mean? And your boyfriend wont. And the next guy wont. You know? You can't really impart your own thoughts onto someone about this.

It seems your boyfriends totally fine about it, so this is alright ^_^

Of course, sometimes even if your boyfriend wouldn't be fine with it, it can be okay. Like me, I'm a nymphomaniac and I recognise the problems it can cause. I had no intention to cheat on the girl I love, especially considering how much it would hurt her. But I'm a promiscuous person. And I had this friend, and she was in a very similar situation. And we used to be fairly flirty. And my girlfriend new about it, you know? But we used to like, you know. Say fairly dirty things, as well. You know what I mean? And it was a lot better that we did that, than totally try and resist it, knowing the way we both were, and end up perhaps doing something far worse. I didn't tell my girlfriend, obviously. And she didn't tell hers. And it worked out pretty good.

So I think, in many ways, you have to take everything into consideration, you know?There's a greater good. Like I'm not particularly proud of what we did but I'm very proud of my ex-relationship with my ex-girlfriend, you know what I mean?

Rizzle · Accepted Answer

Well, if you want to keep your relationship intact and healthy, no.. it's usually not OK.  Verbal flirting with other guys once in a great while in small/weak doses can be OK, but it really depends on your boyfriend.  We want loyal girls.. and when we see our girls openly flirting with other guys it makes us scared and we question how much you care about the relationship you're in.

Ic0raz0nSF321 · Accepted Answer

flirting can be harmless if you are not serious with your guy however flirting can lead to some problems. Think carefully if your guy is worth to be kept.

I used to be a huge flirt while single too long til I met my boyfriend, I stopped, and it took a while to stop my guy friends from flirting with me and start to respect me that I am taken. Whew, so much work to clean the mess because my boyfriend is worth to be kept.

sarahh_12 · Accepted Answer

No, I mean would you be okay if your boyfriend was doing this? I personally would be PISSED. I barely talk to guys because I'm very serious and love my boyfriend. If you want it to last, you won't flirt. It's that simple. Guys see things, whether you agree or not is irrelevant. It's if he cares. If you can't stop for him, you shouldn't be with him. Hope this helps.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i like to keep my options open ;) but I love my boyfriend and just because I flirt with other guys doesn't mean I love them, I just like to flirt. and its usually joking around cause they know I have a boyfriend. as long as you love your boyfriend and give him more of your flirting then it shouldn't hurt.

The-Romanian · Answer

This is retarded. Is it okay for your boyfriend to flirt with a friend in another state?

People need to quit listening to Ludacris's "Area codes."

And you're obviously not "playing around" since you put "if" not "since." You gave yourself up there.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on what kinda flirting. There's friendly flirting where both of you know nothing is gonna happen, then there's flirting where both of you don't know nothing is gonna happen.

I had the latter happen to me recently. This girl went out of her way to flirt with me. I actually thought she had a crush on me and felt a little uncomfortable sometime because I felt she was coming on a little strong. She'd give me that shy crush look every time I'd see her. Then I find out she's had a boyfriend for 3-4 years. Sorry for my language, but now I hate that c*nt. I'm not too hurt by it anymore, but I still hate her. Like vehemently hate her. She doesn't deserve a boyfriend (or any happiness for that matter) acting like that.

royevans · Answer

No! not at all. Regardless of intent, you should know of this quote "perception is reality", just because you don't intend for people to think it leads elsewhere doesn't mean they won't perceive it that way.

KERMlT · Answer

Would you get upset if you found out your boyfriend flirts? If that's a yes then perhaps you shouldn't flirt with others.

Personally there is nothing wrong with it. I know my S.O. flirts with other men. We both know it's harmless flirting though.

lefthand · Answer

Flirting is part of being human. When you stop, you're dead.

The reality is that people are sexual and continue being sexual even if they have an exclusive relationship. Trying to quash this part of the person generally leads to resentment and unhappiness. You're partner needs to know they are attractive and desirable. If you prevent them from flirting, they tend to forget and become more unhappy.

Oh... and flirting increases the sex drive.

charizzle · Answer

nope. but the annoying thing is that though I know for certain that I'm consciously NOT flirting with someone, people always tell me that I'm very flirtatious. I don't know wtf I'm doing wrong because all I know is that I'm just being nice. my boyfriend knows the difference between my REAL flirtatious side and me being just really nice, so thank god for that. if not there'd be tons of misunderstandings.

peace-love-couture · Answer

Yes,just as it is OK to flirt if a guy has a girlfriend.There's nothing wrong with innocent flirting so long as it isn't physical.You also have to be respectful about it,around your S.O then it can be disrespectful,not around but within boundaries,perfectly fine.

