Why do men only want friends with benefits but not a girlfriend?

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I’m single my whole life because no guy wants be my boyfriend.  everyone only wants friends with benefits , sex that’s it.  
 I’m blocked if I say I want a boyfriend , I don’t get guys asking me for dates, I’ve met 200 men on dating apps,  in person it’s worse men are all taken with baby & girl & im alone. The one guy I met that wanted a girlfriend lived in Ireland and another was also far in a wheelchair. That’s it.  all men deny be my boyfriend, I get no no no no no, all men I meet only want friends with benefits. It’s never ending.  I never meet a guy that wants a girlfriend & that wants same things as me.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Sadly it’s because how society is today , most females’ have a bad reputation, just like most guys’ have a bad reputation , We can thank Social media for playing a big part on damaging the foundations of relationships, Me personally is a relationship kind of guy , I would love to find a girl that values and appreciates me the same way I value and appreciate her , but sadly so many girls’ and guys’ today have selfish mindsets , mainly from the stuff they see and read and hear about from Social media or other people. Trust between people has sadly faded to a certain extent, pretty much everyone is a cheater and everyone wants things to go only their way and barely anyone can admit when they are wrong. FWB’s is actually The best road to go with someone these days , mainly because of all the horror stories we hear about with relationships and partners cheating on each other , FWB’s works if you are on the same page with each other. It gives you both time to really get to know each other and gives you both time to decide on whether you are both in it for the long haul or short haul , sadly Most people change their minds about someone, after the infatuation period runs it’s course , FWB’s eliminates that because you both are on the same page and no one is really Getting their heart broken , if it doesn’t work out , you at least can stay friends with each other , if things don’t work out with you both , instead of hating each other you remain friends or acquaintances The only way I will be FWB’s with a girl, is if her and I are on the same page with things , we both agree to only have sex with each other , but we are both ok to date other people , if we decide to date other people and we end up having sex with someone else? We both agree to end the benefits part between us and just remain friends The key is to not sleep with anyone else , the key is to get To know each other more , before deciding to commit to each other , instead of just committing to someone you really don’t truly know. Most people say what they think you want to hear when you meet someone new and exciting , we hope that person is being honest with us , but we really don’t know if they are until we really get to know them , Why FWB’s is the best way to go these days , it gives you both breathing room to decide what you really want instead of rushing into something that you aren’t really sure of.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

First off, stay off "dating apps", because almost no one there is going to be local to you, and because almost everyone uses dating apps for casual sex instead of dating, so that is the widespread reputation, and you can't change that.

No matter how tough it is, you will need to focus on local men and meeting them in person.

Next, you need to be focusing on their morals, values, and life goals above all else. Be upfront about what you are looking for in those areas.

Finally, you will need to be able to sell yourself as a relationship partner - just being a female and showing up isn't going to get you a relationship. That might work for supermodels, but not for the vast majority of people.

You need to be able to tell him what you bring to the relationship. You inevitably will expect a lot from him, but you have to deliver similar value in his eyes or he won't be interested.

Men value youth, purity, loyalty, femininity, friendliness, and peace. Tell him all the ways you will provide those things. Men generally do NOT value (when it comes to picking a relationship partner) your education, your degree, your career, your income, or your status. They aren't necessarily against those things, but they aren't things men value in a relationship partner, unlike how most women value those things in men. Lots of women don't understand this, and they talk up their degree or career to a guy and he gets turned right off. You have advantages in several things that men DO value, so focus on those.

Do not allow yourself to run solely on emotions - emotions only care about right this minute, and are happy to destroy you tomorrow to be happy today. Thus, you must use your logic and reason to keep your emotions in check and not let them take over.

You may need to compromise some on the guy's looks or status too. Focus on morals, values, and life goals over everything else, and be able to talk about what you bring to the relationship. Do those things, and your success rate will climb. Not saying it will be fast or easy, but your outcomes will improve noticeably.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It really upsets me when a good woman with good qualities says she's unable to find a guy for her. So perhaps she's looking for a good guy in the wrong place?

