So unfortunately I have two stories to share.
The first is a tale of woe about Juliet and her Romeo… The couple split but because the best friend didn't like the guy she and the girl in the relationship (that's me) never spoke again, despite efforts to reconnect.
The second tale is about a good friend whose fiance I could not tolerate at all — she was pushy and rude and snide… all the things I try to stay away from, especially on a Sunday morning in church. Ugh. What a female. But the guy walked into church one Sunday and announced she's the one and we all looked at each other (because you could see from far away that they don't… "match") for months and months we had to put up with her (or change parishes, which some people did)… till one day he came to church on his own and I walked in to ask "Oh, where's ___?" He announced that they broke up and can I tell you? I breathed such a sigh of relief and said "Thank God" and lit a candle for him to find the right woman. He laughed at me like I was nuts, but frankly, he's such a playboy that I've SEEN him do better… this girl made no sense at all.
Anyway, the guy asked me why I didn't say anything and I told him… It's because it's none of my business. I don't know what gets his flag up and if it's a nasty rude person, then that's his business, not mine. We probably shouldn't have been in church with the bible and all the candles shining in our faces when i mentioned his "flag" but… I'm honest with my friends and God knows that.
So… personally I wouldn't break a friendship — good friends are hard to find in my opinion — but I would keep my distance and not stick my nose in their business.
If they just didn't like them, no I wouldn't end the friendship over that. If they were rude and disrespectful to them—and refused to stop? I would at least put a heavy pause on the friendship, and distance myself for a period of time.
I don't like my partner to give me ultimatums, but in this instance if I have let someone disrespect them openly for an extended period of time, I can understand that frustration and being ready to just leave if things don't change. I would not break up with my partner over this.
You weren’t stuck in the middle until you stuck yourself there. An interaction between your friend and girlfriend is between them. You don’t have to get involved at all, especially if you select good people to be around you. They should both be mature adults who can work out their own crap. If they can’t, dismiss them both and stop hanging out with immature buttholes.
u my friends would never be rude and disrespectful to someone I love... just, nope
and they would not have any reasons to do that either
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If my partner is abusive and my friend is being protective of me, I won’t be with my partner any longer and I’d appreciate my friend more. But if my partner is a good man and my friend is being jealous and disrespectful towards our relationship and my man, I’d tell her to be nice and stay out of my business unless I make it her business. I love both of them and they have to know it’s not easy to be in the middle so they either compromise or leave each other alone for MY sake.
All of my friends are very good people. If I started dating someone and my friends didn't like them, I would be genuinely pondering what I am missing. We have a guy in our friend group in that situation. It's hard to watch. Everybody dislikes her, but even her kid siblings barely like her. Everyone ignores her when he brings her to stuff. I've recently had to start acting like I don't dislike, because our kid sister are friends and I don't want to mess that up for them. But it's hard. If he decided to end his friendships with people who dislike his girlfriend, he would pretty much have to make all new friends.
I would have known much earlier that there was no chemistry between them. I would have talked to my friend to understand the situation; maybe they saw something I missed.
If it is just a simple like/dislike without anything behind it, I would organize our meetings so they wouldn't need to meet too often, if at all. But if my friend had strong reasons to dislike the boyfriend candidate, we probably wouldn't have created the relationship.
I don't think I could have a partner that my friends don't like, I completely trust their judgements and they wouldn't dislike someone just for the sake of it BUT saying that there has to be a reason for someone to be rude to another person, I would want to hear their reasons out - I also trust my own judgement so i don't think I would find a partner that's awful but who knows
The thing is... I'm not friends with someone who would be like that.
My friends would look how he would be as a person, and how he treats me, and that's what's important to them. So if any of my friends had an issue with my partner, I would need to re-evaluate my partner, because mostly that would mean something is wrong.
I would end the friendship because it's obvious your friend isn't going to stop his bad behavior towards your partner, especially going against your request for him to stop.
You are no better than him if you watch him make a spectacle bof your partner.
if my friend was that rude, i'd stop being friends with them regardless of my relationship... they are showing their true colors and i can't stand that crap.
I wouldn't want to be friends with someone rude or disrespectful, myself. If one of my friends dislike someone they are respectfully honest. Which I appreciate, that you can work with.
You and your partner are somewhat a unit. The two of you need to be accepted as a team.
That friend better have a damn good reason for being rude or disrespectful. If not then they aren't a friend
I'd ralk to them less often, create distance until they change their behavior
If my friend was being rude and disrespectful, I would end the friendship
I think it would be difficult as they are rejecting a major part of you. I wouldn't tolerate.
Well, sounds kinda funny but to each his own. If they were a friend they'd get along regardless of their sentiments. Or they could hit the road.
I can't imagine that ever happening with any of my friends.
Depends on the length of friendship and how the friendship was for the length of time maybe give your mate a breather for a bit and see how that works
Hell no. I'd trust their judgment and get a better partner
No. I'd just tell them to ignore each other, and that's about it.
Keep the partner. Dump the friend.
yes, they are not a true friend
