Why do most guys choose friends with benefits over relationship?

[Anonymous]

A guy I really liked only wants to be friend with benefits but I declined. he said he don't want a relationship with nobody. He said im cute, attractive, good body and successful with good goals while independent being a nursing student and a medical major. I mean do most guys mean what they say when they tell you they don't want a relationship?

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Based off how many guys say this how many of you actually didn't stick to your decision?

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Has any guy said this to you? Did he mean it?

[Anonymous]

friends with benefits is a better situation for a guy than a relationship, by a long shot. (So yes, we mean it when we say we don't want relationships).

Some numbers for you (they come from the US Census Bureau and other US government sources):

50% of marriages end in divorce.
67% of divorces are filed by women.
When alimony is awarded, men pay 97% of the time.
84% of child support is paid by men (also take that to imply that custody of children is given to women almost by default).

Now anecdotal stuff/stuff I don't have time to cite (check on your own to corroborate)

Many women turn their children against the father.
They don't let the father see the children.
They abuse the money he is forced to pay her, including child support funds.
She usually gets the place of residence. I know a man who lost the house he built with his own hands while her lover moved in, and the ex husband was homeless for over a year.

Other things from www.cdc.gov

When sexual violence is accounted for in all its forms (including some things which are technically, from legal language, not rape, but are common sense as rape), there's about 1.28 million assaulted women per year, and 1.26 million men--but no one talks about the men. And the offenders? 55% men, 45% women (no one talks about female offenders).

25% of relationships are violent. But in those 71% of the offenders are women, NOT men (you wouldn't imagine that based on media reports, would you), and men are injured more than women (25% men, 20% women). But of course, men are the ones who get arrested and blamed for situations of domestic violence. Only 1% of domestic violence shelters give support to men.

So basically, why the Fuck would we get ourselves tied to one girl when things are so overwhelmingly awful for us in relationship scenarios? friends with benefits let's us get sex and female company with relatively smaller risk, turnover before she becomes a problem, and time to go toward more rewarding interests.

[truthbeknown]

Holy shit dude, this is the single best post I have read on here yet! I am breaking up with my girlfriend right now!!!

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the sentiment @truthbeknown, although I doubt it ultimately means anything to have spent the time typing it.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO.

Just to be clear my complaint "I doubt it ultimately means anything to have spent the time typing it" was more about society at large, not a petition for your attention. But I appreciate it all the same.

[marcotomas]

Honesty just depends on the person. He may just want to stay single for a while. Either way, even though I'm sure it hurts now, it was probably for the best that he was upfront with you about what he wanted instead of stringing you along and ultimately breaking your heart or cheating. Sometimes people can get along great and be physically attracted to each other and just not be compatible in a more serious relationship.

[Asker]

He said he liked me that kinda threw me off lol

[dangimconfused]

Because so many people give it up workout being in a relationship. So now, guys just wants the benefits of a relationship without being in one.

[Asker]

Ya I was thinking that. He says he like me but can't have a relationship with me or anyone else right now he just looking for frienfs with benefits. He didn't get mad at my reject everything is still the same. He said he also like I got respect for myself

[dangimconfused]

Sounds like he's not that into you. He just wanted to have sex with you be causes your cute with a good body.

[Asker]

Well I added the not with me on there since he said he didn't want a relationship right now I thought it was saying the same thing lol but he said it could change

[HyperOrphic]

Because it has the benefits of a relationship without the responsibility and expectation.

[Theguyoverthere]

Hooking up is one of those things a guy is willing to do when he doesn't see himself dating you. It could be any reason. This is just something girls typically differ with. A guy is willing to hook up with a girl uncommitted but you won't find many girls willing to. The ones willing to almost always keep it on the DL as it is.

[Asker]

Ya he said he would be with me but he don't want a relationship with no girl he respected my decision and he didn't get mad.,, everything is still fine with U. S. and normal

[Prof_Don]

Some guys like being able to have sex without the complications and investment of a relationship.

I don't see anything wrong with friends with benefits as long as both parties are open and honest about it.

[meatballs21]

Obvious answer: Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

Less obvious: Guys don't want to settle right away. They're afraid of losing their freedom.

[kaminalove]

Too much responsibility

[MaddieSouthpurple]

They want fun not commitment

[skeptic007]

because women are issues