Dating apps are just for hookups and friends with benefits. You cannot expect to find a good guy from a dating app just the way you won't find a good guy in a nightclub.

In this day and age where women can give their bodies for free for men to use, it's extremely difficult for a woman with qualities to find a good guy.

I hope you stand your ground and don't let a guy use you for free at least before getting a ring on it or getting married. This has to be done. I tell this to the females who are dear and near to me.

It's the tik tok culture now, unattractive women who has low self esteem wants attention, and these women exchange it with sex. But they don't realise a man will never choose such a woman to be his girlfriend or wife.

So first off, you need to log out of dating sites. And then consider getting involved in activities or hobbies you enjoy where you're likely to meet like-minded individuals. Attend social events, join clubs, or volunteer for causes you're passionate about, it can be anything , if you like animals, get yourself involved in it (not because you want to find a guy from there but because you actually want to volunteer). Last but not the least, are you religious? Perhaps visit the church or your religious place, maybe you'll meet your someone special there.

I wish you the best, and if you end up finding the one, you can tell me here... fingers crosses.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

Not sure why people are blaming you or women… because it’s definitely just about selection, the individual, and intentions. Not you specifically in your situation. A man or woman can be set for life and have a good values, but if they just wanna play and nothing serious - obviously it’s on them. There’s a good number of people like that lol. Some people just want easy sex with the hook up cultural, commitment problems or not ready, emotionally immature/unavailable, selfish, only enjoys the chase of a number of women and not loyalty for one person, etc.

and if someone ain’t ready, they ain’t ready. That’s their timing and problems to work on.

My advise is to just keep being you and stay intentional on what you’re looking for. Someone who is looking for the same will hopefully and eventually find you :) I know it does sucks when you want something serious and it feels like the vast majority is on another planet, but just keep doing you and I’m sure everything will happen on its own. It’s a headache, but stay patient and authentic :)

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Most girls find real boyfriends and not just fuck buddies. If EVERY guy treats you the same way, it is a response to something that you are doing.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Men know who they want to be with and know who they want to play with or use to get what they want for the meantime. If he wants to take you seriously, he would. If he wants to just use your body for his entertainment, he would. If he wants to wine, dine and date you and meet his mom, he would. So when you finally meet that man, he will do what he wants to do to show you where you stand in his life. Only then it’s up to you if you want to stick around or find someone else who would.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Don’t accept friends with benefits if you want more.

Avicenna · Answer

There are plenty of guys who want a girlfriend. Stay off the dating apps.

godfatherfan · Answer

Well that is a load of bullshit. If you go through that many men, and still cannot find a boyfriend, you need to take a serious look at yourself. I am a big proponent of therapy. Most people need it. They can help you figure out why you are pushing people away. Maybe you have unrealistic requirements. Maybe you are not being honest.

I once dated a woman that went on an on at our first date how "marriage is forever", then said she was divorced. We went on 4 dates. On 3 of those dates, she added another ex-husband. We are laying in bed, naked, and she just throws out "oh, and I was married a 4th time to..." Now, if she is completely up front with me, I don't know how I would have taken it. But by hiding things the way she did, all I thought was "if she is hiding this, which isn't all that important, what else is she hiding?"

I am not saying that is your exact issue. I am saying that women have this tendency not to be themselves. Or they find a guy and think "I will just change him to be the man I want him to be". That is not ever going to work.

You seriously need to look at yourself and change the way you are going about this. I am older, so I don't know anyone that is in, or even wants, a Friends with benefits situation. I tried it once for about 2 weeks. I couldn't do it. I wanted a relationship, not just sex.

Nik1hil · Answer

Because when at 16-20 we wanted a Girlfriend, No Girl was interested in long term proper relationship, they all wanted a Rich successful boy.

Problem is Girls are born with beauty and Youth, Boys need to make money...

A girls hits her peak at 18-21..

A boy Usually Hits his financial strength +30 , often 40 in usual case.. Girls aren't willing to be with an unsuccessful man at 16 and Walk with him till 40 , when he is successful.

16 -18 is the point of Entry, If a girl Does find the Right Guy at that Time, She is never finding one...

