Can I get this tattooed
It's frustrating. This guy in question is my best friend and we've known each other for years. We finally started to fool around with each other back in 2016 and I grew attached and fell in love with him. He knows how I feel and after all this time he just now told me that he was going to keep things the way they have been and that we'd never have a real relationship, ya know like boyfriend and girlfriend.
Alright this is a different dynamic now that I know you fooled around with him. But just a question. How often do you hear straight guys refer to their galpals as a “best friend”? I’ve only heard husbands refer to their wives or fiancée as “best friends”. But never to a woman who isn’t more serious than that. Ever.
He's my best friend, he doesn't call me his.
Exactly. That’s my point. Why the he’ll do women insist on calling a guy they are not romantically (or no longer) involved with a “best friend”’? He’s not calling you that. Just like a relationship requires both people to mutually reciprocate, a “best friend” requires the same. Unless you are engaged or married to him quit calling him that. Friend is a four letter word. I’m just sick and tired how women want men to understand them more but little/zero effort vice versa. This is not a friendship especially a “best” friendship.
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Oof, but this is true. I second this.Why invest more in the relationship if the man already gets what he wants?
I don't want to be used. I want a relationship, can't help who you fall in love with
That's why I advice you, even that I know it's hard, to control your emotions and to move on. Don't let the guy use you, if you aren't ok with the "friends with benifts" term. Loving somebody, who sees you only as a friends, is the most painful thing to feel.