I think we have all been there on both sides of your question either we. Stop seeing our friends to be with our new girlfriend or boyfriend... Or our friend stop seeing us because they I have a new girlfriend.. Or Boy friend.. my experiences it's just a matter of time it's usually puppy love our first time boyfriend girlfriend it's something new trying to be grown up adults and they're experiencing new emotions and they want to be committed probably nine times out of 10 Within one 10 to 12 months your friend will be back should be calling you crying because this guy was a jerk and she really miss you and just about then she'll either be getting a new boyfriend are you will be getting a boyfriend and nine times out of 10 within 1 to 12 months you will be calling her crying saying this guy was a jerk can we meet you be friends I miss you it's just a part of growing up it's something that we've all gone through or finding ourselves so as for your question you're just on the wrong in this time you are committed good friend and you don't understand why your friend is not picking you over him and it hurts and it should it's how you handle it that will make you become a better person in life any kind of pain that we feel through our heart if we learn something from it we become a way better person don't worry she will be back with all these terrible stories just give her a hug tell her you miss her and let's see what happens when the shoes on your foot what you do no you forget about your friend when you get your boyfriend or can you maintain both friendships
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When a girl meets a boy and falls in love, she goes through a honeymoon phase. She feels in love, giddy, happy, content to have him around, and she tends to put her friends aside for this period of time. Its easy to feel betrayed, lost and lonely because your friend is not spending all of her time with her new boyfriend. Its not personal, she still loves you, and sometimes she might need to be reminded that she is forgetting about you. But you know what? one big fight with her boyfriend and she will come running to you, everytime!
Many people do this, and not just girls.
I guess it just happens because the person is excited about their partner, to the point where they sort of forget about everyone else.
I don’t like people who are like that so I make a very conscious effort to keep in touch with all of my friends, and to not let my boyfriend get in the way of seeing them. Neither would I like it if my boyfriend cancelled plans with his friends just to hang out with me (unless it was for a serious reason and not just to chill).
I think you can put your partner first but still be able to give your friends attention. I think putting your partner first means being there for them when it’s serious and making sure you’re not neglecting them. It doesn’t mean hanging out 24/7 and not having a life outside of what you and your partner do together. You can still make time for your friends without neglecting your partner or making it seem like you don’t prioritize them.
I just think that in a situation like that, the person forgets how important it is to keep in touch with friends, especially if the relationship is new, because they’re so excited about this new thing they’re experiencing and this new person they’re falling in love with.
As a friend I think it would be perfectly fine to remind your friend that you want to hang out more often and that you don’t want your friend’s relationship to keep you from seeing each other or talking to one another.
My friends are kind of selfish when it comes to me and my boyfriend. I have more time with them than I have with my boyfriend, but they keep complaining that we never have enough time. I would want to do something and then my boyfriend would come along and they would be super quick to yank me out of his arms and say stuff like, "She loves me more, hoe!" And stuff like that to get him mad. But, as soon as they are around a guy they like, they forget about me so I just stay with my boyfriend and they get mad and everything. It never fails with my friends that are girls. My guy friends are chill with it and they usually encourage it while sharing that, "He's pulling" smile with my boyfriend. It's just that most women are very catty and get jealous easily. I'm quick to say so and even say that I'm catty at times myself. It's how women are, but when my friends get mad now for me wanting to be with my boyfriend, I just roll my eyes and say, "Go drool over [crush's name]" and know that they'll get over it - they usually do. And it's funny, when we hang out, we just insult each other and get on each other's nerves.
maybe because they feel like they've had friends their whole life long (in the most case) and having a bf/gf is something new and something you've been looking forward to your whole youth or maybe were even imagining it when you've been a child with your friends. what what I used to do when I was little, pretending to be some celebrity friends and having bf's already. and when tgat SO suddenly is there, many feel like they've finally achieves that "goal". by the way you kinda grow a stronger bond to your boyfriend / girlfriend bc obviously y'all are getting more intimidate with each other than you would with friends. and that person is someone you wanna spend the rest of your life with like you've had this in the corner of your brain somewhere the whole time. so yea. I don't know. would not make my friends feel less when taken though bc friends good friends are worth so much.