Because after 23 Boys become men and Being single for +5yrs, They Learn How to be Single, They don't Need a Girlfriend, not Anymore..

If Girls were not so dumb, They would understand that Pick a MAN, before he learns to be Single!.. but No, Girls and society all care about man's success

There is this couple on Instagram and Tiktok "CashandKatie" These Cuties Married at Age of 18-19.. FANTASTIC. Cash is a Bit Dumb, but he is learning and growing with Katie, and Katie Chose Cash Irrespective of his success. So, Cash will Hold Katie irrespective of her Beauty, It will Last!..

TheorionMage · Answer

Well... ASSUMING contraception AND NO STD's...
hereafter you're BOTH here after the same immediate sensory gratifications.
'All bonding emotional debts are 'paid' once that occasion's concluded for THAT time.

In return for receipt / 'deposit' of species DNA, you EACH (ideally) experience neurological pleasure hormones as an addicting inducement to further repeat the interaction.

THESE limitations are at the root 'core' of 'why' pedophilia is SO heavily prohibited... kids WILLFULLY engage in 'feels GOOD!' ... eschewing long-term consequences.

Peruvian Melina Medina heedlessly conceived at 4yrs 5 months old in 1958 and would not disclose WHO provided her the needless internal uterine ejaculate when anal, oral and manual tactile experiences would have provided equivalent physiological sensory 'reward' hormones. (Conservative Moral-ist's dirty little secret: Un-censured kids will.. and do... TOUCH themselves~ SOME adults NEVER mature beyond that! )

PeachyPie93 · Answer

With that many men the only thing I can think is you are going after guys out of your league. It also could be you are not listening to them, like if a guy says he doesn't know what he wants or he would like to just see how things go, you should cut them off right away because they aren't serious. Do not entertain these guys because they are a waste of time and won't change their mind once they get to know you. Also big thing! Do not fuck a guy who will not commit. If they can get it from you while being single and able to do what they want, what is the inclination to make you a girlfriend?

b_lova · Answer

Sounds like you are looking for men in all the wrong places or the type of men you are attracted to don't want to settle down. My suggestion is that you expand your idea of what you are looking for in a boyfriend. Maybe go for a shy guy or consider dating a friend you never thought about in that way but flirts with you.

The things is that there are lots of guys seeking/desiring relationships but maybe outside your ideal idea of a boyfriend. My suggestion is to expand your standards. Notice I didn't say lower them.

ZackBan · Answer

Men, just like women, can smell desperation.

When a single guy walks into a date and the girl in front of him is so desperate for a partner that she's eager for them to be a couple even though they barely met, that tends to repulse men (and women by the way)

So while wanting a boyfriend is a good way to view relationships you shouldn't just assume that you'll meet a guy who wants a girlfriend and who will make you as such right then and there.

Instead, go into dates with no expectations. Let the guy know you don't sleep around but would be open to getting to know him and build up the anticipation to the point where, if you 2 match, he'll wanna be with you.
Basically make yourself lovable if you wanna be loved. Don't just ask for it.

Note however, that this approach will not work on all guys and those who are just fuck boys will not change for you, better to skip them and keep looking.

TonyV · Answer

Beggers can't be chosers.
You can't complain no one wants you then be shallow and turn down a guy in a wheelchair.

You aren't being completely honest with us, you're keeping some detail about yourself secrete. There are far far far to many desperate lonely men out there for you to not be able to get a boyfriend. I don't know if you're like 300pounds or if you have real high standards and don't give normal guys a chance... whatever it is, you'll tell us when you want some real advice, cause there is definitely more that you aren't saying.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

what's the last long term commitment you've had? this lifelong commitment?

i have no problem with a girlfriend, but it seems to grow further. i think it's the push from the other partner that tears you away from him. some people aren't married ever or after 7 years. i've never understood a woman's rush to marriage, or children or a house. some people say they are afraid.

i'll leave you with this thought jerry springer style. there's no shortage of women that feel the same way as you do across the globe. and there's no shortage of women willing to be a "friend".

so do you want coffee or tea? because i can have both

FearlessFlame · Answer

The simple answer is you’re just not meeting the right guys. Maybe you find the wrong kind of guys attractive. Maybe you just like the kind of guys who treat women like sex toys. Change your narrative. You should be happy these unworthy men aren’t wasting your time. You hold all the cards; but, just don’t realize it.

