If I put you in a room with 100 random, single, age-appropriate men, chances are very high that you would not be interested in a relationship with the vast majority of them - you'd probably only have interest in 3-5 of those 100 guys, max, right? Does that mean the other 95-97 are bad people, or worthless, or unattractive? No, most of them aren't - they're simply men you didn't "click" with and feel emotions for.
Reverse this situation, and you'll likely have virtually identical results from men - men only develop an emotional connection with 3-5% of potential partners, the same as women. That doesn't make either sex bad or wrong, it's just how it is.
Now, while the above is true, there's one HUGE difference between men and women, and that is: women's SEXUAL interest is largely limited to men they have EMOTIONAL/romantic interest in - effectively, most women don't really want casual sex; they want to have sex with a romantic partner. This is NOT how men work. For men, sexual interest is IN NO WAY limited by their romantic interest. Sure, many men would PREFER sex within a romantic relationship, but when they haven't yet found a partner that they have romantic feelings for, they still very much want sex, and are perfectly happy to have casual sex until they can find a partner that they have romantic feelings for as well. For men, all that is necessary to have SEXUAL interest is to find the woman physically attractive - which is a MUCH lower bar to meet and a standard that is met by many, many more women than just those he has romantic feelings for.
The majority of single men don't really have or want female "friends" - the vast majority of time, that "friend" is a girl he wants to bang, and sometimes a girl he wants to be in a relationship with, but in almost no case is it a woman he just wants "as a friend." A guy in a relationship, or a guy who already gets laid a ton, can be "just friends" with women, but a single guy? That's pretty rare.
Women make a mistake when they believe that they can be "just friends" with single guys - and it's TRUE that the WOMEN can be, but the guys canNOT be, so, in the end, it's a lie. Men are biologically driven to spread their seed and fertilize eggs - it's our biological imperative - and that must always be taken into account when considering relationships with men.
My best advice for you, as a woman seeking a RELATIONSHIP with a man, is to learn to ask that question of the men you meet, and learn to filter them out quickly if they aren't interested in a relationship. Don't try to be "just friends" with them - simply move on. You should also realize that the more attractive and popular a guy is, the less likely he's going to be interested in a relationship with anyone - because really attractive/popular guys can get all the benefits of a relationship without having to have any of the liabilities or responsibilities of a relationship - so why would they want a relationship? "Relationship guys" tend to be more average guys, and NOT the guys that all your friends want to be with.
Why do women continue to believe that guys are okay with “friendships”. The ugly truth is women get a ton more out of a platonic friendship with a man than vice versa. MUCH more.
Straight men don’t approach women just “to be friends”. We can be friendly but not true friends.
There are definitely guys out there who want relationships. But if they show their intention too soon girls get turned off by that. We usually have to start romancing and have to make a move early or we get friendzoned.
Truth is I wouldn’t mind getting to know a woman for once and waiting for sex after we built up a connection. But every time. Every single fucking time I’ve tried that I always got the worse case outcome (friendzone).
Don't generalize and then proceed to ask about a specific person. Just because this guy doesn't want anything serious does not mean all guys want is only friends with benefits. You'll find a lot of guys wanting more than that, as long as you avoid the guys who don't, you'll be able to focus on the others.
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So not true... but in this highly over sexualized world we live.. we can't stay satisfied with a partner long enough for what ever reasons... one party or the other... always assume the worst of the other... Often turn out to be true.. so people abandon ship to other partner quite frequently.. so relationships turn to friends with benefits... so no one had to carry the stigma of being in a relationship.. . it's not worth the work someone better always turns up making one second guess the choice they made to be with who they r with.. issues after issue... then soon crave the feeling of being with some one new... break up.. n on and on... why have one guy full time when u can have many... all disposable n o fuss
because they dont like the responsibilities of a relationship, they just want pussy, its kinda fucked up how he just told you like that, dont give him the satisfaction and have sex with him now, seek for a relationship else where missy, dont take that shit, friendzone him and leave him there
"Friends dont have sex with each other."
To a guy, yes they do. It's more of a hangup girls have, guys generally see it as understandable to desire a friend. The problem is that "friend" means something different for men and women.
To a guy, a friend is someone who's company you can enjoy and hang out with.
To a girl, a "friend" seems to be definitionally someone you don't have sex with. Well that's your hangup, not mine, so you can't tell me how I feel about it.
A large percentage of men really only care about sex. If they can get sex without any commitment, that is like getting a book from a library that does not have to be returned until you feel like it. In that case, why buy the book?
Why do the men THAT I CHOOSE want only a friends with benefits and never a relationship?
There, fixed it for ya.
Guys don’t all think that, you’re just hanging around the wrong ones.
Commitment phob. It's a dude that likes you enough but not that much... sometimes a real psychological issue. I wouldn't go for a friends with benefits sitch.
You got one guy who dosent want any commitment, why tarnish all men?
Guys like no-strings-attached sex. They don't need anything else from girls.
"Men" don't, YOUR man did. Cuz he only wants sex, no commitment. Don't fall for this shtick.
Most of us do, with the right girl. But most chicks are crazy and sex is enough to keep us happy
Usually it means no chance. Something about you makes you undateable to him but you look good enough for sex.
I will tell you why, because girls like you want guys who use them, you can stop that shit and look for a more responsible man
We want relationships, but only with certain women.
Relationships take craploads of time, better just get the sex without the other time wasters.
Because you are dumb enough to allow this to happen.
The girl changes after the relationship starts shile the man stays the same, thats not the only point but its a big point
I want a never ending relationship. It's the low lifes of society that want fwb's
They want relationships. Just not with you.
You don't have enough to offer.
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