Some people become incredibly attached to their SO's to the point where they cannot function or be happy on their own and then they neglect other people. It's something some people do not even realize they do. It's unhealthy and lead to co dependency
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Well, let's examine the photo typical of everyday life. The lady in the background actually looks quite happy with her man while her cock-blocking friend in the foreground seems utterly miserable. That's not too say she's a bad person, however, just that she likely pushes good men away herself, what tiny fraction of which hasn't already turned into assholes. And so this exudes upon all those in her social circles, a problem which no amount of money, makeup, or social media likes or followings can solve. Inevitably, what happens is that those who can finally short circuit their own in-built illogical paradigms will begin to bridge the chasm,... on the same wavelength and with the right person. Much like her lady friend to the left. While it does take time, in it you'll find that each respective party isn't [as much] of a delusional "fixer-upper" so to speak as they are one another's long-lost perfect fit, and so everything else kind of takes a back seat in the premise of that. And when you've waited a third, or quite possibly half of a lifetime to find it, going out for drinks and gossiping about absolutely nothing important, or seldom anyways, just isn't as fun anymore, becoming something of a repetive bore that has lost its intriguing value. Again, this doesn't necessarily mean that she can't make time for friends, only that she'll probably have less of it to waste, if that's what they normally do.
The Illusion of Love...
Don't get wrong now, once a Cocktail Waitress and I got acquainted when she waited on a friend and I. I could feel the mutual attraction and honestly, it was live at first sight. I was leaving with my friend out the the parking lot to our cars and I could not stop thinking of the experience, primarily the energy or feeling that was still in the air. I went back in, gave her my number and the next night she stayed at my place. For the next 45 days or so she slept next to me. I moved in with her the following day after our first night apart. Needless to say, the relationship lasted 5 months.
(Hopefully I made this mistake so that anyone who is reading will choose not to follow in my missteps)
I would have not spoken to anyone I had ever loved or cared about to stay with her during those wild months.
What I'm actually trying to say is that although I was experiencing genuine bliss and ecstacy, I certainly believed, yes, we were "that"in love. It was just an illusion though. What I had identified as love was actually the abyss, that veiled pit of lust and sorrow where the 😈 resides.If your not being a problematic friend and letting her be with her boyfriend and not making her pick sides then yes its pretty shitter for her to do that. My ex best friend literally is a piece of crap and I'm tired of her always picking other people over me just recent I had enough and ended it. I'm tired how picks people to friend with that always seems to dislike me for no reason and she always forcing me to hang out with them. But she refuses to hang out with my friend that I enjoy hanging out with. If someone picks someone over you and you literally do anything wrong fuck them. They are just dramatic and waste of oxygen.
This happens all the time and the people who do it are making big mistakes. Boyfriends and girlfriends will come and go but good friends are far and few between. I made the mistake when I was in highschool of alienating my friends just because had a girlfriend that I basically devoted 100% of my time too. And I'm absolutely straightforward when I give my opinions so the reason I gave her a hundred percent of my time was because I was getting laid. Yeah I know I guess it's a pretty important thing in high school but then you grow up in your realize that your friends are the people who have your back for life. Your true friends. Not boyfriends and girlfriends who will come and go and come and go and come and go.
I really don't know. That happened with me and my friend. We used to be so close but after a week of her dating her new boyfriend everything changed. We planed things like road trips in of senior summer and suddenly it's "oh me and boyfriend decided to do something else" or when we had been talking about going to this movie for forever "oh me and my boyfriend are going that tonight." And stuff that just shows they don't care about the plans we made together. I hate myself a little for wishing terrible things on her for it but I really want to support them too...
It goes the other way, too. I went from seeing my guy friend every day to flat out not seeing him at all for over two months right after his first date with his new girl.
New relationships require more maintenance than established friendships. It comes down to the fact that they've already got you, but they have to work on keeping someone new. You're still going to be there. If they don't pay attention to their significant other, that person might just give up and walk away. It sucks, but it's how it is.Its just love and life sometimes, you find someone that your closer with other than your friend but just on a romantic level. Girls just don't like feeling left out of something when they use to everything with their friend. It happens, and even the friend who feels forgotten will eventually find someone they will end up getting closer with too other than their friend. It happened with my friend, she got pregnant and is also expected another kid. Life and relationships just take you different ways, plus women tend to do this cause of love and they don't want to loose their partner.
Not all do. Two reasons, one the guy really might be more level headed and have more potential then her friends. Or the girl feels so low of herself that she thinks she'll never get anyone better than the guy so she has to fuck her friends over to be with him. When in fact it has nothing to do with the guy in really. Nothing negative anyway. She sees something in him that's better than her friends. It maybe true or it maybe her distortions because of lack of self confidence. If it's confidence it won't last as she will cheat the first time she sees another hot guy. Because she is using him to fill a void that was caused in youth or in the past. Once a hotter guy comes around she will use him and the next guy and so forth. Eventually she will see what a wreck she is and come back to her friends. Now the onus is on you, do you stick by her or tell her to fuck herself.. that's up to you.
