Would you ever cut a friend off because he/she would not get out of a bad relationship?

[OtterMan68]

Your friend was in a bad relationship. You warned them over and over, they ignored you. Do you cut them free so you don't have to watch them destroy their lives, or do you keep trying to warn them?

Yes, I could no longer watch - it was just too sad

No, I'd never give up trying to save them from a bad relationship

Other: I'll explain

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1 mo

Is there no such thing as "tough love"?
It's like helping an addict. At some point, they have to help themselves, and if they don't, you may have to shut them out.
If a friend is ignoring your advice and staying in a toxic relationship, would you keep yourself in that drama? Isn't that enabling?

[Anonymous]

Probably not cut them off, just have less to do with them.

I had a lady friend who married a guy that was not a very good choice. I'll give her this, the marriage lasted longer than I thought it would. This guy was not going to do better than her. But he was too stupid to see that and eventually walked out on her. Anyways that f***ed her up for over a year (which I understand). But you couldn't convince her that she really hadn't lost anything but 200lbs of 💩. To make matters worse she was not healed and she kept jumping into relationships that were destined to crash and burn. It eventually got to the point that I had to just stop associating with her because she would not stop doing crazy 💩. Like at one point she decided to drop everything in her life and start over on the other side of the country. Like running away from her life was the answer. I didn't abandon her. I just wasn't going to support her damaging behaviour.

[TommyMountainFigure]

No never:-

If I was to define some of the friendships I have, I would say the key is to be there for them when they needed me most. Therefore, turning my back on them because they make bad choices in relationships would make me a TERRIBLE friend!

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for MHO

[IslaTheWitch]

being a friend doesn't mean living someone's life... it means being for them when they realize they need us...

of course, I get the liberty of sharing my opinion, but my friends are adults, and they don't have to do as I say... they can reject my opinion and make their own decisions and bear the consequences...

but it doesn't mean we are not friends... because friendship doesn't mean telling someone what to do and expecting they will obey us... friendship means making an effort to look into the situation from their perspective and being for them when something bad happens, and they need us... the same as they are always for us when we need them...

[DishLady]

I have. Some relationships are too toxic to sit around and witness.

[lightbulb27]

Educational though…for a while

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the rollercoaster of friendship and heartache, aren't we? It’s like being stuck on the loop-the-loop of love's wildest ride without a safety harness. Cutting off a friend because they're tangled in the vines of a bad romance is a bit like abandoning ship during a storm. Sure, watching them ignore the lifebuoys you’re throwing can be maddening, but cutting ties? That's the last resort move. Instead, keep the lifelines open. Be there, even if it's just to pick up the pieces when the love castle finally crumbles. After all, isn't that what true friends are for? They're the anchor in the stormy seas of love gone wrong. 😉

[Purpleronnie]

Really depends who is at the core of making it a bad relationship to an extent as to how much support I could or would give. At the end of the day I’d need specifics to understand fully and make a decision.


Generally though I’d offer my support but it’s their life , their relationship , their choice
If warranted though I would turn my back

[Peridot25]

I almost did with my bff since high school. She would go out with these guys and they ended up pretty bad for her.
Reason being why I almost ended our friendship because she treated me badly. Like, she was so miserable she took it out on me. One day I told her to stop or she’ll lose me. That woke her up.

[Peridot25]

So I won’t give up so easily. However, if she kept going with that pattern, I would have.

[DaddyDiablo]

I've seen so many couples go through so much bad It feels like I'm numb but for what it was worth I saw that they loved each other despite all the bad but like despite all that I also got to help everyone from fucking like them having to kill one another but if youve never experienced what a real relationship n the steps that the people I've like gone through the hardships they've gone through

[anon1903]

Depends? If, say their partner is manipulative or has financial control over them, I'd understand.

But if they're educated and independent and still choose a cheater? Adios

[HawkPerception]

I feel like I wouldn't call myself a friend if I wasn't able to stick with them through thick and thin. I don't care about their partner. If they're good to me and loyal, I'll be the same with them.

[sirderpsalot123]

I would just tell them not to vent or talk about their partner to me

[NathanDavis]

no, I would cut the bad partners off...

and if they don't stop, then I'd chop them off next... lol

[Account]

No. It doesn't matter. I will still stand by them no matter what.

[MicahRaine]

Yes I would. If starts affecting the people I care about through me, adios.

[littlehappyflower]

Maybe. It depends on the situation and what was going on and if I felt I could actually be helpful to them or was just enabling them.

[maibanks]

It’s hard to leave a relationship but at the same time your friend should know her worth & value.

[exitseven]

No it's a BS reason not to support a friend