How do I rebuild trust after my fiancé flirted with other women?

[Sadie63827]

My fiancée and I have been together for 6 months and it seemed like we were very deeply in love, but after months of him being suspicious that I was cheating, I finally went through HIS phone and discovered two different occasions where he had met a girl at a bar and gotten her number, then made plans with her and blocked after.

Now I have decided to try to forgive him because I really love him and he did seem sincerely sorry, and he never slept with either of them from my knowledge, but though it has been a couple months I am still very resentful of the situation and every time he makes plans with his friends I get really mad in fear that he will cheat again.

what do I do now? Will it ever get better?

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle messy heart stuff and spot real red flags vs fixable issues.

Your fiancé was accusing you while he was low-key flirting and collecting numbers. That’s classic projection and a legit red flag, even if he didn’t sleep with them.

If you stay, rebuilding trust needs actions, not apologies. Total phone transparency, clear boundaries with women, no more “bar pickups,” and him owning that he broke the relationship, not you being “insecure.”

Resentment is your intuition screaming. If his behavior changes consistently over time, it can get better. If it’s just lovebombing, guilt, and “trust me” with no real change, you’ll stay stuck in anxiety every time he goes out.

[sage2021]

I don't think it's possible to regain your trust for him anymore because you're always going to be on high alert now. Going through his phone, wondering where he was, etc.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t see how you could be engaged with somebody after six months. I don’t think you should get married at this time. You need to have a serious discussion with him
And you both don’t trust each other

[Nikki1989]

He is a man. What were you expecting?

[bowenw]

It's up to him to rebuild the trust. If you aren't feeling it, you probably never will.

[LC75LC71]

Let's see here.. Already engaged before 6 months after being suspicious of each other in such a short time? People like y'all keep di

[LC75LC71]

*divorce lawyers in business* Damn wireless keyboard.. Feel free to talk shit about my old ass not being able to handle tech!

[Anonymous]

How does he look