So I befriended this woman. She seemed nice, shared common interest, and seemed cool. As I got to know her, all she does is complain, get into other people's business, tattle tale, and just a ball of negativity. So, I have silenced her calls and text to gradually get rid of her. She's draining. I don't understand why it's so hard for her to just mind her business. It's stange
Have you ever cut off a friend after realizing they’re toxic and draining?
Funny you should ask but after 71 years on planet earth I just did this for the first time. She was a girl I dated in high school. Over the years I ran into her on very rare occasions and always felt she still had feelings for me even though she was married. There were a few times when I felt like I was being stalked when I saw she was visiting my profile on various online sites.
Finally a few years ago I got into a conversation with her on Internet chat and decided I would give it a chance for a friendship since our history goes back so far. Didn't take long before it started becoming uncomfortable and she was trying to manipulate me into keeping it going by trying to make me feel sorry for her about this and that every time it seemed like I was going to say goodbye.
I just didn't like her manipulative behavior and the fact that I am talking to a married woman so often. Didn't feel right even though she claims she told her husband and he is okay with it (don't know if I believe that).
So I finally told her I didn't think it was healthy for either of us, wished her well and said I have to let it go. She is still trying to bring me back, but I am not going to let it happen.
I did. I rarely do such things but he always wanted me to help him land jobs but never returned the favor. I was a reference of his on a huge job. During the reference call they wanted me to interview but I said no. It was a high level job working for a billionaire but it didn’t feel right to do. I already had a great job but that would have been better. He got the job and then called me for advice on what to do which I gave him. I told him about the offer for me to interview but he said he would have won anyway. It was my area of expertise and I know I would have beat him out for the role so that tee’d me off.
I also coached him in another job at another major company where I worked as I had moved there a year before. He didn’t get that job but landed elsewhere. No help for me when I called him though. This pattern continued a couple more times and my wife took note. I finally told him to stop calling me. He stopped for a year and then called again. I told him again not to call and hadn’t heard from him in years. Then he left a voice mail asking me to call but I never returned it.
Yes and the reason was because she would always copy everything the way I dressed how, I did my make up , The same hair color dye, she even copy my truck yes my exact same truck. I mean I get it that if you hang out and get along so well you and your friend would have things in common. But this ex friend that I am telling you about took it to a diffrent level to the point people in Town were pointing out that yes indeed that friend is copying my every moved. I was irritated when I called her off and told her to stop she called me selfish that for not sharing. It was creepy as hell.
I had a "friend" like this in high school, she contributed to my declining mental health. The first chance I got to break away from her, I TOOK. NOT EVEN SLOWLY. I still remember the day I blocked her, it felt like a mountain of worry and insecurities this person caused had been lifted. Of course she went seeking after me, telling our mutuals to give her my contact details but I'm glad these mutuals listen and do not. I hope you break away from this disease of a person if they're not willing to change.
Many times, but it's important to realize that if a friend of yours is toxic, unless there's an alcohol or substance abuse issue, 90% of the time, the reason they're toxic is because they're jealous. People who are jealous of you always have at least one thing in common; they think they're the only ones who feel that way. They think you haven't seen it before.
Yes. The friend who ghosts you but then suddenly shows up? Bye. The friend who takes all your resources then sabotages you? Bye. The friend who HAS to have whatever you have or one-up you constantly? Bye. The friend who in any way pushes you down rather than lifting you up or walking alongside you? Byyyyyyyyye!!! 😎
🤣🤣🤣 the girl "bye". I've had those they pop up when they need something. Particularly a girl named Juliette. Whenever she got a boyfriend she'd ghost us Then when it didng work out she wants to be friends again like girl bye. Good for you kicking them to the curb
Yeah I had an internet friend for a while who constantly lied to me, made me feel interior and wanted to be right all the time. She ended up cutting me off first claiming I was being toxic and stubborn but really it was a blessing because she was the one being toxic and stubborn. I’m glad I don’t have to deal with her anymore.
I have done this plenty of times. I have a low tolerance for negative Nancys, gossips, and shit-stirrers. I cut such people out of my life very quickly and very completely. I don't need a lot of friends, I just need a few good ones, and I have those, so anyone new has to be neutral or better - anyone who is a negative to my life gets left on the curb.
I used to talk for hours a day to a girl on instagram. However, when I wanted to do something in person there was always an excuse. So apparently I'm some kind of emotional comfort blanket while her boyfriend fucks her. Fuck that, I ain't no simp.
I had to keep my distance from certain people during the pandemic… they were acting very strange indeed. I felt even some of my closest friends were targeting me. But I saw it for what it was…
It was a very “I’m miserable and I’m going to make sure you are too” kind of energy.
Have you ever had to walk away from a friendship you still cared about because it was slowly destroying your peace? 🥺 I’ve learned that not everyone you love is meant to have unlimited access to you. Sometimes setting boundaries isn’t being heartless, it’s realizing that you deserve friendships where you feel valued, respected, and safe too. If a friendship constantly leaves you drained, don’t be afraid to choose your peace.
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I do that all the time now. I am not going to put up with bullshit. But some of them still see me as the needy boy when I was in high-school and don't realize the growth in my personality I had. But I am not going to waste my time with them. Life is too short for that.
Yeah, O had one who was always cheating on her boyfriends and I just couldn’t be around her anymore while she did stuff like that. She got mad when I told her
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