The odds of any guy “falling in love” with you in a friends with benefits arrangements are slim and none. Real life is not the movies.

Take a fun class, join a meetup group or volunteer. You will broaden your circle.

Going forward when you do date, try group activities and avoid the hookup and friends with benefits mentality. Take things slowly.

Good luck.

HighValue · Answer

Not true. There are plenty of decent men that want an exclusive long term relationship, but the woman also needs to be good quality with good morals, an acceptable past, at least decently attractive (don't be fat, have lots of tattoos, or short unnaturally colored hair), don't post provocative/revealing stuff on social media, and have compatible long term life goals.

Women don't have to do as much to get a good quality mate, but the majority of them are such low quality that most good men want nothing to do with them.

DishLady · Answer

If a guy sees a girl as ONLY a potential friends with benefits (for whatever reason), then that’s what she’ll be to him. It would take rather a lot to shift from that perspective with the guy.

By contrast, “GF/wife” material stirs something deeper in the guy’s heart and soul, she can reach him on a more meaningful level than just the physical.

friends with benefits ends up getting stuck more in the physical, but with some companionship to make it feel like you’re not just reducing each other to sexual encounters. I’ve seen folks be friends with benefits for years then suddenly one of them finds the “GF/boyfriend material” person and the other gets crushed….

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I think a lot of men want girlfriends, but a lot of men don't find potential partners who bring enough to the table to warrant that. If you're looking for someone to take care of you so you can stay home and watch TV all day, that's not going to cut it. If you are only meeting men online (which it sounds like that's at least a predominant trend now a days) then certainly that's not going to be a girlfriend if you're more than an hour's drive. I'm not going to have a girlfriend half a world away and give up a half dozen friends with benefits right here.

Mr_twoface · Answer

If I went on a spree asking ladies to become my girlfriend, majority would think I am a creep. Same goes with the men. To find someone who becomes your boyfriend/girlfriend, you need to go on dates and genuinely show interest in that person. You both need to be interested into each other and once that chemistry is established, you move onto the next level which is a relationship. Either an exclusive one or a non-exclusive one which often means friend with benefit approach.

We don’t know how you go about talking to men in general and how you play the dating game, but it seems so far, you’ve been unlucky. If you scream boyfriend early on, most will say, lets do friend with benefit.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s because of the following:  the “hook up” culture has made it easier to find sex but not find love. This is partially due to male sex drive. But also social media and dating apps have enabled this. Also modern feminism has also encourage women to be promiscuous as “sex positive”.  Many guys really do want to have a meaningful relationship. But unfortunately they find women getting bored with them and they get ultimately get friendzoned. They are more worried about putting in the time, patience and effort since women don’t respect chivalry like they once did (also the fault of modern feminism)

Anonymous · Answer

I think most guys lowkey want a girlfriend, the ones who only want sex are the ones who missed out on their teens and 20’s, so now they try to become Alpha/Chad when they can’t at all.

You need to be born with Chad Genes to be that. Otherwise you can’t.

Other regular men just want the sex part because like a narcissist, they feel entitled to that.

LIKE… THATS NOT FOR YOU SWEETIE 🫵.

Severe porn consumption also makes many men delusional and entitled. This is why I stay far tf away from most of them.

You can meet quality men in the Military, Police, EMS, Firefighters. Places were men are required to be in top shape 24/7 and required to be there at all times. Leaving them almost no time for porn consumption. This is a little something I learned the moment I turned 22. Just saying. 🤷🏻‍♀️

superchan2011 · Answer

Well to be honest I would want a girlfriend again. But I think for some maybe they've been through breakups after having a long term relationship and so they are afraid to invest so much of themselves into another long term relationship, but yet still want the imitation of a relationship without having to get in real deep. So friends with benefits are perfect for that. No real commitment like in a romantic relationship, but can still chill with them and shoot the breeze and go out places, and can still have sex too. This is just my opinion though.

