Dating a girl, but how can I tell if she is being to nice to say no?

[ryang04]

How can I tell if a girl is actually interested in a relationship or just being too nice to say no because she doesn’t want to hurt me. We have been on about 6 dates already and I don’t feel like that when I’m with her because we are very open but over text I just have this feeling like she’s trying to spare my feelings. There is nothing wrong with our texts the conversation just flow. I know I have anxiety and am definitely an over thinker and that’s probably what I’m doing I just want to know what some signs are.

[HollyK21]

You should really try not to put so much emphasis on texting styles vs your actual, in-person hang outs. Not everyone is big on excessive, lengthy, and/or back to back texting, and I think that’s so important to consider before judging how they correspond through those means.


From the time my fiancé and I started dating to now, we have never been big on texting. Before moving in together, we’d send a text in the morning, call around lunch when our schedules aligned, or to confirm plans for the evening. That’s it. Does your relationship with this woman rely heavily on texting? Like it’s an LDR or you just aren’t able to talk on the phone? If so then maybe you should work on getting rid of texting or the most part and shifting into more in-person or on the phone conversations.

[melnc]

What's even making you feel that way?
Six dates in, and things are going fine. If she wasn't feeling it, she would've bounced already trust me, women don't stick around out of pity. I think you're just in your head, scared of getting hurt or rejected. But here's the real talk,, the best move you can make is to stop being a spectator in your own situation.


Step up, own your space, and work on your confidence. Because honestly? It looks like she's actually open to seeing where this goes but she's not gonna hand it to you on a silver platter. She wants to see if you've got substance, not just sweet talk.
Right now, she's watching how you carry yourself, how you react, how you handle uncertainty.

[Nikki1989]

I stopped taking any of this seriously once you mentioned texts. Clueless.

[slatyb]

This is a you problem -- you don't feel worthy in general. This can be hard to overcome by yourself. Have you considered professional counseling?

[exitseven]

if you are on date number 6 she is not just being nice to you.