It's very confusing, there is this girl I have met and talked to in school recently, and they are receptive to me when it comes to talking and having conversations. They give me eye contact, smile, and they ask me questions back in return, like they engage me in the conversation. I do not know if they are single or taken already. Also there is this other girl who I have just seen around campus, and she has smiled at me and said Hi to me, and yet I have never even met her before or spoken to her yet. I don't know if she is just being friendly, or if she is interested in me. Anyway, how can I tell if a girl is just being friendly to me, or is actually interested in me, that she likes she me?
I some people will say that if a girl smiles at you and says Hi to you out of nowhere, they say "grow a pair and go up and talk to her". Yeah I will, but I want to make sure how she perceives me first, I don't want to get teased or led on.
my bad, spelling error in the last sentence, I meant "how can I tell if a girl is just being friendly to me, or is actually interested in me, that she likes me?"
Do most guys ask a girl for her phone number even if they are not sure if the girl is just being friendly or when they are sure that the girl likes him? Is it the same way with asking a girl out? Do most guys just go for it even if they are not sure?
Lastly, so what are the obvious signs in which a girl is just being polite, friendly? or if she actually likes the guy, is attracted to him, is waiting for him to ask her out or for her number.
I would like more responses and answers please.
I have a hard time reading a girl's non-verbal hints.
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Im kinda shy and I come off as being polite sometimes but If I really like the guy I'll hang around and eventually strike up a conversation I glance at him constantly and smile all teeth showing if I'm really intrested I'll say hi even if I don't know his name but the thing is its all in the eyes. Do her eyes kinda sparkle when she says hi or holds eye contact with you longer than normal then that's how you know. When I don't like a guy I and he likes me in that way I ignore him don't smile don't say hi if I can't avoid talking to him I just give him a polite tight liped smile no teeth showing and no emotion in my eyes. But just approach her first strike up a convo if she tilts her head to the side and laughs at things you say ( not the polite laugh I'm hoping you know how that sounds) but a robust laugh or if she giggles that's pretty much a sign that she likes you and is waiting for you to ask for her number.
Man I guess that means I should not bother asking those girls out that I mentioned, or asking them for their number, because they don't give the signs you mentioned.
Sorry If I ruined your hope but remember this is the way I flirt cause I'm shy
Seriously, why do us guys have to work so hard just to get a decent girl to go out on a date with us?
Lol! I know what you mean why do I have to work so hard when to attract a guy when I'm so obviously available it fustrates me.
How do girls have to work hard to attract a guy?
Normally, when a girl smiles and says hi to her, she's wanting you to come up to her and make the next move. Try going up to her and start a conversation. You can tell if she likes you if she touches you, laughs at all of your jokes, and looks deeply into your eyes, and through body language. If you catch her touching her hair in any way (i.e. stroking, combing, moving it away from her face and shoulders) while talking to you, that's one sign she is interested in you.
How come girls are not so blunt and blatantly honest when they like a guy? Why do girls like to make it so hard for a guy to understand her hints?
Sometimes we're just really shy, and can't outwardly express our feelings. It's the same thing with guys. A lot of girls seem to just wait for the guy to make the move. We tell ourselves that if the guy is really interested in us, he would approach us.
Yeah but us guys get scared too, we may like you, but we may not be able to tell if you like us in return.
I know... Dating is just nerve-wracking for both sides, and it's so complicated. That's how it seems to me, anyways. It would be nicer if it were more simple. I think fear of rejection is what gets to us and is what holds us back. I know it's been holding me back for the longest time, which is why I never had a boyfriend or been on a date.
Well I am in your situation too, except I am probably older, I am 21 years old and I have never had a girlfriend. Every girl that I make an effort to pursue and ask out is always taken already.
i think there is a difference.
someone who is just being polite wouldn't take time to be with you. will smile at you but it will easily fade...you'll feel that there's nothing.
if she keeps on staring at you, looking at you, and making long eye contacts while smiling then she probably does like you.
but for shy girl, idk, it's just hard to tell...maybe they would talk to you less and make less eye contact and they will be very awkward and nevervous around you if they like you.