Serkee · Answer

I think dating apps are your main issue. On dating apps women tend to only match with the fuckboys who only want sex, and ignore everyone else. 90% of women on dating apps only go for the top 10% of men, so if you follow that trend, which you likely do unknowingly, that's why you're meeting so many guys who only want sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Most likely as someone said, if EVERY guy then there is something wrong with your approach / response.

Read and learn more about guys, relationships. Also ask people around who are committed.
Post a question here of how to present or approach in a serious manner.. etc.

Though read plenty before asking. Also, have some certain perspective and ultimate goal.. that serve as a common ground / criteria, so that you can easily see if a guy is even worth giving some time to try.
That's why I say read and learn.

You can then easily start excluding and avoiding unncessary men, as well as places and approaches.
You may pick up some kind of hobby or activity, as well as hangouts or gatherings. You can observe men there and start filtering.
When you are having something in hand and are to fulfilled enough, serious men will start approaching you. And hope you'll find a great man to be by your side.

Hope it helps.

SotiCoto · Answer

They don't. A lot of men want committed, long-term relationships.
But they also don't trust women... which, unfortunately, is a fair outlook to arrive at given the current state of society.
They then try to act like emotionally detached cavemen because, at least in their minds and the minds of the cultural subset of men who are extremely distrustful of women, that makes them seem stronger and raises their self-esteem.

But what it all comes down to is that they're just trying to avoid all the uncomfortable emotions inherent in gambling on a relationship... and just settling for sex instead.

RingOfFire · Answer

Might be helpful to see if you can meet people in another way instead of online. Maybe join some groups or take some classes in something that interests you or maybe you have friends who know men who think might be a good match for you and can invite you both to a get together with other people. Meeting online is very impersonal and you can't really evaluate someone well. If you meet them in person right from the start, you get a chance to separate the sincere ones who are looking for a relationship from the guys who are only interested in sex. You could also try a matchmaking service. That way the guys go through some screening first.

Anonymous · Answer

I hate to say it but I think it's our fault as women for making sex so easily available. It's a consequence of the sexual revolution and liberalism encouraging promiscuity in women. It's obviously men's fault to, but women of the past didn't allow it so there wasn't the expectation among men back then that they could have casual sex with women. Today men have every expectation they can get uncommitted sex with women. And it sucks for women who don't want casual sex because guys know they can find another woman who does, so we feel pressure to give in or we will lose our man. It's a sad situation.

Anonymous · Answer

damn that really sucks. i hear it's very hard to date these days, especially in your 20's. then again, even in my 20's i tried to date guys that were never serious. could be a young thing. thankfully, at 25 i found my person and have been with him ever since. i have no freaking clue where i'd be now if i hadn't. i think it got even worse during and after the pandemic for people.

on your dating apps, you need to specifically state serious relationships only. and then say it again. and again. to really get it through their heads. be very selective. what kind of guys are you meeting? i do know that dating apps usually gear towards casual dates/hookups. so be careful with those.

scott04sa22 · Answer

I haven't decided yet but I been thinking about taking the friends with benefits route because someone like me I been hurt too many times and cheated on. Everybody has different friends with benefits rules. Dealing with 2 breakups is difficult. With friends with benefits she can date, see other men or move on very fast like my ex's are doing, and I don't have to worry about Commitments and cheatings all the time. The downside of friend with benefits is catching feelings. If that happens that's when the benefits should end unless take it up a notch which I'm not taking that risky route ever again.

Miristheiss · Answer

If he just wants to be friends with benefits then he doesn't consider girlfriend or wife material. You have a nice enough body to have sex with, you are a woman, he gets some release, some female companionship for a short bit but you aren't pretty enough or sexy enough or you aren't the type of woman he'd ever commit to long term based on the "type" of woman he'd be willing to marry.

A wise man will have high standards for her a be a wife.