Fc180 · Answer

I had to answer yes...because I often don't even realize that I am flirting (friends of mine then tell me that I actually did flirt)

For me it is fine if my boyfriend flirts with somebody else. As long he doesn't forget about me. He can get hungry somewhere else...but has to eat at home! ;)

socalgamehater2006 · Answer

I personally hate it when taken girls flirt with me, I feel teased or lead on

Malcom_Reynolds · Answer

I know a lot of people will say no to this, but I'd think that it's OK.  It's really subjective (as someone already stated) but if you're only playing around, and not leading him on, or doing anything that would make your boyfriend uncomfortable then it's ok.

ambertaylor · Answer

No it's not okay. What's the point of being in a relationship when you're thinking about someone else in a romantic way? If you're a natural flirt with all guys, that just shows the sort of person you are. Easy. Feel sorry for your boyfriend.

ilyurbella · Answer

Nope, not at all. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't like it if your boyfriend was flirting with other girls.

Ugliness · Answer

Yes but only with him.

Brings back bad memories though.

My new boyfriend invited me to his house.

And some other guy knocks on the back door.

I realized he had just been playing me and I dropped him after that.

01bimmer85 · Answer

flirting is just flrting most people do it subconsciously... now if you take it further than just flirting now your playing with fire.. the guy who gets mad over something like that has trust issues.. or at least that's always been my experience

rcazy · Answer

No, No, and No! Why in the world would you want to p*ss off your boyfriend? If my boyfriend was flirting I would get jealous and annoyed and probably break up with up if it happens often

jaycon · Answer

no.. its disrespectful to your bf.. and if you don't respect him why are you with him in the first place?

tinypeewee · Answer

If flirting with other guys in front of your boyfriend is something you enjoy then you should and would be OK and if your girlfriend can not accept your flirting then you should find a guy who can.  Some guys will be into it and some will not so do what is best for you.

Colby · Answer

Depends on what you mean by flirting.

If you're saying sh*t like "Oooh, you have such a great body, I'd love to sleep with you" that's no flirting.

If you're just making goofy, humorous passes at each other, not so bad.

Really is up to your boyfriend though. If he cares, don't do it. If he doesn't care, then... Up to you.

mormollio · Answer

Nope, that's like false advertising. You're flirting with a guy and he's into you. Then oh guess what! she has a boyfriend. Who probably wants to kick your @ss now.

DJxMurderxThem · Answer

That leads to cheating! No! Although I've tried to steal a few girls from a couple junior guys at my high school and boy did they get angry. :D

music4life · Answer

No. Unless you ain't serious about the relationship. It's just gonna complicate matters. Not a smart move.

confused415 · Answer

to me, flirting is opening a door to something more. so to flirt with someone other than your own boyfriend, is just plain messed up.

Anonymous · Answer

i put yes because my boyfriend doesn't mind seeing other guys flirt with me and I flirt back a bit. he knows I'm his girl and I won't do anything but tease them, and he loves knowing he's got a girl lots of other guys would love to have.

Anonymous · Answer

no because I need to let the world know that I am loyal and faithful to my husband only, and I want him to do the same.

no temptation of ever leaving, or any hint of a thought of leaving each other for anyone else is what I want.

ryanontario · Answer

depends if there is any intent involved , is it just for fun or actually out to do things ?

emzy-89 · Answer

no. if you have a boyfriend then I don't see why you'd even want to flirt with anyone else.

Anonymous · Answer

no you can't. you can be nice and friendly but no flirting around. if you saw your boyfriend flirting with another girl you'll go crazy. so, treat others like you want to be treated :)

-StillWater- · Answer

Yep...flirting is fine... Just make sure it's on a friendly bases and that you both know it.

falendove · Answer

No, but it happens. Even if you don't mean to intentionally.

midnight223 · Answer

Nope its not, if your flirting still, you shouldn't have a boyfriend/girlfriend in the first place.

Marik · Answer

Well your friend lives in a different state so I gueess its OK to flirt

superxxl · Answer

you obviously don't really care about your current boyfriends feelings and how this would affect him! further more you obviously are not ready for a relationship and need a bit more time being single and playing around!

maahh · Answer

i don t see what's wrong in it. you can have a boyfriend, but that doesn't mean you can only look at him-her...

i mean, as long as it doesn't go further than just flirting... each one should know the bounderies, but for me, its ok

Anonymous · Answer

No! I think it's rude and disrespectful to your gf/bf. I wouldn't want my boyfriend flirting with or without me around. May as well be single.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Break up. Your boyfriend doesn't deserve that lack of respect.

Shadoww · Answer

nope, I'm shocked that 115 people vote yes! 'tsktsk'

-0x0- · Answer

No. Its not harmless fun. Guys take it seriously.

kombz · Answer

I think it is okay as long as they know it is harmless and you don't mean to make a move or anything.

MikeVick4MVP · Answer

yes it cmon every1 quit being pussy's

MsJuleya · Answer

depends on the type of flirting

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