Everyone retracts fro. Friendships a little when they are in a relationship. You become infatuated with them, you are busy learning them, and of course you're having sex, and sex is fun.
Now, it's not fair to completely cut someone out of your life because you are in a relationship, bit you do have to make time for your significant other as well.
If they have been ghosting you, and you are mature adults, perhaps mention that you miss them and want to spend time with your friend.
Understand that things won't go back to how they were, but there is definitely a happy medium to be reachedIt seems odd right. I can't imagine just dropping all my friends because I fall in love, much less because I just got a girlfriend. I also just think that's unhealthy, that only one person takes all your time and attention. There needs to be a balance. I have the friends I have because I need them, as they provide me with homes away from home and a space to let loose. I feel that's something I'll still somewhat need even in a relationship. But I see it happen a decent amount, with both guys and girls. Just dropping friends once they're in a relationship. Like I said, it doesn't seem that healthy to me
I'm assuming that you mean *all* the time without fail, or else it wouldn't be an issue. With that assumption in mind, I would say it's because this girl is insecure in herself, maybe emotionally immature, is dating for the wrong reasons, and is desperate to have a man in her life, so she does whatever she has to please him. People who don't love themselves, people who define their worth by how an SO treats them, are more likely to do this.
I know that this was me when I was younger and didn't love myself.Well I can say the opposite happened and she chose her friends over me and I knew her longer.
But if I had to give my opinion it has to do with they are happy and they wanna show they are their for their man. You as a friend are there as moral support in a way. You convey your feelings to your friend, they are gonna do what they want. They probably think of it as this guy could be the one. So all of the attention and focus is on them. You may have always been there for your friend. Just keep showing uour support and let her know you wanna hang out. Like a girls dayI really can't speak for other people because I think everyone has their own reasons, but I chose my boyfriend turned husband over my friends. My friends were never happy for me when I was doing well. Obviously, I find that I made the correct choice because now I'm married and pregnant and my friends are god knows where doing god knows what.
I agree when we find a partner who we fall in love with we want to spend as much time together as possible which is natural however your good true friends are equally important because if your relationship goes through a rough patch or ends who you going to run or turn to for support and advise, your friends, if you snub them off then they won't be there for when you need them, they will just see it as your using them because its all gone in your relationship and only now you tap up your friends for advise
My husband has been there for me while I've gone through things that my friends can't even fully comprehend, so in the friendship hierarchy, he always comes first. Not because he was my boyfriend, fiance, or husband, but because he was my absolute best friend (and therefore worth marrying). Anything less and I'd have been with my friends more and the relationship wouldn't have made it.
I choose my boyfriend (ex) over some friends, but not all of them. When I date I usually date guys that were my friends befire that, and guys that I knew, so in a way they are friends too, and for example he was a better friends than some but maybe not better than my best friend so I pick her over him.
When it comes to being plain "friends", it involves fun, being helpful, studying together, playing, and doing so much stuff together. But, a boyfriend gets into a space, where the friends cannot get into. There is mental and physical attraction & in most cases physical intimacy, which creates a stronger bond more than anyone amongst any of her friends. Hence, the Gal makes this natural choice (as long as the relationship is sweet and has not touched rough waters). Cheers. 😇💕
- Friends come and go, but family is always there for you.
- As we start to grow older, we start to have less time for friends, as responsibilities begin to pile up, we don't look forward to meeting our friends as we used to.
- Boyfriend / Husband is someone who you are going to spend the rest of your life with and would be there for you when you need them, hence making them a priority.
I can keep on going, but you get the idea.In my opinion, people love to try new things qnd make the best out of it. They prefer to be "supernatural" other than mediocre. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is considered a new, temporary experience that people would like to make the best out of it. A person would prefer going to a beach (for the first time in two years) with her family over staying at her friend's house for the night. Specefying, a girl would like to go on a date with her boyfriend other than spending a normal time with her friends.
I hope you got what I am saying here 😂.I think it depends on the girl, just as it would with a guy. Some people value friendship over relationships or a healthy mix of both but some people put too much emphasis on one and when one aspect of their lives let's them down they turn wholeheartedly on to the other.
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