RetroReviews · Answer

There's a lot of reasons that can go into that a lot of it might be physical appearance. If a guy is not attracted to you he probably don't want to have the other girlfriend. I would have to know more about you to try to pinpoint it cuz I think guys should want a girlfriend. But the way people are unfaithful, and our two-faced, it's made some men and women both very calloused

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly guys don’t trust girls and girls don’t trust guys, guys hate girls, girls hate guys. From feminism to different terms of simp, alpha, beta, to having lady balls, to the toxicity of social media, being around “friends” who are a bad influence, everything plays a factor in this dishonest, situationship era of dating. I’ve noticed girls get triggered very easily even over a joke. I unmatched with a girl on a dating app because she took offence because I said “ouch you hate my city 💔” I told her I was joking and I didn’t care. Guys act that way because they have gotten their heart broken and stomped by some other girl in his past, women and girls act like that because of an absent/awful father or her choices going after guys who don’t care about her.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd very much avoid dating apps. I'd soon get the plague then touch those things again they are awful.

There are definitely guys out there that aren't interested in friends with benefits and want a long term serious relationship. I think it's about knowing what sort of guy you would like and trying to go try things that you might meet them at as you may get a new hobby you like.

And well I've had negative experiences in my attempts at dating that are quite consistent and a lot of women as well who were just looking for friends with benefits or wanting to just start sexting they didn't seem to want anything that could possibly be more.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Oh they want girlfriends alright. Sure if sex is on the table, they'll say yes. But if every guy only wants sex with you and nothing else it could be the combination of you looking for the wrong guys and something that you need to work on yourself to get on a guy's radar to be girlfriend material.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Id have to know more about you and your interaction skills and dating skills.
They see skills. A lot of guys are corrupt but… there are good guys, ones that want gfs including in this site, and women getting married. Takes work and effort for sure.
Some women just not lucky or lack skills.

Jefftheduck · Answer

Hahahahahahahahahahaha I only want relationships I don’t do hook ups or friends with benefits way too generalize everyone based on your own personal experience and be totally wrong I think it’s your selection process not all guys are the same your attracting that type of person look at how you find people and start there

mstbooblover · Answer

I can only answer this question from my own point of view and situation. I've been married during 38 years till my wife past away. Now, being single at 70, I'm looking for a girlfriend. Around that age people already have a past, a home and a living. It would be stupid to just drop everything on a whim for the sake of a nearly unknown, even potential real partner.

At first one should know that time passing by, priorities change, meaning I first want to meet someone as you would call "friends with benefits", because that's what I'm basically looking for. This being said, if after some time that woman and me appear to feel good together, be sure I'd accept eagerly more, even living together ;0)

By the way, nothing prevents both partners to keep their respective home, and come together not only for those "benefits", but also for much more the two partners can do together !

genericname85 · Answer

just ask yourself: if he can already fuck the girl. what "more" is he getting by accepting her as a girlfriend? like if you had to pay 100 bucks to drive the best car on the planet, would you pay 100.000.000 bucks more just for the right to say "it's your car"?

magiusX26 · Answer

simply put, if you want someone to see you in that light, be the type of person seen in that light. meaning, in this case, if you want a boyfriend and him to see you as a girlfriend, then you gave to be girlfriend (hopefully and eventually wife later on too) material.

Reem12345reem · Answer

Guys want a girlfriend, u just have to find these kind of men , maybe stop trying to find them and be yourself and work on yourself and automatically they'll find u , and let go of the idea that guy only want sex or guys don't want a girlfriend
There's 8 billion people out there ofc there's someone who wants a real relationship, u just have to resonate with that

ProbablyClueless · Answer

If every guy is treating you this way, there's something about the way you approach men that's causing you to have this outcome.

Maybe you lead with your appearance and don't share enough of your personality?

Lots of men are looking for relationships.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

The funny thing or fascinating thing is; like a fair chunk of humble (not bad aka I word types) men out there, it just never happened either way. Ladies must've just vomited everytime they saw me or fellows like me and I only just left my 20s 👀 😢 😢 lol 😂😆😆😆😆

Juxtapose · Answer

I want romance and I want to commit to one person but I can't really find women who are down for that anymore. Casual sex is easy to find but I want something more meaningful. On my end I would say women should make a very conscious effort to evaluate the character of the man hitting on her. I see woman after woman dating dudes who hit them and they make excuses for these guys. What the fuck?

WhitneySnow · Answer

Most guys who can get away with it only want to hook up. The ones who want girlfriends are usually ones a lot of girls have no interest in. Not always though; once in a while a hot guy really wants a serious girlfriend. But it’s rare.

Surely · Answer

If you are allowing yourself to be a friends with benefits. Then the guys won’t be taking you seriously. Since they can get the sex for free and not fear commitment. Then have that special woman who they have to wine and dine for their own pleasure.

saroj786 · Answer

In such fast paced world, no person wants to be committed with one person but find someone who they can be committed too.
Or maybe they just want you to be slave for sex and vice versa... If you're asking me, i would want a girlfriend but more on intimate side. Coz of all kinds of porn stuff with wide variety of girls to choose from.

Meropatrick · Answer

Society no longer support family union. Having a girlfriend is expensive. Most guys dont want that. by the way dont live in a fantasy world many of the guys with a girl and baby want to leave or cheat. My advice is keep looking and dont lose faith. Also if this is your dream then go to the end for it. If the guy u like is in Ireland why not plan and go to him?

desidoll · Answer

My single friends have been telling me the same thing. I finally talked to one of them to see what’s actually the deal. I found out they mostly meet guys from dating sites who are young, very good looking and not ready to settle down.

HawkPerception · Answer

Your choice of men is clearly the issue. There are plenty of men in the world that are looking to have a single partner for life, get settled and marry. You're attracted to the type of guys that just want to fuck around.

GoGetitGio · Answer

I don’t think this is gender specific. My mom, a girl, her whole life, a very attractive one that most guys want doesn’t want a boyfriend either. Now she is a widow so it’s a little different but she just looks to go out and get laid. She gets dressed in very, sexy attire and goes out and gets a guy to come home to sleep with her and that’s all she’s looking for. I don’t think it’s gender specific at this point.

luvstoned4him · Answer

Some women do too. Its that hookup culture that so many people glorifies. I think as women and men, WE need to have some standards and not lower them for people who continually show you that they dont really care that much for you.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Why?
A/ Most men in their twenties aren’t trying to settle into too serious a relationship.
B/ You’re “meeting” (but not really meeting, just texting) with men on apps. Go out and meet real men in real life.

summiter · Answer

Before I got married I had a few friends with benefits relationships. It was just fun to get naked with someone you were comfortable with and share a bunch of great orgasms with no strings attached.

Drewtate · Answer

A friends with benefits girl is a girl who is good enough to sleep with but not good enough for a serious relationship.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

The ultimate goal for many guys is to simply have sex, that's all.  Relationships entail a commitment that many aren't truly ready for.

Jc169 · Answer

I can only speak for myself , unfortunately my career does not give me the time that it takes to create a relationship , I love what I do and yes sometimes I would love to have the whole wife , kids , family thing , I’m sure one day when I’m older I will regret it but for now I love my career and I just like to keep my relationships benefits only

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Is same in London... No one is for "serious business" just pub, get drunk, fuck... get dressed and go home...🤷‍♂️, happens in "men's world too", not just in women's side...

red324 · Answer

I met a couple girls online that wanted to be boyfriend and girlfriend after like 2 dates. Seems kind of soon, aren't you supposed to go on like 5 or 6 dates before being official? Both those girls I had been on like 2 dates.

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

No strings attached = no stress. They get the sex with none of the nagging, drama, cheating, responsibility, etc.

thatshydork · Answer

Because hookup culture is popular and real relationships take a lot of work that some people aren’t willing to put in.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I'm in one right now and we both like the no strings attached situation and the ability to hook up with other people. We both love the incredible sex and great orgasms and are friends but nothing more at this time

Anonymous · Answer

i have been with many guys because i had friends with benefits until i found a boyfriend who i hadn't been friends with benefits with. so i didn't have to be alone when i was single

Why do men only want friends with benefits but not a girlfriend?

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